I have seen a LOT of very good advice, on this forum...here is one for
ya! My bf, who I met here, and who I have dated,in person plus talk
with, for hours, every night, wants to begin a very serious relationship
with marriage, the whole thing. I say we should move a little slower,
but he lives 4 hours away and to see each other, face to face, everyday
is impossible { thus the talking on the phones until my ears hurt} He
wants me to get married and move in with him, there where he lives or he
is willing to relocate to my area...if any of you were in my shoes, and
you KNEW FOR A FACT that you were TRUELY IN LOVE WITH HIM, what would
you do? What would you say, to him? What?

DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT IN YOUR HEART. THE WAY I SEE IT AT MY AGE HELL I'M
NOT GONNA LET ONE SLIP THROUGH MY FINGERS IF I LOVE HIM NOW I WOULD MOVE
IN FOR A BIT FIRST AND SEE THE TRUE PERSON BEFORE I WOULD SAY ANY I DO'S
6 MONTHS AT LEAST. THEN GO FROM THERE DON'T BITE OFF MORE THAN YOU CAN
CHEW RIGHT OFF THE BAT!!

I get a lot of people tell me that I should ''test the waters, 1st'' by
moving in, with him, for awhile, and see how it goes from there. He
seems to love me, as well, by the things he has done and saids.

Good luck!

well girl I thought the same thing 2 months later it was off and he was
gone lol so good luck

TY VERY MUCH, Tex and Chica!

Truth, I wish I had your problem.Right now I'm dealing with a 19 year
old who loves me. Now! what am I supposed to do.

I agree with Gal, my last GF and I lived together almost a year till we
realized it wasn't right. Give it some time and don't rush into
anything.

G

txs. has the right idea....

Hi again! Will I just got off the phone with my bf after talking to him
since 8pm and it was 11:15 pm when we said bye...the shortest talk
because he has to get up early and go to work. The Q is this NOW...How
can you tell the diffence between a ''control freak'' and a ''clingish
type person'' ?

look in the mirror your both does he look like you or act like you? if
he does your in deep shit

ICE PLAY NICE! LMAO!

i am thats my opinion your a clingy control freak and if acts like you
your in deep shit i'm not being mean i wish you all the best

You need to resolve these questions before you even think of anything
long term. If he is a control freak he could be a nightmare in the long
run, and clingy is real hard too. Sounds like a Texas' suggestion for a
trial run is a good idea. Test the waters first. Don't know what the
work situation is, may be an issue if it costs you a job though. I
would go really slow with this one. My 2 cents.

LMAO WHAT BF? LMAOROF

lol,lol

TY MARIE! I am going to take everyone's advice and take it slow, even
though he wants to speed it up...LOL! LOL! Maybe ''living in sin'' for
two weeks...two months...ect would be ok since I am a three time looser,
anyways....LMAO!

IL agree with you on the three tims LMAO

Personally, I would wonder why he is pushing so fast, if it is real, it
will last. Two weeks or two months isn't much time, others even said
they had been together a year and it still fell apart. The pushy ones
do sound controlling. Look deep inside yourself and decide what it is
you really want for yourself and don't let yourself get "talked into"
something you really don't want just because you are lonely. Hope
things work out the way you want. Take care.

TY Mar! You sound ''right on''! ALL of my ex's have been Control Freaks,
but from what I am seeing, out there, now days,guys who are NOT married
because of divorce, are the VERY ONES who ARE CONTROL FREAKS....Is
there a test to give the bf's to see if they may be a 'control freak'
BEFORE you get serious?