Is it okay to have Feelings for older women while you are at your peak
Ik it's hormonal Matter Bt still wanna discuss it..

try discussing it in any of the other 400 older women threads where it has already been discussed at extreme length

I saw the same thing with girls too

Depends on the person.
People can exhibit similar behavior for different reasons.
But for the most part, none of those reasons are all that positive.

So there's:
- A fetish. They grew up watching MILF porn, or their sexual development was around "older" people.

- Parental issues. They're trying to find someone to replace their mommy or daddy. Either to get "revenge" on their parent, to replace what was missing, or to reenact/reacquire the type of "love" they experienced as a child possibly because they don't know how to identify any other kind.

- Social validation and hierarchy. When people are teens they try to be seen as "adults." They don't like to be marginalized, like "you're just a kid, you wouldn't understand."
So they go after the trappings of what they think make them look like an adult, like they "understand."
Drink, drink coffee, smoke, get a car, go to college and get "woke," move out "on their own," get an older "partner." If the older person sees them as a "serious" romantic interest, then they "must" be their peer, they must be taken as seriously and knowledgeable as all the other "adults." Transferred authority in a sense.

- Beta, simping, orbiting, security. Some people feel better working for others. They feel "safer" working for an employer rather than starting their own business, or with an unknown partner.
Someone "older" can be seen as "easier" in acquiring the security of a relationship. The "older" person is established, the "older" person has developed relationships, career, social trappings like a home.
The "older" person has their "life together, takes care of themselves," and the younger just wants to slip in and be covered by that umbrella of someone that "seems" to know what they're doing, stable, providing the "younger" person with something in exchange for youth, energy, beauty, exuberance, and wearing their emotions on their sleeve.

- Guaranteed shelf life. A lot of people don't "really" want relationships that last. They may want something dramatic, they may want just sex, they may just want a compartmentalized short term relationship that's guaranteed to fail due to the irreconcilable differences that stem from age disparity.

- Stereotypes. Some people see older as "easier." They perceive older people to not want sex as much, therefore "serious" about an ego validating relationship and not after just "one thing," so less having to figure out if they're being "used" or not.
Some people see older as "easier" and "desperate" for attention or a relationship, not having to compete with as many people.

- Sometimes it's some combination of the above, or over time one morphs into another.


"Ok" isn't all that relevant.
It is "normal" to have feelings for (insert whatever descriptor here. Older, younger, fat, thin, ugly, hot, blonde, crippled, whatever) women while you are at your peak.
One thing you should realize is all "feelings" you have specifically towards women (assuming you are hetero) are based on procreation.
The rest is just rationalizing your approach and tactics to be "successful" at getting what you really want. Basic motivation is to attempt to procreate.


Not much to discuss.
At best you want to learn your own motives.
At worst you just want an opening to wax poetic about "older women" as though that will earn you some kind of brownie points.

Maybe the younger generation admire the wrinkles of older people and just want to experience them on a personal basis.

Long live wrinkles!

Meh, nothing complicate about this. Personal preference and experience.