Hate is deaf

IN SIMPLE TERMS its natures way to ensure reproduction.....real love is seeing

a person as they really are, understanding them as they are different and its

o.k. and willing to be there for each other always....and you always hold

there feelings and emotions in gentle hands....

Friendship is a quiet walk in the park with the one you trust.
Love is when you feel like you are the only two around.

Friendship is when they gaze into your eyes and you know they care.
Love is when they gaze into your eyes and it warms your heart.

Friendship is being close even when you are far apart.
Love is when you can still feel their hand on your heart
when they are not near.

Friendship is hoping that they experience the very best.
Love is when you bring them the very best.

Friendship occupies your mind.
Love occupies your soul.

Friendship is knowing that you will always try to be there
when in need.
Love is when you will give up everything to be at their side.

Friendship is a warm smile in the winter.
Love is a warming touch that sends a pulse through your heart.

Love is a beautiful smile to which nothing compares:
A tender laugh, which opens your heart,
A single touch that melts away your fears,
A smell that reminds you of the tenderness of heaven,
A voice that reminds you of the innocence of youth.

Friendship can survive without love.
Love cannot live without friendship.

6 Ways To Accept Others As They Are

Watch your thoughts. Think about what you're thinking about. I often think things about other people, judging them, without even realizing it. I'm going to work on paying more attention to my thoughts and do my best to push them in a non-judgmental, more accepting direction.

Look for the positive. Not accepting others is a result of seeing the negative in them. Instead of focusing on why someone is different, I'm going to focus on what's good about that person and his/her choices and actions. My way is not always the best one.

Avoid right/wrong dichotomies. It's very tempting to see the world in black and white with a right and wrong way to do things, but that's just not how it is. Things don't have to be right or wrong if I choose to accept them as they are. I'm going to stop labeling my way as "right."

Stop judging yourself. Our judgments of others are often a result of our personal criticisms. If I stop putting pressure on myself to do things the "right" way, I'll also stop putting pressure on others as well. Not judging myself or others is a crucial step to acceptance.

Focus on the now. A lack of acceptance can generate from comparing things to the past. I'm not going to think about what happened before and try to live accordingly; I'm going to think about now. Comparing things to the past always hinders an acceptance of what is.

Reverse the situation. I ask myself: What if someone were judging me and not accepting me? How would I feel? I'll keep these questions in mind the next time I'm not accepting others. I will imagine someone constantly telling me to slow down (and how annoying that would be!).

from "Slow Down: Learning to Accept Others as They Are,"

I HAVE LEARNED
by Kathy Kane Hansen

I’ve learned —
that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who can be loved.
The rest is up to them.

I’ve learned —
that no matter how much I care,
some people just don’t care back.

I’ve learned —
that it takes years to build up trust,
and only seconds to destroy it.

I’ve learned —
that it’s not what you have in your life
but who you have in your life that counts.

I’ve learned —
that you can get by on charm
for about fifteen minutes.
After that, you’d better know something.

I’ve learned —
that you shouldn’t compare yourself
to the best others can do,
but to the best you can do.

I’ve learned —
that it’s not what happens to people that’s important.
It’s what they do about it.

I’ve learned —
that you can do something in an instant
that will give you heartache for life.

I’ve learned —
that no matter how thin you slice it,
there are always two sides.

I’ve learned —
that it’s taking me a long time to become
the person I want to be.

I’ve learned —
that it’s a lot easier to react than it is to think.

I’ve learned —
that you should always leave loved ones
with loving words.
It may be the last time you see them.

I’ve learned —
that you can keep going long after
you think you can’t.

I’ve learned —
that we are responsible for what we do,
no matter how we feel.

I’ve learned —
that either you control your attitude
or it controls you.

I’ve learned —
that regardless of how hot and steamy
a relationship is at first,
the passion fades and there had better be
something else to take its place.

I’ve learned —
that heroes are the people who do
what has to be done when it needs to be done,
regardless of the consequences.

I’ve learned —
that learning to forgive takes practice.

I’ve learned —
that there are people who love you dearly,
but just don’t know how to show it.

I’ve learned —
that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I’ve learned —
that my best friend and I
can do anything or nothing
and have the best time.

I’ve learned —
that sometimes the people you expect
to kick you when you’re down
will be the ones to help you get back up.

I’ve learned —
that sometimes when I’m angry
I have the right to be angry,
but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

I’ve learned —
that true friendship continues to grow,
even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.

I’ve learned —
that just because someone doesn’t love you
the way you want them to
doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

I’ve learned —
that maturity has more to do with what types
of experiences you’ve had
and what you’ve learned from them and less to do
with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

I’ve learned —
that you should never tell a child their dreams
are unlikely or outlandish.
Few things are more humiliating,
and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.

I’ve learned —
that your family won’t always be there for you.
It may seem funny, but people you aren’t related to
can take care of you and love you and teach you
to trust people again.
Families aren’t biological.

I’ve learned —
that no matter how good a friend is,
they’re going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.

I’ve learned —
that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I’ve learned —
that no matter how bad your heart is broken
the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

I’ve learned —
that our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are,
but we are responsible for who we become.

I’ve learned —
that sometimes when my friends fight,
I’m forced to choose sides
even when I don’t want to.

I’ve learned —
that just because two people argue,
it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other.
And just because they don’t argue,
it doesn’t mean they do.

I’ve learned —
that sometimes you have to put the individual
ahead of their actions.

I’ve learned —
that we don’t have to change friends
if we understand that friends change.

I’ve learned —
that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret.
It could change your life forever.

I’ve learned —
that two people can look at the exact same thing
and see something totally different.

I’ve learned —
that no matter how you try to protect your children,
they will eventually get hurt
and you will hurt in the process.

I’ve learned —
that there are many ways
of falling and staying in love.

I’ve learned —
that no matter the consequences,
those who are honest with themselves
get farther in life.

I’ve learned —
that no matter how many friends you have,
if you are their pillar you will feel lonely and lost
at the times you need them most.

I’ve learned —
that your life can be changed in a matter of hours
by people who don’t even know you.

I’ve learned —
that even when you think you have no more to give,
when a friend cries out to you,
you will find the strength to help.

I’ve learned —
that writing, as well as talking,
can ease emotional pains.

I’ve learned —
that the paradigm we live in
is not all that is offered to us.

I’ve learned —
that credentials on the wall do not make you
a decent human being.

I’ve learned —
that the people you care most about in life
are taken from you too soon.

I’ve learned —
that although the word “love” can have
many different meanings,
it loses value when overly used.

I’ve learned —
that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line
between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings
and standing up for what you believe.

Good luck Tom. You're blind.

I wrote to the wrong Tom on here. Sorry. I know a lot of Toms.