At what point do you tell a person that you care about,you hate something that they do. It could be physical,or verbal. They are the most perfect person for you, friend,mate, or relitive, but they just do that one thing.

It depends on whether that thing they do is trivial or important. It seems important to you so then I would mention it. If this person is so perfect for you, they will understand.

If thay are the perfect person.get over it!Nobody is perfect!!
I'm sure you have flaws they over look.Just be happy.

one of my exes was great, but she use to chew with her mouth open, and smacking her lips. i guess because she was so hot no one ever told her.

Brian---

"Hate" is such a strong word. If there is a pet peeve or something a person does that you find excruciatingly annoying... tell them. But do it kindly, as chances are the person has no idea that you're so annoyed/bothered. You'll be surprised that if you bring it to their attention in a tactful manner it will be received much better. If you care about the person then you need to tell them, just as much as you need to tell them graciously. Teasing or laughing about it usually results in hurt feelings and the impression of bullying or even judging. Communication is key.

And really, "at what point do you tell"-- the answer is once you realize how much it bothers you.

i said perfect for you. of course nobody is perfect

yeah what she said

That particular thing would drive me nuts! As long as you don't "attack" them about it. Just appraoch them, say something about it, tell her it bothers you. To many times it's what you don't say in relationships that can cause problems. You need to be able to be open with each other or the problem will never be resolved.

Tell them, if you have a good thing going, they will work on it.

im not perfect and have some quirks some people don’t care for but they are who I am I say mam, I say im sorry, i speak what’s on my mind, I would rather them tell me this bothers them then at least I know what I need to do either explain this is me try to change a little or tell them it is not going to work because they are changing who i really am.


And yes I know ya'll cannot believe that im not perfect i know its hard but to imagine but it’s the truth.

If it truly is just that one thing I would try to cope with it. We all have vices. This one thing might be an entrenched part of the person's personality that is not easily changed. The only exception to my advice is if this one thing could jeopardize your relationship. In that case definately bring it up. A way to bring it up would be to ask that person if there's anything you do that bothers them. hopefully they'll return the gesture. Good luck.

It may be tactless... but I believe in brutal honesty. No sense letting the inevitable build up... if the bond is mutual, the other person will respect your opinion/input... HOWEVER, just as you have a right to voice your advice/opinion, they have a right to NOT FOLLOW it... and that is something you should accept regardless.

As long as they don't pick their nose and eat the boogers...

THAT IS JUST WAY TO SICK..

uhh just tell em
lol
why wait?

I agree, tell them before it bothers you to the point you just blurt it out one day in an argument. Might hurt their feelings a bit, but I rather hear it that way.....and ya may never know, they might not even realize they're doing whatever it is they're doing

Just tell the person. As said earlier, they might not know they are doing it. Say it as tactfully as possible.

I (at times) curse like a drunken sailor. It has bothered people I am around before. I do try to watch it when I am around children, but most of the time it is full throttle. When someone cares enough to tell me it bothers them, I do try to curb it around them.

Let us know what you decide to do.

M