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Since september I have been on an extreme fitness makeover. I run an hour a day, eat healthy, get rest, lift weights, and cross train. So Ive lost over 45 pounds, and have been developing more toned muscles.
But...now Ive noticed I have been getting so much more guys hitting on and flirting with me, not necessarily on jsh...I mean "offline". Thats great and all...but, I didnt start my fitness routine to attract guys....I did it to invest in my future, and set a good example for my son. I find myself actually P*ssed off! I am the same person...same personality, goals, ideas, etc. So this extra attention now is making me mad! Im being treated SO different and the reason is SO shallow. Am I supposed to be flattered?  
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just tell them your son is the only guy in your life
 and you didn't do all that for them just your son.
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We are living in a superficial world.......
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We are living in a superficial world....... True that, most folks never get passed physical attraction and may never see the reality in true chemistry;^] |
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Edited by
mic99
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Wed 12/26/07 12:18 PM
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Don't know if this will help any but being a guy maybe it will.
It isn't that these guys are trying to offend you, every potential relationship whether they end at first impressions or turn into long term commitment based ones, start with physical attraction right? Guys are very visual creatures, it's in our nature. We all have our own reasons for being fit but no one other then us can know until they ask and how will they ever find out if they don't approach you, which is generally a flirtful scenario. I could see a reason to be offended if the guys hitting on you are friends that suddenly changed their opinion of you because of the weight loss but if they're strangers they can't be blamed for being attracted to a pretty girl. And you never know who you'll pass up if you predispose every guy that approaches you as a superficial jerk. |
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Twilight here's what you should tell thiose guys who hit on you. I have an onffline friend who told me she said this to guy who would hit on her when she worked as a cocktail waitress and theis is what she told them. Tell the guys who hit on on yhour now and didn't give you a second glance before your weightloss. Tell them you only have room for one bum in your pants.
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Let me tell you, I have lost a total of 227 pounds in 4 and a half years, and have worked at the same job for six years in the same department. I work with mostly guys, and some of them don't remember me from back then. The difference is that now guys flirt with me and do stuff like hold the door and elevator when before, I would walk up with hands full and they would race ahead of me and not even hold the door or pretend they didn't see me at the elevator. I realize not all men are like this, but it used to just make me so mad because it was the same guy treating me completely different.
I feel ya....and by the way, great job on the weight loss! Glad to hear you're doing it for your son.
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well,
I would take it as a bonus that comes along with the weight loss. You did it for your health and people are noticing the healthier you (and maybe increased energy and confidence.) Of course, people are shallow. Men especially. Just a fact of life. CONGRATS on changing your lifestyle though. That rocks. |
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Edited by
fortsmithman
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Wed 12/26/07 02:20 PM
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Twilight I to am also working out at the gym to reduce my waist size And get healthier. When I am done and my spare tire becomes lean muscle and the ladies who never looked at me would want to be with me I'll tell them this it would be along the line of go screw yourself lady. Because there are planty of ladies out there. I wouldn't go out on a date with a lady who wouldn't look at me or laughed at my weight. Before I started to work out my waist size was 44 it's now at 38. I'm able to run farther and faster lift more than I could before. So twilight keep up the good work and keep on excercising. They really should get spellcheck for the posts.
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crap!!!---guess i'll double my sit-ups----
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It's society (TV, magazines, billboards) brainwashing us into believing that thin is beautiful. Centuries ago, bigger people were found attractive. Being heavier set meant you ate a lot, which also meant you had the money to afford that much food. Times sure have changed, haven't they
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Be proud of the person you are inside Katie. As for the extra attention...relish in it!! I am proud of you....
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Since september I have been on an extreme fitness makeover. I run an hour a day, eat healthy, get rest, lift weights, and cross train. So Ive lost over 45 pounds, and have been developing more toned muscles. But...now Ive noticed I have been getting so much more guys hitting on and flirting with me, not necessarily on jsh...I mean "offline". Thats great and all...but, I didnt start my fitness routine to attract guys....I did it to invest in my future, and set a good example for my son. I find myself actually P*ssed off! I am the same person...same personality, goals, ideas, etc. So this extra attention now is making me mad! Im being treated SO different and the reason is SO shallow. Am I supposed to be flattered? Use your experince as an advantage.. you can be a role model to a person lookin to follow your foot steps. i sure do, doesnt make me any less of a person. people come to me for a reason because i kno how to build a body.. attention is part of the lifestyle you have achived.. yes it's a lifestyle, more than anything people are envious of you because they would love to be in your shoes.. but forget the shallow thing, of course they are. men are attracted to girls with nice bodies and who take care of themselves.. but guys are also into girls who take care of themselves.. it shows you are passionate, you have desclipne and you're a strong person. there are many positive reasons why guys are giving you more attention. |
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a beautiful paint job is delightful to see. but you can't tell how she'll run from the paint job. there is only one way to know someone and that is to experience them.
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Don't know if this will help any but being a guy maybe it will. It isn't that these guys are trying to offend you, every potential relationship whether they end at first impressions or turn into long term commitment based ones, start with physical attraction right? Guys are very visual creatures, it's in our nature. We all have our own reasons for being fit but no one other then us can know until they ask and how will they ever find out if they don't approach you, which is generally a flirtful scenario. I could see a reason to be offended if the guys hitting on you are friends that suddenly changed their opinion of you because of the weight loss but if they're strangers they can't be blamed for being attracted to a pretty girl. And you never know who you'll pass up if you predispose every guy that approaches you as a superficial jerk. A lot are they same guys I knew from before...they liked to hang out with me before....play guitar etc, but always as a "friend". Now since theyve seen my transformation the friend game has turned into heavy flirting. Pfft! |
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It's society (TV, magazines, billboards) brainwashing us into believing that thin is beautiful. Centuries ago, bigger people were found attractive. Being heavier set meant you ate a lot, which also meant you had the money to afford that much food. Times sure have changed, haven't they . I agree...look at all the models used in the renosance paintings! By the way, my goal here is not to be a Paris Hilton stick woman, but a woman who is fit (and could probably kick a lot of butt!!!)
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Let me tell you, I have lost a total of 227 pounds in 4 and a half years, and have worked at the same job for six years in the same department. I work with mostly guys, and some of them don't remember me from back then. The difference is that now guys flirt with me and do stuff like hold the door and elevator when before, I would walk up with hands full and they would race ahead of me and not even hold the door or pretend they didn't see me at the elevator. I realize not all men are like this, but it used to just make me so mad because it was the same guy treating me completely different. I feel ya....and by the way, great job on the weight loss! Glad to hear you're doing it for your son. BRAVO! |
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Since september I have been on an extreme fitness makeover. I run an hour a day, eat healthy, get rest, lift weights, and cross train. So Ive lost over 45 pounds, and have been developing more toned muscles. But...now Ive noticed I have been getting so much more guys hitting on and flirting with me, not necessarily on jsh...I mean "offline". Thats great and all...but, I didnt start my fitness routine to attract guys....I did it to invest in my future, and set a good example for my son. I find myself actually P*ssed off! I am the same person...same personality, goals, ideas, etc. So this extra attention now is making me mad! Im being treated SO different and the reason is SO shallow. Am I supposed to be flattered? Use your experince as an advantage.. you can be a role model to a person lookin to follow your foot steps. i sure do, doesnt make me any less of a person. people come to me for a reason because i kno how to build a body.. attention is part of the lifestyle you have achived.. yes it's a lifestyle, more than anything people are envious of you because they would love to be in your shoes.. but forget the shallow thing, of course they are. men are attracted to girls with nice bodies and who take care of themselves.. but guys are also into girls who take care of themselves.. it shows you are passionate, you have desclipne and you're a strong person. there are many positive reasons why guys are giving you more attention. I am tickled when people ask me for advice. The trust my advice because I found something that works and my body is living proof. I do take pride in that and in that aspect it is flattering because being fit (atleast for me) didn't come easy....it took a lot of HARD sweaty work. |
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Congrats on your weight loss!! I myself have lost 125 lbs and went through the same thing, I noticed that guys that knew me before that wouldn't give me the time of day sure did change after I lost all the weight!!
I feel like this, I am the same person as I was before. I didn't change any on the inside..I am still the same person just a little bit different on the outside. If someone couldn't love me with all of that extra padding, then they can't love me at all!! I understand exactly what your saying...I don't think you should give them your time because they sure didn't give you a second glance when you had extra weight on you!! Make them wish they would have looked at you in a different light before! Its to bad that some people really can't get to know a person from the inside out~~~maybe this will teach them!!
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I've done the road, and I didn't find much of a diffence of men, except I felt better. It matters that you take care of yourself, and when a woman does that it says that she care about who she it.
I spent four or five years in fitness. I sort of got burned out, but I still ride. I don't worry as much about my weight, but I felt better in six jeans and than 10. But, body health doesn't always depend on size. When I put the weight back on, I spent time learning in school. you can't do everything. I laugh and say if you want me at a gym looking goood support me and I will have time to go. Good Job... |
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