Topic: meeting the parents
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Sat 12/29/07 03:07 PM
Edited by daniel48706 on Sat 12/29/07 03:10 PM
When do you feel you should meet a persons parents? At the beginning of a relationship? AFTER you have been dating a while, and know something is there? Or just plain never cause your mother is an insane butcherknife wielding maniac and your father drools all over himself?


Call me old-fashioned but I believe the man should still meet the ladies parents prior to his taking her out at all. not to get their permission or blessing, but as a way to break the ice, and also this way, someone knows where the lady will be (to a point anyway) and when she expects to be home.

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Sat 12/29/07 03:09 PM
I think you should meet family whenever everyone's comfortable with it. Kids, they're another issue. Mine doesn't meet anyone until I know for sure it's a very serious relationship. I won't have people coming and going from his life unnecessarily. flowerforyou

My mother's nuts, but I do warn people of that laugh laugh laugh

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Sat 12/29/07 03:11 PM

I think you should meet family whenever everyone's comfortable with it. Kids, they're another issue. Mine doesn't meet anyone until I know for sure it's a very serious relationship. I won't have people coming and going from his life unnecessarily. flowerforyou

My mother's nuts, but I do warn people of that laugh laugh laugh


lol I meant the parents hun not the kids. I tend to agree with you about not meeting the kids immediately :smile:

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Sat 12/29/07 03:13 PM
I figured that, just thought I'd throw it in :tongue: Seriously, when it's right, it's right. I've been dating someone for 4 months and we haven't met each other's family yet. More through circumstance than anything, but still. No great rush.

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Sat 12/29/07 03:13 PM
I would say you should meet someone parents after you get to know them and tell them a little about your family. That way they will know what to expect. I do think the rule applies to older people dating.

Now if my son was dating he better bring her over NOW!!!!!!!!
:wink: :smile:

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Sat 12/29/07 03:19 PM
lmao double standards here, eh trueokie?

Wiccancowboy's photo
Sat 12/29/07 03:26 PM
what if your Ma is the insane one? lol
the Last lady i was with (sexually) took me to her Ma's place while her ma was at work ( imagine what happened) and 2 days later we were eatin dinner with my folks...lol

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Sat 12/29/07 03:30 PM

lmao double standards here, eh trueokie?


Well I think I'm a little old to be meeting someones parents, although I don't have a problem with meeting someones parents.
My momma is in the nursing home and can't remember anyone she meets laugh (that is true btw) and my daddy is been gone since 2000.

I do think young adults are a different story. They have never been married and do not know the pro's and con's of relationship yet.

Thoughs are my thoughts anyways.

Plus My Sons are not dating till they are at least my age... laugh :wink:

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Sat 12/29/07 03:33 PM

what if your Ma is the insane one? lol
the Last lady i was with (sexually) took me to her Ma's place while her ma was at work ( imagine what happened) and 2 days later we were eatin dinner with my folks...lol


I am rolling my eyes now.. laugh laugh laugh

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Sat 12/29/07 06:28 PM
And back to the originally scheduled programming...

My current beau met my WHOLE immediate family at my family birthday party in October. Only 3 weeks into our relationship...in person, that is. It was kind of soon and they are all nuts. I figured he should know what he is getting into.

Shockingly enough, everyone liked each other. Even my big sister who hates everyone I bring home. He came and spent Thanksgiving at our house since.

I have not met anyone in his family (other than his boy) since they live out of state.

Now for the meeting my family before the first date question. That is a big NO in my book. I am a grown woman with a job and a mortgage. If I was in high school and living with my folks, that is another story.

:smile: M

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Sat 12/29/07 06:35 PM
I say to each their own! BUT I would never meet anyones parents before I went out with them. If that was something he expected from me...then I wouldn't be going out with him. I think there is enough stress on just meeting the new person. Why add to it?? Besides, who knows how many dates you are going to have, are you going to take every date to meet your parents?
I say for me, it would be a big NO!! I am not planning on bringing anyone home to meet my mom UNLESS I think they are very special :heart:

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Sat 12/29/07 06:36 PM
I really don't remember the first time i met my parents.. it must have been awkward huh oh wait i didn't read the whole thing laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

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Sat 12/29/07 08:56 PM

When do you feel you should meet a persons parents? At the beginning of a relationship? AFTER you have been dating a while, and know something is there? Or just plain never cause your mother is an insane butcherknife wielding maniac and your father drools all over himself?


Call me old-fashioned but I believe the man should still meet the ladies parents prior to his taking her out at all. not to get their permission or blessing, but as a way to break the ice, and also this way, someone knows where the lady will be (to a point anyway) and when she expects to be home.
???? I havent lived with my parents in ummmmmmmmmmmmmm ???????20 years????? Why would I parade all my boyfriends for my parents??? How young are the girls you taking out daniel???noway noway noway laugh laugh

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Sat 12/29/07 09:13 PM

I really don't remember the first time i met my parents.. it must have been awkward huh oh wait i didn't read the whole thing laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

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Sat 12/29/07 09:22 PM
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