To men, sex is more physical while to women, it is more emotional. Yes, both partners have a responsibility to make it good for their partner. If you can't express what you enjoy to your partner, how can they give you a satisfying experience? Likewise if you have sexual hangups and are unwilling to give your partner what they desire, how can you expect them to have a positive experience? Unfortunately, many people still have many issues and are sexually repressed. One other key, you can only change your own knowledge and performance not your partners. They are either willing to learn and adapt or not!! IMO, if it isn't a danger to your health, give it a try!!!