No. Absolutely not. From my experience it has been that ‘He’ has treated me like property. He wanted me all to himself and it took a toll on me.

It was when I decided to take my life back by going online, spending time with close friends and doing things I enjoyed (beach, boating, cruises, dances, skiing etc...etc....) that made me happy but made him insecure. He feared loosing me to another man I guess.

We had very short periods of ‘off again’ (like several weeks not months). For two consecutive summers (2018/2019) he made plans to meet up with an old friend (who he claimed he communicated with re:Christianity from time to time) and did sexual things with her. Even drove an hour out of his way. At least his clothes never came off lol!!! And to think how many times I told him to take me to the beach both summers!!!!

I can understand him having a lapse of judgement once but come on doing it over the course of two summers.....that’s disgusting and shows he had no honour, respect or regard for me.

I confronted him about her last year and he downplayed it. She was just a woman before me (like 10 years before....laughable) I had no knowledge of her and she had no knowledge of me. To add insult to injury she was offended that ‘He wasn’t the Man of God’ she thought. Lol

I would of been happy if he used wisdom and that time away from me to assess his feelings for me and work on relationship building in a healthy way but he didn’t.

When I confronted him with the facts, (the email exchanges were heart wrenching to read) he said it was all talk and meant nothing. To add insult to injury he went on to say that it was my fault for hurting him by making him feel insecure.

I believe it was his (like you said) possessive jealousy that was not very appealing to me and it created cracks in the foundation of our relationship from the very beginning.

I made the mistake of being his wife. I made the mistake of accepting a proposal from a manipulative, controlling, gas lighting narcissist. And to think he had the audacity to tell me that what had transpired with this woman would have come out during marriage counselling is pile of crap!

I don’t want to be married to a psychopath. I am satisfied that the relationship ended at this time because it exposed ‘him’ and his ‘so called’ perfect character. Not only has our relationship ended but it also ended his 10 year friendship with that woman and cathartically halted any future attempt of being with her. (sexual or otherwise)

Isn’t it interesting how I gave this man 100% trust...now I learned to trust no one but God almighty.

He is so desperately trying to win me back by doing things and saying things he never did. In the Bible it says, ‘Love covers a multitude of sins’....where was his covering of me?

Little by little my heart will release him and I want him to do the same with me.

In closure don’t gamble your relationship and love away!

It is a big world with lots of variety.

If it works for the two of you, great.