So until now I have been able to be friends (or at least on speaking terms) with my exes, however my most recent ex (broke up a few weeks ago) and I seem to be having problems making it work. We were the best of friends while we were together and she often told me I was the only person she could really talk to. Now it seems like she needs a friend more than ever and I would like to be there for her but she keeps pushing me away.

Some days it seems like everything is working out and we can get along, but most of the time even the simplest discussions turn into fights and she is constantly yelling at me, then turns around the next day and tells me how alone she is and needs someone to talk to.

Any advice on how to be friends with an ex, and I would prefer not to just get a long list of responses saying "just don't do it" I have made it work in the past and feel like it could work, or maybe its true and some people just can't be friends with an ex. Any advice?

My best advice is just give her time to get use
To things the way they are now just keep at a distance
when she is ready and on her own she will come back
to being your friend it just takes time that's all

yeah you are probably right, I guess I feel bad. It seems right now she needs a friend more than ever as she is going through a lot of other things and she honestly doesn't really have anyone to help her out. Normally I have no problems giving someone space and starting up a random conversation a few months down the road. It would be much easier if she had a better support system. Guess now she is on her own I just wish I could help.

Someone here mentioned "time" and I guess I would agree. But no matter, I hope it works out for you and gets better.

-Drew

Hope your right. I still care about her and want her to get through this but I can't help if she won't let me and I know better than to force anything. Guess only time will tell.

time

So on the time thing. I would like to state that agree time is best, but something a little new has developed. Her family (Mostly her older sister) has been contacting me saying that my ex is starting to spiral downward and needs me right now. they have been pressuring me to talk to her more, but I still feel like my ex doesn't want to talk to me right now. Should I still give it time and ignore her family, or should I push a little harder?

I would push alittle harder. If she was just a friend and not your ex you would push harder. If she needs you then she needs you, it's as simple as that.

Its pretty obvious she still have feelings for you.....Id back off until she can come to terms with this.

Not quite as simple as that. She is stubborn and the more I talk to her the harder she fights to push me away. I feel like if I keep pushing things it will only make things worse. I talked to her parents (They kept calling me) and now they understand and agree I should probably back off. I just hope she has someone to talk to because she is starting to make some bad decisions and has no one to lean on or go to for support.