Topic: How do you tell a nice guy that it isn't working
willn1k's photo
Wed 12/12/07 12:28 AM
Women tell me I am too nice when I ask them out

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Wed 12/12/07 12:33 AM
So be mean when you ask them out. :P

willn1k's photo
Wed 12/12/07 12:35 AM
I can't, it is not who I am.

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Wed 12/12/07 12:36 AM
I was kidding.

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Wed 12/12/07 12:38 AM
But everybody tell me to do that

Bobby0414's photo
Wed 12/12/07 12:38 AM
Just be honest and tell him that you dont believe that it is going to work out for either of you. I just went through a similiar situation and we hit it off great. I thought I was going to fall in love with her. So she lead me to believe.
I was conviced that she was the one
but then.......
We went to TGIF and she bought me dinner and we had a great time
It seemed to good to be true how we got along
then the very next she says she cant do this
Please refer to my posting 4 days ago
Well, I met a great a girl on here and I was thinking that possibly she was the "one" We have only known each other for a short time. But no one has ever made me feel like this before. Everything was going great we were getting along like I never have before. I was thinking that it had potential to be something great some that doesnt come around everyday in this life. I was with her last night and its was great we kissed and held each other for god knows long. I care deeply about her and I want nothing more than for her to be in my life.Then today she drops the bomb on me that she cant do this. Saying it wasnt me that I was great but she isnt ready for a relationship. I pleaded I think for her to re think this situation. Its seems that her mind made up. She says she is falling in love with me and vice versa. But she is scared. I told her there is a reason that were brought together and not to throw it away because it may never come into her life again and the same for me. I keep begging her not to go (maybe im dumb) My mind is telling me " hey, dummmy! You just met her. Forget about it." My heart is telling me she is special and to continue to try to keep her in my life. It doesnt look like it will happen. Im shattered and I wish I could change her mind. She claims she cares deeply for me but thats why she is leaving me alone. I tell her to get out of my life but then I call her 10 minutes later and beg for her to stay with me. Do I continue the fight or give up?
Is she worth it? Or are the feelings that I have for her worth putting myself through this? What do you think please let me know. Is everything a baited hook?
Angels arent supposed to fly so low

:-( Signed a broken heart and now

We no longer speak at all
be gentle but firm
instead of the bouncing back and forth it will save both of you time

Bobby0414's photo
Wed 12/12/07 12:40 AM
By the way Damn Im still hurting from that :-(

willn1k's photo
Wed 12/12/07 12:42 AM
at least you went on a date

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Wed 12/12/07 12:42 AM

By the way Damn Im still hurting from that :-(



Aww, I'm sorry.

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Wed 12/12/07 12:44 AM

at least you went on a date


Just a suggestion? You say on your profile that you don't like fat women. Maybe that's a turnoff to potential dates? The average female is not rail thin, so you're probably reducing your chances with that. Just a thought...

willn1k's photo
Wed 12/12/07 12:45 AM
heavy set is what I mean

Bobby0414's photo
Wed 12/12/07 12:51 AM
yea man that a really line to put in your profile
beauty runs deeper than what a person looks like
ever see shallow hal ?

willn1k's photo
Wed 12/12/07 12:54 AM
Getting deep with them is what dating is for right,and I am being honest.

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Wed 12/12/07 12:55 AM
Well, I'd just take it out if I were you. It would give you alot more options. Even women who aren't "fat" sometimes have a distorted body image and wouldn't be willing to respond to a profile like that. You can always weed out the ones you don't like later, but just putting it out there like that can be a huge turnoff.

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Wed 12/12/07 12:55 AM

Getting deep with them is what dating is for right,and I am being honest.


Sometimes honesty doesn't work. Sometimes honesty leaves you by yourself. :)

willn1k's photo
Wed 12/12/07 12:57 AM
You are not the first person to tell me that.

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Wed 12/12/07 12:59 AM
Might be some truth to it then.

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Wed 12/12/07 01:01 AM
Ahh now I understand willn1k
you are young and cant see past that yet
makes sense
im 28 and i didnt realize how beautiful people are no matter what they look ike
until 25 or so
ok 28 lol

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Wed 12/12/07 01:02 AM
There's nothing wrong with caring about looks. I'm the first person to admit that's what I look for. However...if I was looking for a guy on here I'd never put that in my profile.

willn1k's photo
Wed 12/12/07 01:03 AM
Might be true but I can't changes who I amsad