Ladies /Guys

Is it possible for someone finding Love/Friend while chatting / being in contact with dozens of canndidates?

I see it the msot distractive method and and hindrance in identification of the right person.

Many women here see separated means married and looking for intimate encounter means married and looking for sex on the side..."no answer" to the question of children a big flag also...other internet sites do exist for persons seeking only intimate encounters...

Your profile is basically empty with no substantive content which would interest those who are seeking more than an intimate encounter

that depends on your ethics

IMO not really.
"Relationships" are built over time via learning to communicate, direct effort, focus, empathy, and reciprocity.

If someone is chatting online/being in contact with dozens of other potential suitors, or even dating multiple people at a time, then at best they're retarding their ability to develop a relationship with one person, at worst they're actively working against building a "love" relationship with someone.

But that brings up the question of personality and type.

If you're the type of person who is only really fulfilled by constant attention from contact with dozens of candidates, you can't turn around and just switch it off and be all "ok, Imma be someone else now, and be satisfied with one person!"
If you turn dating into a numbers game, you are just turning yourself into a number, and you're ultimately playing the lottery. How's that Powerball ticket working for you? Did you know states make more from poor people playing the lottery than they collect in corporate taxes? But millions keep playing, because maybe, just maybe, they'll be the 1 person that "wins."

So really, if you encounter someone that is dating multiple people, or in regular contact with dozens of candidates...they aren't "really" looking for a meaningful "love" relationship.
Although many people give lip service to the idea they want to find "the one," their actions are showing you the truth.


This is one of the reasons why online dating/dating apps are absolutely terrible for actual dating and meaningful relationships.

You read profiles that say things like "I'm independent, I got my own job, my own money, I gots me a degree, I like friends and family, I like to laugh, and long walks on the beach, I'm nice and down to earth, I can dress up or down!"

None of that is relevant to anything. It doesn't matter at all.

You want to find someone actually looking for a "serious" or "real" relationship?
Look for ways that show they empathize and care about others.
Look for ways that show how they handle conflict.
Look for ways that show you their ability to appreciate what they have as opposed to always looking for more.
Look for ways that show they are capable of committing to something, as opposed to just sticking around for mutual benefit. e.g. Christian? Have they ever had premarital sex? Or do they pick and choose which beliefs they follow because it's convenient for how they feel at the moment.
And measure all of these things along with their compatibility in those areas with you.

Unfortunately, most of the things that actually will tell you whether or not
you could be in a "love" relationship with that person aren't going to be all that obvious until after you've started interacting with them in a face to face setting, where they're responding to situations and environments they can't control, where they're actually speaking their mind in a setting they can't go back and edit it before sending.


So, is it "possible" to find "love/friend" with someone chatting to dozens of other potentials?
Sure. It's "possible."
It's also "possible" to figure out how to swim after encasing your feet in concrete and jumping off a pier. But for the vast majority of people it's a bad idea and a bad perspective that led them to attempt to do so.

yes because in this world somany people are there , everyone has his own character and behaviour and uniqueness too, soo while chatting withthem u can know them better and understands eachother well and there may be dozens of people to chat but u will definitely stuck to the person who suits your lifestyle and level of understanding and other things to became close, at last I conclude that it is possible to choose the right person in your life while chatting in lumsum people .

Of course it is possible. But the probability might be very low or zero, considering you are still married and looking for intimate encounter. But hey, there are many lonely people out there who would just be happy chatting with anyone.

Good luck

Yeah. Just keep track of the names so you don't get them confused and run them off, and don't talk about your other candidates. It's tacky and a turn-off. That's a conversation you have with your buddies. What I do is simple and it works. Whenever I meet someone on a site or in person, I tell them upfront that I play the field. I make it clear that I am not willing to commit to one person. One is to make sure they are okay with that before deciding to continue to get to know me and it also shows that I am honest and respectful of the other person's feelings. Second is to avoid any surprises should I be spotted in public with another man. Good luck!

I wouldn't recommend dozens. Maybe a few until you decide which woman is the best fit for you. Just make sure you tell them upfront that you are dating other women. Do not string anyone along and certainly not under false pretenses.

Then again, I'm single, so...