I know what you mean Tanyaann I used to live in Michigan
for years but moved here to AZ 14yrs ago. They just
passed this law here in AZ in May. But it dosent
apply to the clubs like Moose lodge or American Legion
the private clubs are exempt from this law.
It is so nice now to go into a bar or resturant
without coming out smelling like an ash tray.

I dunno know but it never occured to me yet to stop smoking... uhm... but it doesnt follow that I am a goodlooking guy... hehe

There being probably several thousand people on the site.. and by all indications more men then woman.. I'd think that there would be a few guys you'd find attractive that don't smoke. Hang in there. You seem to be an attractive young lady and the numbers are in your favor.

After reading your profile though.. aside from the smoking.. you do seem as if you are painting your world to be a bit small.

For instance...A history of drug use/ alcohol use...does not always equate to a bad thing. I know many ~ myself included ~ that use the experience to help others avoid it. That was the basis for my past tenure in social services. Part of which was in direct support to domestic violence protection services. As well as mentoring men who were convicted of said crime/ other criminal behaviors.

I understand the age thing.. but people are still just people. You might find someone near my age who fits you.. but he probably won't find you, after reading your profile. He couldn't email you even if he wanted to anyway..

Then the distance challenged... Distance ~ As much emphasis as we tend to put on it.. is really one of the least of the issues that kill a relationship. If you don't want to leave Detroit.. I'm sure there are men out there that might be willing to relocate from wherever...

I know that over the years.. even before Internet dating, I have racked up enough frequent flyer miles to book a few trips around the world... getting to know people I have met. I've also ripped up my life and relocated once, with no regrets! I've considered it 3 times in the last 4 years too.. traveling to far flung places after meeting women via the net. Actually securing a few job offers in a community 2300 miles away. What stopped me was not the distance..but honesty, communication and compatibility challenges that could not be overcome... standard fare in the demise of any relationship distant or near.

So.. maybe loosen up the physical and surface standards some... give a few more of these guys a shot. You really have nothing to lose for it.

Best of luck to you.

Have the man not smoke around your son. Unless the man smokes 24/7 there should be no problem. There is no drug on Earth that is even close to being as bad as cigarettes.

so true..they say cigeratte smoke is just as bad and addicting as crack..its scary..but i do beleive if u do crack enough, it will kill you faster than cigerattes..i know people that have killed themselves on crack and they did so much of it, it didnt take long for them to die

That doesn't always work.. The smoke gets into fiber and hangs. It can trigger a reaction several hours, days after for those especially sensitive.

Thank you, you said it before I could.

i did quit cold turkey....to me its mind over matter on everything

I quit cold turkey, I think that's the best way. You aren't going to do anything until you make up your mind to do so. But, I know that some people need a little help, however some people that use the patch or other aids, become addicted to them or start smoking again. Good luck to everyone who is quitting!! Make it a life goal though, not a New Years resolution.

I know how you feel about not wanting to date a smoker. I have asthma and so does my son...so to be honest it is more of a medical issue. I actually did date a smoker and it was horrible. He knew we both had asthma but it seemed that it didn't really matter to him.
I finally said that he either had to stop smoking OR he needed to change all of his clothes before he was around us. I think when people smoke they just don't think about it...its becomes a habit and they just naturally light up. Needless to say, he is still smoking but it won't ever be in my home again

SOME GOOD GUYS CHEW, IS THAT OKAY ?

I've never smoked a cigarette in my life, but it doesn't bother me if someone else does. I'll take a smoker over a drinker any day....

Amen to that..me too..at least cigerattes dont get u High

I beg to differ.. When I first started smoking.. I could barely walk for several minutes after the first few drags...

I think chewing is more disgusting than smoking

I agree chewing is one of the most nastiest
habits anyone could ever have, YUCK!!!!!!

Makes me want to puke just thinking about it.

I'm a good guy who doesn't smoke

If the guy is worth it, and he feels the same, he will stop smoking. I was with my childrens father for 5 years, he initially lied about smoking, and then NEVER quit, to this day.

The first guy I started dating after him, I found out smoked, and I told him that smoking and the smell is a HUGE turn off to me, and what did he do? quit COLD TURKEY!

We aren't dating anymore and he hasn't smoked since he quit.

You may love it but at what cost? When these laws go into effect, people quit smoking. Taxes are raised and more people quit. Now this money has to be made up somewhere and as a result, many of our other taxes go up as well. Tobacco products bring in billions of dollars. What is going to happen when nobody is smoking?

I would also like to add. I am a smoker but I would quit for the right person and if they couldn't be around smoke, I would not smoke around them at all during the dating process.

I don't smoke anymore and my children are both allergic....