Topic: I love getting advice here
stevenpwis's photo
Fri 12/14/07 02:51 PM
I'm going to try to make this my last question, I don't want to get too irritating to people on here. I've been with my girlfriend for a little over a month now. How often should I see her? Every day? Three times a week? Not too sure. I know my last girlfriend I was with, we were together for 6 years and we only saw each other on weekends, and not even the whole weekend because I worked during the day. I'm sure it's too early to see Kelly everyday, don't want to get her sick of me all ready.

CaRisLOVE's photo
Fri 12/14/07 02:52 PM
as much as possible

hardworkingmom2's photo
Fri 12/14/07 02:53 PM
You're thinking about it too hard...when ya'll wanna see each other just go see her. The only reason she would say no is if she was hiding something

no photo
Fri 12/14/07 02:54 PM
It honestly depends, some people like constant companionship and want to be with you all the time. Some dont need it and like their alone time. It all depends on what she wants.

caper_girl34's photo
Fri 12/14/07 02:54 PM
Well when ever you can see each other.I think spending time with the one you love is a huge part of a relationship.So I would spend as much time as possible.

stevenpwis's photo
Fri 12/14/07 02:58 PM
well, we're not really in love at this point, it's a little early to tell at this point. I do like my alone time, and I'm sure she does as well.

no photo
Fri 12/14/07 02:59 PM
Depends, some women are more clingy than others. Maybe call her everyday but seeing each other should be a mutual agreement. You go to her house she come to yours type of thing.

MicheleNC's photo
Fri 12/14/07 03:02 PM
Steven...stop thinking so much. See each other when you want to and when time allows. Make dates to do stuff so you have plans (girls like that).

Breathe in, breathe out. Now do that 10 times.

flowerforyou M

stevenpwis's photo
Fri 12/14/07 03:05 PM
I do think too much, I'm crazy like that

s1owhand's photo
Fri 12/14/07 03:06 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0uKwo7exlEY

MsTeddyBear2u's photo
Fri 12/14/07 03:06 PM
You should see her as much as the two of you can agree on time... everyone is different...some like alot of time- some little...What ever you two are comfortable with together.
Discuss this with her. flowerforyou

mgilligan's photo
Fri 12/14/07 03:11 PM
If you're not sure how much to see her try feeling her out (not in that way). Invite her out a few times a week see if she likes it, see if she starts making excuses, and if she does don't freak out sometimes people are just busy. There really aren't any rules in love. As long as you are seeing her enough that you both feel appreceated and not so often you lose touch with all your other friends thats fine.

If you think you are trying to see her too much, try backing off just a little bit and see if she initiates a date with you. Everyone likes to be pursued but it should be give and take, you shouldn't be the one initiaiting dates all the time.

I know how it can be when you like someone and want to be with them all the time but everyone needs time without. Its the absense of someone we care about that helps us realize how much we really care.

Then last of all after a bunch of strangers give you advice (even if its good advice) talk to your girl. Open communication is the key to a great relationship. You don't have to come out and pour your heart out all at once and scare the girl but next time your hanging out tell her you like spending time with her and you would like to do it more. If shes a good girl and you're honest about it she should tell you how she feels and you won't have to spend your time worrying about it. Trust me I have been there and there is nothing worse then questioning your every move so relax I am sure things are better than you think.

Just_Say_When's photo
Fri 12/14/07 03:17 PM
Or...you could just ask her directly. Ask her if she's satisfied with the amount of time you spend with her...and then listen to her answer. That way you don't have to guess.

stevenpwis's photo
Fri 12/14/07 03:22 PM
i don't think I really want to ask her that quite yet, don't want to creep her out if i want to see her more than she wants to see me, or I don't want to upset her if she wants to see me more than I want to see her.

CaRisLOVE's photo
Fri 12/14/07 03:27 PM

Or...you could just ask her directly. Ask her if she's satisfied with the amount of time you spend with her...and then listen to her answer. That way you don't have to guess.


OoOoo another real woman!
love yooowzaaaa!

Just_Say_When's photo
Fri 12/14/07 03:29 PM
smokin Thanks!:smile:

stevenpwis's photo
Fri 12/14/07 03:30 PM
Honestly, I don't know why I posted this, maybe for attention, who knows...crazy me. I think I already know the answer to my own question. I like my free time, doing what I do, and I know she has her art projects she likes to do at home, and she is also trying to finish up a novel she is writing.

Mossop's photo
Fri 12/14/07 03:31 PM
Don't worry my friend.....I will fill in for you when you can't make it.....devil devil devil

It's all down to how much you want to see each other.......If you are starting to feel that its becoming a drag seeing her so much.....Well just maybe you don't have that much going for you both !

stevenpwis's photo
Fri 12/14/07 03:32 PM

Don't worry my friend.....I will fill in for you when you can't make it.....devil devil devil

It's all down to how much you want to see each other.......If you are starting to feel that its becoming a drag seeing her so much.....Well just maybe you don't have that much going for you both !


We've only been seeing each other for a month

CaRisLOVE's photo
Fri 12/14/07 03:33 PM

Honestly, I don't know why I posted this, maybe for attention, who knows...crazy me. I think I already know the answer to my own question. I like my free time, doing what I do, and I know she has her art projects she likes to do at home, and she is also trying to finish up a novel she is writing.


dude just go with tha flow
let her have her time alone with her girls and you have yours
but iuf she calls you and actually says she misses you
dats when you see each other