If you read the boards regularly ya sort of know my story. But in
short the ex left me 6 months ago for a woman. Once I got over the blunt
force of that blow I started letting it be known I was single. I had a
few who were honest and asked me if I wanted to get laid only as they
were "happily married" just wanted to have fun. A couple flat out lied
and we chatted for different lengths of time online. One finally said
lets hook up this weekend. I suggested a few places to go and her reply
was why not your place. When I replied no she suggested a hotel/motel.
When I said no again and that I did not have sex with strangers her
reply was her husband would not like her to date another man and she
proceeded to try and destroy my rep on an email list we both belonged
to(aquarium fish group). The other was not so bad but she strung me
along for a few weeks and finally told me her husband was a truck driver
only home one weekend a month and she had told him to choose her or
driving the truck. I told her if she left him to contact me again and I
have not heard back.

So why is it I can not find an actual date but plenty of cheater?

Sweetie, you're just meeting the wrong gals right now. Don't fall for
the first pretty face that comes along, and don't believe all the things
those pretty faces tell you. A good person will be able to take the
time to write, to IM, to talk on the phone. And over time, a trust will
build.

Don't be so anxious to put the cart before the horse. I've been
divorced 13 years, and I figure, "What's the hurry?" I like my own
company today, and enjoy the freedom eat spaghetti for breakfast and ice
cream for dinner. Not really, but I enjoy the idea that I can choose.

Sit back, get comfortable and enjoy the show! It's wild out here!!!

Right now I am just looking for a person to go out and have a good time
with and if it goes further so be it. A friendship turning to love is
how you get a long lasting relationship. I just can not see how people
think they are happily married yet are cheating like the one told me.

BTW any single ladies going to be in the area for the TN walking horse
show Sat. the 2nd(Shelbyville TN)? A good public meeting place for
safety and a laid back good time for horse lovers like me.

honeyrobber

I love to answer that for ya,if only I knew the answer I have the same prob,but I have slowed down a bit.
I am going to go with ImJusKat58 on this,sh is very right as I am coming to see my self being 24.if u rush it your gonna get the worst of it.

I was with a girl for about 2 year and was engaged and on wedding day she never showed up she had been seeing her ex.I am with u I would loe to have someone to just hang out with,pretty sad I went so long with out knowing.


but take your time there are plenty of true,honest loving woman out there,just gotta wait,but u will have to go through the bad ones first.

Some PEOPLE!! that is scary! what do we have to do now? ask to see the divorce papers?

Ask the right questions and listen. No...LISTEN. The average person is self-centered and self-serving. This is not pessimistic talk, just straight talk. With that, be prudent in your approach and pointed in your listening. Read through lines. Lies leave holes that are easy to see. It's not a phenomenon that you are coming across women that want to cheat. In my short ;) years, I've come to find the differences between men and women tend to be, well...not that striking. Human first, gender second. Thank of the talks I'm sure you've heard or had with guy friends. Girls have those very talks. Again, active listening and prudence.

That is something you have to figer out, just keep weeding through the cheaters

Oh good grief!! Men are now having to deal with what women have dealt with from the beginning of time! Welcome to our world.

Just measure your happiness by your smile. If your not smiling........ If you are, but it doesn't feel right? Try being friends.