Hun mine and yours might be related. My guy does the same thing. I hate to admit this, but sometimes I lie and tell him I have plans; and then when he calls to do his "checking up" I don't answer the phone (thank God for caller ID). You either want me or you don't. He's 47 yrs old make up your mind. I don't know what's wrong with either of them.

perhaps, i guess it is a sign of old fashioned manners to expect a guy to ask you out, just like a guy was supposed to proposing, but now a days, you just never know.

Some guys play that game, 'cause when they are asking you out, you seem more in control of the relationship, which of course we women are.

i also thought this was about a "hard" topic, lol...

What I meant by "hard" is his masculinity; having such a hard emotionless personality. I guess I left out some details.

I have been seeing him for almost 2 years now. He works out of town mostly and stays busy when in town. This has gotten worse with the new job since we met. I try to be available for him when he calls and told him so. I leave it for him to call when he is available.

I've always known he didn't really want a relationship because of the time he can't give but thought I could change that by being patient. I think I'm going to take the advice to move on but he is the type I can keep as a friend.

Thanks guys for all your input.

I'm now officially a free agent!!!