In order for a relationship to truly bloom, we have to understand each other.

Countless people have miserable relationships.
I've had a few.
And from my experience, I have realized why things have fallen through.

So, here's what I've concluded:

1. You need to understand each other. There is no way around this if you want to be happy in a relationship. People will ***** and complain about their love just up and leaving them one day because the lover "needed some time" or "was too confused". You get the idea.
We need to understand each other first. We need to know what we are capable of, and what we are not capable of. We need to know what keeps the person going. We need to know who they are.

2. Communication is the key. This goes hand in hand with understanding, and it is the most fundemental tool.
Even though this is the most common answer to keeping relationships going, a lot of people don't seem to use it to their advantage. If your lover is being a bit sneaky, and you expect that he or she is doing something that you should know about, talk with them. Be calm, let them know how you feel, and find a resolution. It's not that hard, people.

3. Stop dwelling on past relationships.
Don't bring up the past to compensate for the present.
Don't bring old problems into a new situation.
Chances are, the other person is going to get tired of hearing about how you were mistreated, used, or walked all over.
Don't dwell. With a new lover comes a clean slate.
It's up to you to keep it clean.

4. Understand yourself.
This is the most important thing. This is what gets the relationship on the ball.
We begin to see problems building up when we don't know ourselves. We tend to become confused, we may become too clingy, or we may just be completely uncertain.
We can not full understand ourselves, but at least try to know who you are, what you stand for, and what you want.

I believe I've touched upon this enough for now.