Topic: DONT MARRY HER
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Wed 12/26/07 02:12 AM

Dont her. The sequel is never better than the original. The show, or wedding is the most important thing to her. The same way a man will say anything to a woman to get in her pants, a woman will do anything while your in her pants to get to the show(wedding). Just look at all the single woman. Devorced,single,widows. Its like going to a used car lot of luxury cars. Just pick one with low miles, drive for a while, and before it starts costing to much money, trade it in. It works out for everyone. Everyone gets a new start. I know it sounds wrong, but the truth hurts. Im just pro man.


So pro you joined this thingyawn

lilith401's photo
Wed 12/26/07 07:41 AM
If you go into a scenario thinking you are just going to have sex and move on, you lose the entire point of being on a date.

You cannot know a person's motives unless you ask and they lay it on the line.

It sounds to me like you are Monday morning quarterbacking to defend your archaiac, jurassic, antideluvian stance.

The point of a date is to get to know someone. The person, not in a biblical way. If there is romance or things become physical, that should be like the icing on the cake and not the purpose of the date. If you go into a situation thinking it would turn out a certain way, then most likely it would end that way. This is not proving your point, this means your perspective needs to shift. If you've been burned, get some bandages. When they come off, get back out there and STOP assuming.

briancarr's photo
Wed 12/26/07 05:14 PM


Dont her. The sequel is never better than the original. The show, or wedding is the most important thing to her. The same way a man will say anything to a woman to get in her pants, a woman will do anything while your in her pants to get to the show(wedding). Just look at all the single woman. Devorced,single,widows. Its like going to a used car lot of luxury cars. Just pick one with low miles, drive for a while, and before it starts costing to much money, trade it in. It works out for everyone. Everyone gets a new start. I know it sounds wrong, but the truth hurts. Im just pro man.


So pro you joined this thingyawn
I dont hate woman

briancarr's photo
Wed 12/26/07 05:19 PM

If you go into a scenario thinking you are just going to have sex and move on, you lose the entire point of being on a date.

You cannot know a person's motives unless you ask and they lay it on the line.

It sounds to me like you are Monday morning quarterbacking to defend your archaiac, jurassic, antideluvian stance.

The point of a date is to get to know someone. The person, not in a biblical way. If there is romance or things become physical, that should be like the icing on the cake and not the purpose of the date. If you go into a situation thinking it would turn out a certain way, then most likely it would end that way. This is not proving your point, this means your perspective needs to shift. If you've been burned, get some bandages. When they come off, get back out there and STOP assuming.
Such big words. Romance. Does it mean sleeping with someone? Fine icing on the cake. So do you bake the cake first, or just eat the icing. It is easy to attack.

briancarr's photo
Wed 12/26/07 05:21 PM

............. Love comes from within one's self, YOU have to love yourself unconditionally BEFORE you can offer love to any other.


Giving Love
Do you truly believe in love ?
the type that is freely given
It's the motivation and the reason for living,
Nourish love, give love, live love
true Love gives all, and nothing less.
Loving unconditionally, we are truly blessed
Nourish love, give love, live love

Love is a GIFT you give, and real Gifts
have no strings attached
Love energy between our souls flow easily
Nourish love, Give love, live love
Real love should never try to be matched


There is no need for trading or dealing
Love should be a natural feeling
Nourish love, give love, live love
Genuine love requires practice and intent
The energy of love should
fully permeate our daily experience
Nourish love, give love, live love

Only when you truly learn to love yourself
can you freely pass on this emotion
Nourish love, give love, live love
Goodwill, affirmation,kindness,devotion
Are the necessary tools for love’s true growth
Nourish love, give love, live love

Love is giving just for the sake of giving
Choosing to love one another, we enter
the realm of higher living
Nourish love, give love, live love
To us this energy was freely given
It is a natural expression that does
not expect an outcome
Nourish love, give love, live love

Some have used their love as tools of barter
And held back on giving love when their
Steps of progress have faltered
Nourish love, give love, live love
Let go of such a selfish deed
Learn to conquer insecurities
Nourish love, give love, live love


Remember to use the tools of forgiveness,
meditation, and visualization
They are there to assist us in overcoming
the negative experiences
we encounter each day.
Nourish love, give love, live love

Bonny 19.08.07







BLAH,BLAH, BLAH

singingmyheartout's photo
Wed 12/26/07 05:27 PM
Some of us can stand on our own 2 feet without a ring or a 2nd paycheck. We get left behind by exes who don't do sh1t for the kids they helped make... SO HOW DARE YOU ACCUSE WOMEN OF GOLD DIGGING AND DOING ANYTHING TO GET MARRIED! Some of us are actually decent human beings with genuine motives...and it is men like YOU who taint them, twist them and make them jaded. WE DON'T WANT PLAYERS... WE WANT DECENT, UPSTANDING GUYS who do the right thing, not the "Love em and Leave em type"...

Personally... relationships ought to be 50/50, teamwork... I think gold diggers and people who are out fro personal gain, despite the damage they cause ruin it for the rest of us.

briancarr's photo
Wed 12/26/07 05:37 PM
Edited by briancarr on Wed 12/26/07 05:38 PM

Some of us can stand on our own 2 feet without a ring or a 2nd paycheck. We get left behind by exes who don't do sh1t for the kids they helped make... SO HOW DARE YOU ACCUSE WOMEN OF GOLD DIGGING AND DOING ANYTHING TO GET MARRIED! Some of us are actually decent human beings with genuine motives...and it is men like YOU who taint them, twist them and make them jaded. WE DON'T WANT PLAYERS... WE WANT DECENT, UPSTANDING GUYS who do the right thing, not the "Love em and Leave em type"...

Personally... relationships ought to be 50/50, teamwork... I think gold diggers and people who are out fro personal gain, despite the damage they cause ruin it for the rest of us.
maybe if you spend more time getting to know the person, or opening your eyes you would get the right man. A lot of people see what they want to see, and not what really is.

singingmyheartout's photo
Wed 12/26/07 05:48 PM
FYI, I have the RIGHT man now. Read a damn profile instead of making ignorant judgments.

briancarr's photo
Wed 12/26/07 06:12 PM

FYI, I have the RIGHT man now. Read a damn profile instead of making ignorant judgments.
wow, i guess miracles do happen

tony39h's photo
Wed 12/26/07 06:13 PM
Edited by tony39h on Wed 12/26/07 06:15 PM
WHY TRADE IT IN ON A NEW ONE
WHEN YOU JUST GOT THAT ONE BROKE IN
AN ALL OF THEM HAVE THE SAME THING

WORK WITH WHAT YOU HAVE AN MAKE IT A BETTER RRIDE
AN IT WILL NOT LEAVE YOU ON THE SIDE OF THE ROAD

THATS THE THING WITH GUY'S TO DAY THEY THINK THE GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE

ONE OF THESE DAY'S YOU WON'T HAVE ONE TO DRIVE..THEN WHAT
YOU GOING TO CALL HANNA AN HER FIVEE SISTERS
bigsmile laugh laugh laugh laugh bigsmile

briancarr's photo
Wed 12/26/07 06:16 PM

WHY TRADE IT IN ON A NEW ONE
WHEN YOU JUST GOT THAT ONE BROKE IN
AN ALL OF THEM HAVE THE SAME THING

WORK WITH WHAT YOU HAVE AN MAKE IT A BETTER RRIDE
AN IT WILL NOT LEAVE YOU ON THE SIDE OF THE ROAD

THATS THE THING WITH GUY'S TO DAY THEY THINK THE GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE

ONE OF THESE DAY'S YOU WON'T HAVE ONE TO DRIVE..THEN WHAT
YOU GOING TO CALL HANNA AN HER FIVEE SISTERS

Well guy, i do know hanna, and her sisters. They have been good to me since i was 14. They never let me down, and they are always around.

nurjoyce's photo
Wed 12/26/07 06:18 PM
my goal is to find someone to grow old with not necessarily marriage because the paper means nothing- if i find the right person and he WANTS to get married, that would be okay, however not necessary for me.
i am also not sleeping with just anyone-- has to be chemistry and some kind of a relationship

briancarr's photo
Wed 12/26/07 06:20 PM

my goal is to find someone to grow old with not necessarily marriage because the paper means nothing- if i find the right person and he WANTS to get married, that would be okay, however not necessary for me.
i am also not sleeping with just anyone-- has to be chemistry and some kind of a relationship
BINGO. THANK YOU. A GREAT EXAMPLE.

nurjoyce's photo
Wed 12/26/07 06:23 PM
what example is that?
is this not a dating site?
are you looking for a woman who has sex with everyone?
i am not getting it

Jess642's photo
Wed 12/26/07 06:30 PM
Poor little grumblebum...wouldn't know a relationship, an authentic, and genuine relationship, and the art of RELATING to another, if it bit him....

Instead he will just huff and puff, and blow his own house down....


bigsmile





nurjoyce's photo
Wed 12/26/07 06:31 PM
that i understand:wink:

singingmyheartout's photo
Wed 12/26/07 06:40 PM
Edited by singingmyheartout on Wed 12/26/07 06:41 PM
Seems to me he is narrow minded and overly judgmental. He doesn't view people as individuals, because he doesn't care. If he loves them and leaves them, he never has to take responsibility for anything, and therefore can continue on down some path of emotional destruction... don't care who he hurts or what cost is paid... so as long as no blame befalls him. Sad. Sad. Sad.

The issue here isn't the "gold diggers" it's him... too insecure to think a relationship can last... too blind to see the inner beauty and strength in one's character.

Rather than take time to make an effort, he makes excuses, and then cries about the outcome... ohwell huh

BonnyMiss's photo
Wed 12/26/07 07:07 PM
BLAH,BLAH, BLAH
See O J Simpson look alike is still spewing bilge..............Pray tell, is that English?

iceprincess's photo
Wed 12/26/07 07:14 PM
brian.........i'm thinking with your opinion on everything that most of the "cars" you've been trying to "test drive" have found you lacking and left you alongside the road.............can't say i blame them. JMO

briancarr's photo
Wed 12/26/07 07:20 PM
Edited by briancarr on Wed 12/26/07 07:23 PM

Seems to me he is narrow minded and overly judgmental. He doesn't view people as individuals, because he doesn't care. If he loves them and leaves them, he never has to take responsibility for anything, and therefore can continue on down some path of emotional destruction... don't care who he hurts or what cost is paid... so as long as no blame befalls him. Sad. Sad. Sad.

The issue here isn't the "gold diggers" it's him... too insecure to think a relationship can last... too blind to see the inner beauty and strength in one's character.

Rather than take time to make an effort, he makes excuses, and then cries about the outcome... ohwell huh
I think you are somewhat right. Maybe its the type of woman i continue to be with. maybe i need to take my own advice, and get to know these woman first. Maybe i should refuse to sleep with them so quick. maybe i shouldnt play on thier weakness. stop telling them what they want to hear, just to get in thier pants. Build a foundation first. Think long term. respect as equals. open myself up so that they get to know the real me. be more virtuous. be more in touch with my feelings, and who i am. think about how i would want my mother, sister,or daughters treated. i think that using this blog subject, and the responses, has helped me to rethink about the type of person i want to be percieved as, take responsibility for my actions, make better choices with woman i associate myself with. thank you, your message made the most sense. this blog is closed for me. thank you