This one is for the ladies. What are you looking for in a profile on this site? Should we all (the gentlemen) just be honest? Would you rather us approach you with messages, or just sit back and wait for you to contact us?

messages by im , no, emails yes as they do not demand for your attention right then and there ! Just be you

If you read a profile
that caught your interest, then you need to
contact the person, without doing that,
how else would you know

If there is anything I've learned about women, or people in general, is that no one really knows what they want. We all have a picture of the perfect "fill in the blank", but as soon as we obtain it, we realize just how flawed it is.

For instance, I'm sure your about to get a whole bunch of ladies saying a guy who is nice, caring, kind, smart, funny, etc, when the perfect man they describe would soon become a bore, as he is too perfect.

If I email someone and they don't respond I just forget about them.

You're going to get a bunch of different answers considering how many are on this site..

For me it's the honesty and humor in the profile... But it must not appear weak or angry at women.. Of course there has to be attraction physically and mentally... I prefer to be contacted and from there things will usually flow.. If I'm interested I will give my time and go out of my way to say hi if I think it's mutual and he's not a player.. I do not like to be stalked, it's stalking if the interest isn't there whether it's on the man's part or the woman's...

I do not want perfect , I want someone as messed up as me !

Yes, I think the men should approach us by email if there is an interest and then IM. By all means, be truthful from the beginning. If she/he can't handle the truth then it wouldn't work anyways.

No one is perfect.....and not all woman are looking for the same thing in a guy...You have to be yourself to be happy..not what a woman wants you to be.....Don't put any pressure on yourself have fun meeting people and ya never know.....
Nothing ventured...nothing gained...

Absolutely..

it is definitely up to the guy to make the first contact, its good to use the mutual match and just keep messaging, eventually someone gets interested in you and messages you back

IndnPrns...another smart woman....

Hey now I am purphect... Oh dang see what you did, you made me make a mistake now I am no longer perfect...

Its so easy to judge people based upon thier own meandering experiences as people but it is the mistakes and flaws of any relationship that inevitably make it perfect to at least two individuals.and in the end, isn't that all that really matters? perfection in the end is something that is an imperfect term. I promise you almost nothing I've just said is the perfect way to look at things, even to me.

In the end there is only one thing you need to when trying to find out what women want.....ask.

Thanks Nonchalant <hug>

You can ask and women can tell but the truth is we don't know 100% just like no one is perfect we don't always know what we want.. We do however, know what we DON'T want... Sometimes a person touches you in a way that makes you want/like/appreciate something that you never thought you would/could or that it mattered...

I'M SURE HE'S HERE SOME WHERE

I hope me

I hope me

There is nothing that will "Make" you feel anything. Everything has to be volintary with feeling. If you want to feel love you have to feel some kind of pain. And i know nobody knows what they want, but not knowing what you want can be exciting...like having second thoughts about if you should jump off the plane right before you jump in skydiving.

You don't have to know 100% what you want. you just have to know if your willing to work for it. and i'm confused about the term "touched"? I've never heard it explaned that way, would you mind elaborating IndnPrncs?