Red flags are warning signs that we sometimes do not pay attention to out of the need to be a nice, understanding person. If they have names like Queen, Princess, King, or Prince it may be a red flag. To me this all screams high maintenance with little ability.

So names in themselves can be red flags. Sometimes people will pick names that are the exact opposite of how they are. If they are talking to 15 other people at the same time they are talking to you then I guess you are just not that important, red flag.

If they have excuses for everything that happens in order to avoid admitting it happened it could be a red flag. If they point at everyone else-s problems and not their own it could be another red flag. Similarly if they have to put others down in order to feel good about themselves then, warning warning, red flag.

Don't get me wrong my friends red flags can be flown by anyone. Everyone makes mistakes and are capable of poor judgment. It is the rate and intensity of the red flags that separates them from a normal slip up. If they do not care, that is a big red flag.

If they constantly tell stories of how they are a perpetual victim it may be red flagged. If they are not nice to themselves then there is something going on in the red flag department. Sure people can come in and out of phases, but a person in the phase of not liking themselves is not easy to watch for anyone with a heart.

There is nothing we can do about the red flagged fools, ignore them. Do not respond in any way, often that is what they are looking for, a response or reason to bicker. What can a person do if we do or say nothing at all? I could have went off in many directions and expanded on this topic but will just leave it as is and post it (lazy writer).

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In short, you're describing narcissists

About 20 years ago a recently divorced friend asked me to go to a gathering for an AOL divorcee support group, the intent of the group was, in part, for match-making.

For the first two hours I wandered the group and it seemed like every single conversation was about how their ex had wronged them, no one apparently had any role in the wrongs themselves.

I spent the rest of the time there watching PPV movies at the room, my friend met his next ex-wife there, the marriage lasted less than a year.

This opening post is great, granted, we all have one or two of those red flags on occasion, it's a life saver to avoid too many of them.

I look for compatibility when looking to date someone, if there are going to be any red flags I have found I become aware of them without really looking for them when emailing or chatting. However, I agree, there are some red flags that really stand out for most people, but we are not all the same, and a red flag to one person is not one to another.
Good luck in your search.

I don't go for just a handsome face when contacted.
I notice character first.

A man contacted me today! I wrote back a short message. Then he wrote I didn't understand what you wrote, can we talk on the phone.

I did read his profile. He was handsome dude.


So I blocked him.