...being married.

I've been married twice. The first to a man who did not want to work, was not ready to let his partying days ago...we were both too young...

The second to a man who I learned long after we were married was incapable of attatching himself emotionally to anyone, including me.

Still.....I miss the way we were in the beginning. How any time apart seemed like etermity, we could not get enough of one another. I miss knowing even if the rest of the world was against you, there was one person in your corner.

I miss the spontaneous moments between us, the secret codes and the private jokes. I miss the comfort in not being embarrassed with someone who has seen you at you're very worst, sick and losing your lunch in the commode, but comes in and holds your hair back anyway.

I miss arms that comfort me in the middle of night when I've had a bad dream. I miss the secreat glances between us and sometimes looking up and finding him watching me with a sweet smile on his face. I miss hugs from behind when I'm doing dishes.

I was never one to complain about him leaving the cap off the toothpaste, not replacing the toilet paper roll, leaving the seat up, or not taking out the trash, but I miss it anyway.

I miss looking down at my left hand and seeing the ring(s) both took great care in choosing for me, and wonder, will there ever be a ring there again. I'm thinkin, probably not...I don't think I will ever getting over missing it though.

I COULDN'T HAVE SAID IT ANY BETTER. THANKS FOR PUT IT INTO WORDS.

Awww that was really sad...

Made me miss my ex-husband for a second...but then I snapped out of it!

Seriously, I can relate to how you are feeling...

I guess, I miss the little things...

((((((((lilbug))))))))

I agree lilbug and feel the same. I don't miss the ex, but I miss being in love. Keep the faith and think positively. You'll find someone who will feel the same for you.

I hope typing that made you feel better. You're far from alone.

I hate how much I still to this day miss my ex. He ended up treating me horribly but still the most random things remind me of how things were before it ended up there.

He used to balance on one foot while he was doing things in the kitchen. I was washing dishes just this past weekend, stood one foot to reach for something, and immediately thought of him. He had such a beautiful smile.

Now I think I'm just too pissed off and scared to ever be able to have that again.

I miss my ex but my aim is getting better. And I bought a bigger gun.

Thanks everyone for your replies and thoughts.

I'm thinkin there are far too many lonely hearts....and wonder why??

Yep......

ya the little things.......wished it was bigger!!!

shhhhhhhhh muriel!!! youre terrible!!!

LOL Gypsy...thanks for the giggle!

I want the little things and yea the bigger things too

I dont miss his loud snoring at all......would keep me up all night.....finally I just slept on the couch....

lilbug, I can so relate. I too stayed in it way too long and the kindness I miss, the friendship the closeness that once was. The change in him I don't miss at all. It is almost like dealing with death, it's a drastic loss. I miss being in love and in a happy marriage, too. I teared up a little reading your post. It's been a long time since that level of oneness has been a part of my life and it made me recall. I miss the little things, too.

AMEN SISTA!!!! i pray you find it again someday darlin xoxoxoxo

Well i dont miss the little things i miss his big thang.....lol

It's easy to find that if that's what you want. ;)
The real love isn't as easy to find.

I think humans by design aren't meant to be alone. I've been divorced for almost 2 years now, and he's remarried (he could never be alone)

I do miss the arm searching for me in the middle of the night, or the small things he did out of love in the beginning. However, I don't miss him doing those things, I just miss the companionship.

Someday my prince will come, until then, having to kiss a lot of toads

iam divorced (almost a year) the last time he looked at me with that look (1 month ago)i just remember i was arrested for slapping him after he assulted me and he told the 6 years we were together ment nothing and he never loved and only wanted legal custody of his daughter (the day i told him i wanted a divorce), i look at him and hope something we had was real, but ......... what can i say... i hope theres a man out there that can put up with me and really love me ... till then I'll miss waking up with someone beside me, sharing my ice cream, hiding the towels while he showers, and being someone's other half

Robbi, I agree with you..I miss being in love and married.