The whole world has issues my friend....Its how you sort them out that counts !

Stay in there.

I have pic and no emails, but thats cool, I enjoy the boards. I take that back, I have a few emails, but from gay guys, so, that don't really count Anyway, just look at it as more than just a dating site.

What puzzles me: someone shows up as a Mutual Match. You send a warm note. "Let's get acquainted." You don't hear back, not even a "Thanks for getting in touch." Why did they bother mutualing matching you in the first place?

Someone sends you three warm, sincere notes. Each time, you reply warmly and sincerely. You're not putting each other on. You're really starting to get acquainted. You find you have a number of interests and experiences in common. It seems you actually like each other. They say they're looking for a long-term, loving relationship, not just casual dating. Okay, sounds good. They've seen your pic and your profile. Presumably your appearance hasn't turned them off. Then... nothing. You write again: are you okay, do you want to want to keep communicating? No reply. What's the point?

I have the impression that most women on sites like these, let's say women over the age of 50, get contacted frequently and are very picky and choosy about whom they'll respond to. Fair enough. But if they feel that the guy who's contacting them isn't a flake, why not return courtesy with courtesy?

A woman who knows she wants a relationship with a guy who's her equal and who knows that, at her age, neither she nor any partner will ever be perfect will have plenty of quality guys expressing an interest in getting to know her. If she truly wants the integrity, honesty, care and passion she routinely says, in her profiles, she wants, she won't snub even the least attractive guy who contacts her. With an integrity of her own, she's reply to each one if only to say good luck.

Girls can be forgiven many things. Not so a woman who aspires to be a loving, caring adult. The same, of course, goes for us guys who aspire to be loving caring adults as well.

I do agree with the first part of your post. I have been on this site for about a month; have tried a few postings, e-mails to Mutal Matches, you know getting my feet wet. And most of the guys do not respond back at all, not even a courtesy "Hi, but not intereted."
As for second part of your posting, I disagree! I'm over 50 and have not been contacted frequently!! Yes, I know what I want in a relationship, but also like having friends to talk with. I ALWAYS answer anyone that e-mails me and hope that we can at least chat as friends!

Mine is empty as well

I'm not a guy nor gay and I would e-mail you!!

Well, Alakabir, This is what I have to say to you about not getting any mail. First of all, you don't have a pic. Second, your profile says your looking for an intimate encounter. Right??????????? So, why would any woman want to think about an intimate encounter with someone that has no pic and doesn't really say anything in their profile?????????? Come on now. If I was looking for that, which I'm not, I wouldn't give you the time of day. You have to attract attention to yourself. Get women interested in you. What do you have to offer them???????? Entice them to become interested and then I'm sure you will get some mail. Ok??? Goood luck to you.

So is mine, but then again who cares? I just like the conversation anyway, but that's just me.

Besides adding a pic i would have to say that you are married and looking for an intimate encounter. Thats a huge deterent... Most girls prefer faithfulness... We are pretty crazy that way.

I sympathize. My experience with every dating site that I've used has been one of frustration. I actually journaled about the phenomenon at OKCupid and the general response was, "Suck it up. You're not entitled to a response from anybody."

Although I had to acknowledge that was true, I have also concluded that an attitude like that is harmful nonetheless. I can only surmise that there are many people who use dating web sites either with unrealistic expectations or with the specific expectation that they don't want to get involved with somebody from a dating web site.

In either case, the result is that many members are not willing to engage in [private] communication with other members under most circumstances. This is unfortunate because it undermines the effectiveness of the service as a means of bringing together like-minded people. Even though neither may claim to be entitled to any communication, it seems that one robs oneself and others when one chooses to isolate oneself.

As an aside to those who would encourage others to become more deeply involved in the forums and to just enjoy the community, I'd like to note that one of my larger goals in getting involved in internet dating is the first place is to find somebody to get me OUT of my apartment. I've spent thousands of hours using the internet as a surrogate for "real" human interaction. Joining another online community and putting my goal of meeting people in real life on the back burner would be a step backward.

Join the communities and talk. We have so much fun cuttin up. Even if our e-mails are empty we tend to look at who we are cuttin up with and then we chat elsewhere. Sometimes friends are better then forcing on the other things. Gotta have fun first.

You are soooo right....can't believe anyone would take this guy seriously....no picture, why, because he is married looking for an intimate encounter....I promised myself I wouldn't cuss or call people names....but if I didn't promise....I would have a long list of negative things to call this guy

All I can say is I feel sorry for your wife....I better shut up now before I say what I really think about this....

Oh, golly, I didn't even check out the OP's vitals before I responded. I still mean what I said, but it helps give me some perspective on WHY everybody is so closed off and private.

I feel for you....last night I had this girl IM me...she probably lives an hour or so from me....after a few short replies back & forth she suddenly closes her screen....Now I've had many conversations & didn't say anything that would lead to someone just shutting down on me....rude...maybe I live too far from her, cause all we really talked about were our respective locations....so I guess you never know...being on the internet seems like a license for some to be as rude as they want....

Or What I like is that you email someone tell them that you think that they have a great picture and that you are intrigued by their profile and they don't even send you a Thank You!!! That is just plain no manners!!!

No manners is right...that's happened to me too....I try to write back to someone whose written to me....after all, they put themselves on the line & that isn't easy to do...sensitivity, I think more of us need to practice it...

by the way I like your picture & profile....& you don't have to write back...lol

Oh my goodness. You use language like that no wonder you get no responses.

I've never had an issue with mail.

If the IM was taking place on JSH, that's normal for the window to accidentally close .. it's happened to me a number of times. At first I took it personally and then the person would email me and tell me that it just closed....

Are you having a bad day or what? Geesh do you really think anyone will email you after this? HMM I really doubt that they will...I know you scare me!! BUT hey cheers to you!! haha

Good call hon. I didn't even THINK to look at his status .. wth are you doing on here if you are married? And even if you changed what you are looking for to someone to do something with, heck., isn't that what your wife is for?