and now that i figured it out, i have one question, and this is for the ladies. Why is it that most women are so superficial , that they will not date a heavy set male?

this is added on later, it seems that those of you who have not liked my question have sat there and targeted me as the superficial one, and point out quickly that i prefer not to date heavy set women. well if your going to judge me like that, then express the whole statement that was said, which is:

"ALthough i am a big guy though, i prefer not to date larger women, mostly because of the insecurities they have, but also because there is little attraction there"

note the insecurities. i know a big women can be just as beautiful as a smaller women, and i have dated a few heavy set women who were a hell of alot more beautiful than any of the smaller women i have dated. ty

Call it whatever you wish. My personal preference is a man that is in shape. I work very hard to keep my figure and I don't think it is unreasonable to expect the same.

Call it whatever you wish. My personal preference is a man that is in shape. I work very hard to keep my figure and I don't think it is unreasonable to expect the same. that and I find it VERY un~attractive.

Maybe you haven't found the right lady yet. Not all of us look at only the outside. Most of us look much deeper, and when we like what we see, that's who we end up with.

Welcome to JSH, you'll like it here.

Wow ... superficial. The information about yourself says you do not date heavy women either. How can you, be a bigger guy, be mad that women will not date you because you are big but you will not give big women a chance.

Let me just say that I am a bigger female and I prefer guys that are closer to my size and build. The skinny guys just do not do anything for me.

Sorry if you think I was rude. Just being truthful.

WITH THIS ^ I COMPLETY AGREE.
BUT,THEN AGAIN.....................
I'M AFRAID HE MIGHT SQUISH ME...................


(NO OFFENSE, JUST HONESTY)

Howdy and Welcome to JSH

you want to call most women superficial when you said that you prefer smaller women... hypocritical a lil??

Hey Shallow Ron.
Try reading your own profile and go from there.
I'm not real worried about what you think of me, so don't bother to go there.
Your not only too young for me, but I know big is not in as well. And yes, I am big, BUT, I am also working on that problem too.
I'm not trying to be mean here, just truthful. And if I have any say in it, which I do, I will not be big all my life.

PMS

i have dated heavier set women, but if you read my profile, then youll also have read why i dont like to , its all about insecurities. if the woman is totally secure with her self, then i can find my self attracted, and no, not at all did i think you were rude. You answered my question , and thank you.

lol, ive heard that one plenty of times lmao, ty

before you try to attack me, finish reading my profile, it explains why

AMEN SISTER I AM RIGHT THERE WITH YOU

BRENNEN I MUST SAY I AGREE WITH SOME OF THE OTHER WOMEN U SHOULD REALLY CHANGE YOUR PROFILE CUZ WHILE UR WORRIED ABOUT PEOPLE PUSHING U OFF CUZ UR LARGER YOU HURT US LARGER LADIES IN THE PROCESS!!

people are shallow and it aint just the guys who suffer! us heavyset females do too!

welcome!

attraction is based on first appearance. i have dated "skinny", "athletic", and "big and handsome" men. I am usually attracted to bigger guys, because i am a larger woman also. attraction is one thing, but true love comes from getting to know the person as a whole..not just the physical.

Personally--i would much rather be with a big man that treated me like a queen than with a skinny or athletic man that treated me like ****!!!!!!!!!!

I did read your profile. And I have all the insurities of being heavy, like most heavy people do. It's from being made fun of most of my life, for being overweight, wearing glasses, not being rich enough to wear all the name brands, you name it. Also I am Italian, I come from a family of eaters. Besides, how many skinny Italian's do you know. LOL (that reference is made towords me only, my dad is full blooded and is thin)
OH, and by the way, that pic is 2-3 years old, but it's the only one I have of me in my pc, sorry.
I am working on getting a Lap Band next year. I just found out my insurance will cover it. YAY for me, I'm a happy camper.

PMS

I do not judge by size when dating so not all do. Welcome and good luck with your search.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!! HOPE ALL GOES WELL!

I read your profile,you sound like you might be somewhat insecure yourself. Not all women judge men/people by their looks, personally I think it is more whats on the inside and not on the outside that is more important. If your not happy with your situation then change it with small steps.