so i don't know if this topic has been posted or not in here like this so.....
As a mother of a 14 year old son whos dad wants nothing to do with him, which is fine thats what he chooses hes the one missing out, it pisses me off that girls want to keep dads who want to see and help raise their kids from them either because they want to hurt them or they think he owes them money..stop being a selfish B*TCH and wake up and get over him its only hurting your kids!!
this goes out to all the guys getting their rights to their kids messed with and not knowing what to do about it..
YOU HAVE RIGHTS but each state they are differant so i thougt it would help if any one knows for sure what the rights are in his or her state please post them.

PA....visitation and child support do not go hand hand any more,
even though you are not paying (for your own reasons thats a differant topic) you can still see your kids!
....you must get a blood test before any papers are signed acknowledging you are the father..so dont sign any thing!!

i dont patucularly like my ex he left me when pregnant but i made sure he got to know his dad and they have reasonable relationship, child comes first, even tho he didnt want him i couldnt deny the relationship

Thats so true I dont see why women keep the kids away from the father I've got myself in the same situation.. I even tried everything I could to be a dad and father and she wanted to go screw around with someone else now she blames me for not wanting to be there even after for 3 years ive done nothing but support my child and work and been there everyday for him and her both only to have my heart ripped into pieces by someone that doesnt care .. and all I want to do is be there for my son but she always has some excuse.. if i do get him its maybe once a week and i cherish those few hours like they are the last day of my life.. I think there needs to be a big wake up call out there, even if you dont love the man anymore his kids sure do its not fair to keep them away.. open up your eyes please..

Some dads aren't worth letting there kids see.

thats true in some cases hun and if my sons dad was abusive in anyway i would stop it but he isnt

thats why i wanted to make this topic but to have posts about the rights of differant states not about why she wont let me see them..like what can be done about it so you can see them.

and debbie this is by no means me trying to start a fight with you but most guys
1. dont like watching other guys even doctors stick their fingers up their girls twat so to speak
2.dont think the kid is theirs there for do nothing when the girl is pregnant
but i understand it would have been nice to have him there and not have it feel like you were going threw it alone

and by no means am i saying let your kids go with someone unfit

i didnt need hun for that have a great family, he left me because i was pregnant

in michigan it is a mess. i am paying support and i have the child all week. and they were to lower it over a month ago and have not. when i have her all the time why does she not pay me? i am fighting for full custody.the mother to day said that she wants to move out of state and take my daughter and pull her out of this school here.she wants me to pay support and for schooling,the list goes on.now she is mad becuse i turnend off the phone so she could not call all the time when i have my daughter.she called 138times.i have been through the mill with this case.this week the youknow what is going to hit the fan when i go to court.i hope the judge gives me a xmass gift.

oh and we were in long term relationship hun not some fling

yes if you are talking to me

long term short term i didnt say any thing about a fling this topic wasnt put up here to discuss why people broke up or werent there for the mom ..theres two sides to every story and it can go on and on and on about he said she said stuff
you said you are letting the kid see their dad what rights did the court give him if any is what i am looking for.

i hope i get my xmass gift

michigan 50/50 no support most of the time.two weeks vacation a year with them.i well have to look it up when i have time.

I am a divorced mother in Texas, and while I am no expert, the sum of my experience is as follows
Payment of Child Support does not affect visitation (and I don't think it should..visitation is not about having leverage or control over the father, it's about allowing children to have or develop a relationship with their parent.)
In my case, I have to appeal to the court to move more than 120 miles from the courthouse where the divorce was granted.
(again a good idea in my opinion, too many custodial parents take off so far that the other cant possibly manage to see their children)
there are different types of visitation schedules, standard, every other weekend etc.., limited, which means the schedule is cut short for a reason the judge finds just or safe, supervised...only used if the judge feels the children are in danger of some sort...long distance, which is for those who live over one hundred miles apart and probably more I am not aware of.
It's my day off and my brain is on hiatus, but if you have points you want to know about, let me know, If I dont know, I can find out, quick.
Also there are some good organizations to help fathers here, and this one may be nation wide. Its a self representation advocacy center, and is called "Fathers for Equal Rights"
I have to say, Fathers dont have the free resources Mothers do, usually.
I would also like to state, just so the ladies out there know..I was married to an a** and he is still one. He makes life difficult for my girls and I every day. He stays behind on child support and only shows up on occasion. His children are not his priority. But he does have rights, should have the same ones I do. I don't limit his time, try to share and accommodate his schedule. I don't like the things he does, but, I am not his judge and jury. My children have the right to know him and form the relationship they choose with him.
Boy am I londwinded for a brain dead person!

cynsational i loved it

Thanks!

if the court system

would automatically make

it a loss of bn the childs custodial parent

if found to keep child from noncustodial

parent with out a court order

a lot of this crap would stop

that is not your call or the mothers call to make

i have joint custody with my sons father.in NH support and visitation are seperate issues.i believe in that since kids arent for rent.
Any way Mr wonderful can see his son anytime he wants really and he choses to ignore him for one year then move to singapore to do a job that is going to take 3 yrs.
So yes in NH fathers have rights but in my house fathers have rights till they start ****ing with my kids head.i dont give a **** who likes it.

oh and i will add that if the mother has been abused by the childs father or vice versa then the child should not be subjected to this abusive person or forced to visit daddy/mommy in prison if he/she has committed a violent crime.lets get a clue.