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Topic: What would you do ?
Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15004	Wed 09/30/20 05:56 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Wed 09/30/20 06:01 PM
I was out having lunch with a man friend. I seen a married man having lunch with a woman, who wasn't his wife . I went over to their table and said hello to him, because I know who him. He introduced me briefly to his woman friend. I said hello, then went back to my table on the other end of the restaurant. When I talked to his wife a few days later, I never mentioned he was out with a Woman. He had told his wife, he seen me out to lunch. You should never tell a woman, her husband was out with another woman, right?

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15004	Wed 09/30/20 05:58 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Wed 09/30/20 05:59 PM
Do you think a person should get involved in things like that?

catinidaho Joined Fri 10/24/14 Posts: 10860	Wed 09/30/20 06:21 PM
I wouldn't get involved. It's none of my business.

Poetrywriter Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 22675	Wed 09/30/20 06:21 PM
Do you think a person should get involved in things like that? No because you do not know who the woman was. Could have been a co worker or a relative. It is no one's business but theirs. I would stay out of it.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15004	Wed 09/30/20 07:17 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Wed 09/30/20 07:18 PM
Do you think a person should get involved in things like that? No because you do not know who the woman was. Could have been a co worker or a relative. It is no one's business but theirs. I would stay out of it. It wasn't a relative, he introduced her as his friend.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15004	Wed 09/30/20 07:21 PM
I wouldn't get involved. It's none of my business. I think you may be right! But I was upset because I know his wife and we talk on the phone oftentimes.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15004	Wed 09/30/20 07:24 PM
My man friend asked me , why are you upset ! I said, because he has a nice loving wife at home. He just said, oh ok! My man friend is a widower. He was married 37 yrs but his wife passed last year. We don't date just friends, because I knew him yrs ago.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15004	Wed 09/30/20 07:25 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Wed 09/30/20 07:28 PM
I think Women get more upset about things like that, than Men do ! IMO

catinidaho Joined Fri 10/24/14 Posts: 10860	Wed 09/30/20 07:50 PM
I guess it doesn't bother me because I don't have any friends.

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21258	Wed 09/30/20 07:56 PM
I'd leave it alone.

moomin Joined Wed 01/01/20 Posts: 7139	Thu 10/01/20 03:48 AM
It’s really no one else’s business . People can have friends of the opposite sex , without it meaning anything else .

cityblues21 Joined Sat 07/05/08 Posts: 20033	Thu 10/01/20 03:54 AM
One cannot know the dynamics of that couple's relationship..even as friends.. We only see what they choose to show the world .. behind closed doors, they may have certain understandings that the world is not privy to.. .. perhaps it is ok for him to have lunch with "women" friends. Again we cannot assume we know people or their situations. Best to let things alone.. and always be polite and cordial. It is possible to have friends of the opposite sex regardless of what many tend to believe.

Seamus Joined Mon 07/15/19 Posts: 3365	Thu 10/01/20 04:05 AM
It could be (and likely is) perfectly innocent. Now, if you'd seen them checking in to a hotel/motel together, that would have been a dilemma.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15004	Thu 10/01/20 05:10 AM
It could be (and likely is) perfectly innocent. Now, if you'd seen them checking in to a hotel/motel together, that would have been a dilemma. Good Point!

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15004	Thu 10/01/20 05:12 AM
One cannot know the dynamics of that couple's relationship..even as friends.. We only see what they choose to show the world .. behind closed doors, they may have certain understandings that the world is not privy to.. .. perhaps it is ok for him to have lunch with "women" friends. Again we cannot assume we know people or their situations. Best to let things alone.. and always be polite and cordial. It is possible to have friends of the opposite sex regardless of what many tend to believe. This is interesting response! Yes, men can have Women who are just friends.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15004	Thu 10/01/20 05:13 AM
It’s really no one else’s business . People can have friends of the opposite sex , without it meaning anything else . Thanks!

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15004	Thu 10/01/20 05:16 AM
I guess it doesn't bother me because I don't have any friends. I'm sure you have concerns about some things,. Just not this!

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15004	Thu 10/01/20 05:17 AM
I'd leave it alone. Maybe you're right!

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15004	Thu 10/01/20 05:19 AM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Thu 10/01/20 05:20 AM
BTW They been married 24 yrs, both are pass 55. What some people can Deal with, others cannot, and that's why so many Divorce.

I_love_bluegrass Joined Wed 04/25/18 Posts: 1665	Thu 10/01/20 06:10 AM
One cannot know the dynamics of that couple's relationship..even as friends.. We only see what they choose to show the world .. behind closed doors, they may have certain understandings that the world is not privy to.. .. perhaps it is ok for him to have lunch with "women" friends. Again we cannot assume we know people or their situations. Best to let things alone.. and always be polite and cordial. It is possible to have friends of the opposite sex regardless of what many tend to believe. This is interesting response! Yes, men can have Women who are just friends. That's well and good...as long as everything is above board and everyone knows... When stuff is kept secret..or hidden from the partner..that's a problem...