Did you ever think that by doing the things you desire, and your son seeing it might assist him when he is in a relationship?

I like to do a lot of things for my girlfriend. Mainly spending as much time as we can with each other. There are a lot of private things, and public things that I do because I want to do them. If other guys think this is not manly, they can go to hell. My girlfriend sees me as very masculine, and loves the things I do for her.

well times kind of changed for him. he has been in play, he talks and listen to girls. he would think it was something wrong with me.

oh please tell him the truth and be who you are........that has to be so hard to hide, and its sad

I guess he has to find out a little at a time. Im putting it out there to the oline dating scene. At least i dont have to see their expression right away.

Tell him, times change and so do people, (if you don't feel like saying you have liked these things before) and you are starting to appreciate the nicer things in life.

As Captain said, I find him to be as sexy and as manly as any other guy out there, even more so----because he was true to himself and to me.

If your son is in a play and talks to girls don't you think he would be happy to know his father shares similair interest as him.

I honestly don't understand why it should be so hard to tell your son how you feel, expecially if he seems to share similair interest, and don't say age my father is older than you and he does things for my mother all the time and has taken the whole family to see plays.

If anything if I were your son I would be more upset you lied to me all these years, than knowing my father has a femine side (All men do to an extent just not all men show it, some are more feminine than others) and upset you couldn't have spent more time enjoying your common interest longer.

im sorry, but all this is coming from the same guy who started "dont marry her"?
Tue 12/25/07 10:57 AM
Dont her. The sequel is never better than the original. The show, or wedding is the most important thing to her. The same way a man will say anything to a woman to get in her pants, a woman will do anything while your in her pants to get to the show(wedding). Just look at all the single woman. Devorced,single,widows. Its like going to a used car lot of luxury cars. Just pick one with low miles, drive for a while, and before it starts costing to much money, trade it in. It works out for everyone. Everyone gets a new start. I know it sounds wrong, but the truth hurts. Im just pro man.

One of the best men I've ever known has a sensitive side. True men do cry, too, robots (aka cold men with no souls) don't. These characteristics don't make a man a "wimp", they make him a true man.

i hope in time i will be able to experiance, and express these things. It will be nice to just smell a woman hair or just rub her back, or feet just because. it may seem like simple things, but for me it was a deal breaker. i guess that why i broke up so much.

Winnie:

Very good point! My guess is that no matter how he tries to come off, as sensitive, etc., he probably isn't.

thank you. i guess im not the only one who read the other thread.

dont really agree with all men having a feminine. why does it have to be feminine to do those thing?

well for the past two days ive been reading, and listening to men and woman comments. i didnt think men would think different about what i was saying. im tring to see the other side

ok, but just be careful about what you post. your posts are how ppl get to know you and you dont want to give the wrong impression do you?????

Sorry using your/societies words... could have said not masculine. since that is the topic of the thread and you yourself called it not manly, I just took it a step further and called it a feminine side, if you prefer non-masculine its essentially the same thing, other wise you would call it neutral (like breathing).

also no man is 100% manly no matter how much they pretend to be. If you think you have you mans man, he jsut has you fooled, everyone likes somethign the rest of us consider "non manly". the real question is...Are you man enough to admit it?

The masculine side is the hunter, leader, provider side that a man shows, his feminine side is the caring nurturing side that is usually dominate in females.........all men have a feminine side and all women have a masculine side, just how strongly they are developed or allowed to show, depends upon the person.

sometime you have to put it out there to what you get back. somethings ive been confused about for a long time. trust me, if i would have gotten support with that post, i would not think different. some of the stuff i still have a problem letting go of.

There is nothing wrong with being a little bit more cultured and educated. Variety is the spice of life. That is not being effeminate. Some people are just content with what and who they are. Don't deny yourself opportunities or you will end up with future regrets.

It almost sounds like you live your life by what everyone else thinks. Do it your own way and let the chips fall where they may. If you feel like doing something, then do it.