I just received a letter from my ex, telling me he is still in love with me and has never been out of love with me. I say thank you for the compliment but where was all that love when we were arguing and ended the relationship. He is not the first to do it and it confuses me.

I am really asking for honest answers here. Is it because the grass wasn't greener and they realize this now or what????

I always put it down to the fact that they are having problems with the other ladies and are just throwing out lines to see how the reception is......but I just do not know???

Any ideas?????

dont do it.my ex still calls me w his undying love confessions.the only thing that never ends is the hurt he keeps giving me.i hope there are no kids involved because they hurt as well.

well it depends on whether you still love him or not. Sometimes they realize what they had after they lost it. If things are still good between you guys and he didn't really do anything wrong, sometimes everyone deserves a second chance. You just need to think on whether you actually want to give him that second chance, and whether or not you actually want to be with him again...

Yes, once it's over it's over.. What can you go back to more of the same? What's going to change just that he relizes he loves you? What about the next time he's not feeling so loving.. Are you up for the never ending merry go round??

I don't know if this helps any Dragon. A friend of mine thought I had it made being single and no one to answer to. She left her hubsand, and was back with him in under six months. When she went back she said to me........the grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. So maybe he is having second thoughts and realizing what you had was special, and wanting to work things out.

Hey there Dragoness. I was married for 11 years with her for 13 I still love her and will be the first to tell her. I just know that we are better apart. I have dated others and its not that the grass is any greener. I just have not found the right one yet. Guys really do have feelings to even though we dont always show it.Maybe it would be better if you two could just be friends.

Thank you ladies,

Hey there..


dealing with the frictions is no picnic for guys either.

the bad fades and the good returns to owr minds.

after being jerked around enough, guys will walk away from a good thing too easily.

if there is any flexibility left to re-ignite the spark that once was, then maybe another try is possible.

Guys just don't want to be where they aren't wanted, even if the scenario is imagined and not real.

just a thought to get the ball bouncing....

Hey ... How long were you all together...???? Some times people just get in a "rut" and they think they have to look other places to get a little excitement back in their lives.... but once they are out there...it's the same ole "rut" just with different people.....

We were supposed to be being just friends, that is where it stood. I believe that we could be good together but only if we are both different people now. It has been years since we were together. After all those years of being apart, a man can still be in love with a woman?????

Interesting wouldee, we were bad at the end there. A something to think about, thanks

yup, guys can....

We were together for four years and have been apart for four years in January.

Wow, that is an eye opener, I guess cause we see guys as being hard and emotionless. Thanks

I can't speak for him or his intentions. For me though.. I am good friends with old girlfriends, my ex-wife.. dating back as far as my sophmore year in highschool. I spent a significant period of time from age 23, well into my late thirties with my ex- wife... and my highschool sweetheart took up to age 22. So to think of those two without using the word love...is not something I am capable of. It has evolved to a dear friendship with both now.. and I'd do anything for them. I assure you, when I convey it to them, or they to me.. it is genuine, with no expectations.

I do know that just because you love someone is not a guarentee of being able to get along. Thanks guys, we sure have some great guys on here huh?

Yes we do Dragon. I truly believe that you always have room in your heart for someone you once loved. If you both have grown, and realized what went wrong and why, you may be able to work things out. Whatever you decide, I know that in your heart you will know its the right answer

it takes two

I too have ex's that I love dearly as friends now, but he is claiming the in love want to try again stuff and I am confused by that concept. If this is true, he left in love, has carried on his life in love and so on??????

Thanks snugs and I know you are right, time will tell, I am sure. I was just curious about it from a man's point of view.