Good morning to you all. As you enter into new relationships in this comming year and even beyond for some, learn to disipher the difference between your distrust which has been influenced by past abuse and the gut feelings that you get. Becoming aware that there is a difference, will allow you to become more empathetic to your relationship and thereby giving you a better chance at the good ones. If you do this, when you are not even with your partner, you can feel what they are doing and thinking. This is a great tool to have because it may save you from a broken heart, or allow you to blossom with that someone special and give you what you want and deserve,

very awesome advice. i have a problem separating the two. i tend to follow my gut more i think. if i didnt, i might miss out on something fantastic. i could babble about this forever lmao...

I followed my gut with my X fiancee...she left me two weeks before Christmas...
Turns out she just wanted to go back to her X husband, who is abusive...

I'm never gonna go with my gut again.

Nice. I'm already blossoming and we've been thru the distrust and back around again for the good stuff!

Wow, the exact same happened to me. Sucks.

Like nothin else...


Especially when they have cried on your shoulder numerous times.

awesome advice anthsm... even better advice as long as both partners are willing to listen and attempt it!

I always wind up with men who are just distrusting, which in turn makes me not trust them. I always go with my gut, and when my gut says "there's a reason he's acting weird" I investigate and usually high tail it outta there.

I'm never gonna go with my gut again. Unfortunately, learned not to trust my gut. Ever again. It picks wrong every time. I find the wait and see worthwhile.

Your gut doesnt pick......your mind does~~!!!

You can really pick up on peoples vibe.....if you sit by quietly, around them.......good or bad, you can usually pick something up yet you choose not to look at the signs....Ive done this as well but Ive learned to trust my gut.....

Its not distrust...

As the saying goes:

If you continue to do what you've always done you will continue to get what you've always got.

Change isn't usually easy but is often necessary.

I have to agree with gypsy
I always follow my gut instincts, and is normally never wrong. But that does not mean one can't make the wrong choices, or take the wrong road along the way.
You have to learn to listen to your body's warning signs.
When you start second guessing yourself, that is when most people make the wrong choices.
Good luck though with future choices

Also, I have learned the hard way. If there is a warning sign, you had better pay attention to it. Dont just ignore obvious warnings, because you want it to work out.

I had to learn that one twice...