Ok gals, so it's the holidays and I for one am good for an extra 10 lbs. I'm like a bear, live in MI right now and I pack in on during the cold months. I'm wondering though, with all of the marketing these days of the young buff slinder cut guys, what are you most attracted to? What features catch your eyes the fastest?

most of the girls i dated say looks mean everything

Smile and the eyes have it. Until they turn around!! Then its all arse! BTW you have a cute smile!

But mainly it is what inside that really counts

looks can be so very deceiving...
truly and completely so at times ....

some people
who are the best looking physically
are the most ugly inside
but we already have touched many times
on this topic before,
only not in this thread



when some but not all people get older and wiser

they see that those superficial things are just that

very shallow ...just window dressing
gift wrap....and nothing more ...

the truly wise and important item
of interest should be ....the heart

Well said, Rapunzel

Yes but if I cannot be attracted to them physically it will never get that far. There has to be some sort of spark there that says hey he or she is cute or appealing something that you want to know more. Alot of people lie on their profiles as well I am no beauty queen by any means. I personally need the spark!

oh, of course...
but haven't you met men who are so attractive to you,
but who use their good looks as a weapon to lure you
into their web of deceit???

in quest of nothing more
than a notch on their bed post or belt buckle?

that is why i say that it takes a lot of time
to really get to know someone oftentimes ,
and i would rather have someone who has integrity and honesty,
rather than someone who may be more physically appealing,
but who is as sly as a weasel and treacherous as a wolverine
& as honest as pinocchio was before he became a good boy


see and even then, good looks wear thin...
i've known some very good looking human disasters
and i would rather be alone than in such company
so we who are wise need to take our time
and test the spirit and integrity
of another human being ...
and look beyond the outward appearance
to see if they ring true ....

Hummmm, interesting turn this took in a short trip to the grocery store. So I've heard eyes, smile and arsse and then of course we get off track to "good looks as a weapon to lure you
into their web of deceit". And for the record and to be fair, we as men these days are just as on gaurd from most women of being used for one reason or another. We can be both safty nets, rebounds, finacial security or a plain ole booty call. It's not just you girls and you need to know that, it's a two way street.

But back to the topic at hand, anyone else have feedback as to what they find attractive the most?

Thank you dear, that was very sweet of you to say!

up for grabs

what about my comment would even make you begin to suggest that i have taken this thread off track may i ask ????

i have addressed your thread with intelligence,
integrity ,life experience and a lot of wisdom////


please do not dismiss someone's eloquent message so lightly

and by the way ..if you notice ...

i did not limit my message

to any one particular gender

well great eyes and a warm smile... is always a plus.... but with no heart its just a waste...

ihave enough wisdom and insight to see
that it goes both ways

please try hard not to underestimate people
and just assume the worst all the time



you really wanna know what else
is very appealing in my search for a good man ???

besides a good honest heart???
a wise knowledgable mind

that isn't too quick too judge

Rapunzel,

No doubt have you answered this thread with intelligence as your typing is done with such ease and couth. Line by line I have re-read your responses and to be candid, you’re attracted to what feature first?

Interesting, well thank you for sharing and Happy Holidays and best of wish in your personal searches.