In all seriously It is a great thing that you want to do. Change is a hard thing but it even more worth it when you are doing it for a child. As long as you are doing it for the right reason then the hardness of it should not even be an issue.

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IDK, I guess the main reason why I'm stressin' over this is because I know how hard life was for me, and still is, and I don't want it to be such a sturggle for him, I want him to have it better than I did, I want him to experience what I didn't (in a good way of course).

I see nothing but hope in his eyes already. The other day I heard he say his first words at only 2 months old, I know he's gonna be something amazing.

I don't know, maybe I just see the struggle he has ahead of him, and I'm hoping he can overcome it, and not be a product of his envioment.

all we can do is try to make things better bro, all the power to ya.!!!!!

It seems like he has a great roll model. And it is like with any roll model( whether it be perental or non perental) all you can do is try your best and do things differently then you have had them done in your life. Nobody ever said raising and/or being there for a child is easy but i can tell you that it is one of THE greatest joys you will ever have in your life.

Totage... You are a great man! Not all men are willing to stand up like you are doing! Props to you!

i agree

Yeah, I hope that when he grows up he can look back and see that I was there for him, and that I was a big POSITIVE influenece in his life.

I just want to be there for him no matter what. I want to teach him things, I want to help him through his problems, I want to be there for him like a second dad. I don't want to replace his real dad or anything, I just want him to know that I there for him no matter what.

If he has a problem I want him to know he can come to me and there will be no negative consequences, only resolution and positive consequences, whiole at the same time teaching him right from wrong.

I just know he will have problems I might not be able to help him with, I just want to let him know I'll be there regardless.

cheers mate.!!!!!!!

Hope all goes well for you!!!

Merry Christmas!!!!

Cheers to all

May we all be the best role model for those who look to us for how to become.

This child is the best thing in my life. I just hope I can be there for him. I hope I can be as big a part in his life as he is of mine. I just hope that I can change my ways now, so that he has an even better chance.

Totage,

You'll make it because you have already determined to do so and have put your word on it before all.

I did it too, though the child was my own, but 13 years of self sacrifice and being there 100% for a small child to a young man has grown me beyond the sacrifices.

You will do it just fine.


One thing I did, was to exemplify that I'm not a revolving door od relationships.

And the only guarantee i had was to be abstinant and single.

It worked. Now I'm free to move forward with my life somewhat, but not altogether.

The Childrens' love IS SO WORTH IT !!!!!!!!


go for it!!!!!!!!!

Thank you all for the support and feedback, it has helped alot already.

I know I will be a good influence in his life, I just want to make sure he knows how mazing he is, despite his parents problems, I want him to know that he was NOT an accident, mistake, burrden, or anything like that. I want him to know that he CAN do ANYTHING he wishes, because I beleive in him, and I want him to believe in himself despite whatever comes his way. I know his mother feels the same way, I'm just not too sure about his father, but I want him to decide his father role in his life NOT e or his mother.

Thank you all for the support and feedback, it has helped alot already.

I know I will be a good influence in his life, I just want to make sure he knows how mazing he is, despite his parents problems, I want him to know that he was NOT an accident, mistake, burrden, or anything like that. I want him to know that he CAN do ANYTHING he wishes, because I beleive in him, and I want him to believe in himself despite whatever comes his way. I know his mother feels the same way, I'm just not too sure about his father, but I want him to decide his father role in his life NOT e or his mother.

Wow, the fact that you care so much for a child that isn't yours says a lot about your own integrity. That alone is a VERY valuable trait to teach anyone. Another thing to show this child is that we are not perfect and all make mistakes. Children are fragile and need to be handled with prayer and love. It sounds like you are already doing a great job with this child and he looks up to as a positive role model.

I guess he already recognizes my picture, because I just spoke with his mother a few minutes ago,and she said he was looking at a picture of me, and just smiling. I think he knows that I care for him deeply already, I think he can feel it when I see him, I just hope that we have a great future together, and I can show him the way, or atleast be a big part of showing him the way.

This child IS pratically my own son, atleast the closest I have to my own right now, I just hope that I can be atleast one of the best influences in his life despite my own path and choices.

But, it's becase of him that I really have to force myself to change things that I'm not really ready to change right now. I mean I have to change things right now that I was planning on preparing to change, but I guess it's all for the best, atleast I hope so.