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so My question is, why do we assume people are always the same as our immediate perception of them? And can we really assume that our perception of ourselves at any given time is little more than a snapshot of our own internal narrative and as such a product of an ever changing form of self justification? I'm very sorry to hear about your brother. My deepest condolences. You are deep; and very eloquent  . Great questions. I think we assume people are always the same because it makes us comfortable. When they start morphing into other beings in front of our eyes, we'll make excuses, blink our eyes and try to get it to focus on something else (preferable what we'd like them to be). As they continue to change, rather than be ourselves, we also change to fit the "new" person they've become. All the while telling ourselves that this is actually who we want to be. 90% of the time that is incorrect. Thank you Tech. :-) Sadly I'll have to disillusion you on the deep bit. I'm more sort of murky at a certain level, giving the illusion of depth. Dive in and you'll hit you head on the bottom pretty quickly.:-) But your quite right. It seems that first/or early impressions color our future perceptions in a way that is often misleading or incorrect. A person may be a miserable sod most of the time but creates such a favorable first or early impression that we can sometimes feel that we are responsible for them being a miserable old sod. We tend to forget ourselves for a while. Then something causes you to think of how you fit in the grand scheme of things, and you wake up to something that no matter how hard you try to be sensitive about, gets misconstrued. After that the whole thing just gets tiresome. :-) Best wake up sooner rather than later. Another smart Mingler woman :-)  |
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Hi shakes .. so very sorry to hear about your brother . It must have been such a shock for you and your family . Hope you are all coping ok . I have never really felt that perception was static nor do I see the discontent you describe as a phase more a process . I think your emotional resilience has taken a hit (and understandably so ). . It is common to feel disconnected when beliefs and value systems are challenged . How we analyse and evaluate (perception ) can have a profound effect on what we feel , how we think and how we react . It is central to emotional regulation and resilience . When we experience internal conflict it can leave us feeling vulnerable, distressed and lost but for many it is a transition that will evolve as we cultivate and recover resilience . There is a saying .. that life is in the transitions ... you will bounce back . Give yourself time and lots of TLC  Thank you Blondey. :-) Phases occurring within a larger process? From my perspective anyway. :-) But you're right of course. You sound a bit like my daughter, she's a health and well-being coach. Anyway I haven't bounced so much as gone " splat "
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