WB ENYA, glad to see you are okay.

Despite what alot of people think you cant know a person in 3 weeks and to tell someone you love them that soon is a little creepy. Most of what someone is feeling isnt love but lust and elation about having someone who is paying attention to them. If a person is honest with themselves they will list all the things they love about someone and what they dont. Take a good look at both lists and really search yourself to see if those things you "love" arent the same things that would really irritate you 3-6 months from now. Finding someone takes being crystal clear on what you want and dont want from a mate and from a relationship. Most people take the first person that comes along and instead of comparing that person to what they want they attempt to fit that person into their set of criteria and ignore the things that dont fit but would ruin a relationship. Love isnt available in the drive thru or cooked up in the microwave. You simmer slowly and cook for a long time and that is when it becomes the tenderest.

stop yelling.

oh, and you know how women are considered to be more emotional than men?

that's because they are able to freely and fluidly jump from emotion to emotion with no trouble at all.

for a man, when he feels emotion, he's stuck there. and he goes deep.

a woman does not fear commitment because she knows (or her subconscious and her body knows) that if and when things come to an end, she can just as easily move on to a new emotion to replace the pain. this is why women more oftentimes than not "move on" faster after a breakup and are with another man in no time flat.

a man, on the other hand, fears commitment because he knows (or his subconscious and his body knows) that if and when things come to an end, IT'S GUNNA HURT, IT'S GUNNA HURT A LOT, AND IT'S GUNNA LAST FOR A LONG-ASS TIME. this is why ex boyfriends become stalkers and write more music based on pain. when men commit, they REALLY commit... and they can't go around committing to everything on a whim.

it's the other way around when it comes to having sex, so there's balance in the genders here.

a man is more open to having sex sooner and is more open to having multiple sexual partners because he knows (or his body knows) that he can produce trillions and trillions of sperm every minute and it would no loss if a few trillion of them left his body. this is why...well that just explains a lot of things. i don't even have to mention them.

a woman, on the other hand, is less likely to want to have sex too soon and is more likely to desire an exclusive relationship because she knows (or her body knows) that she was born with a specifc number of eggs. It would be a great loss to her genes if she wasted a precious egg on some random dumbass guy who isn't able to provide security and resources. also, the risk of pregnancy could be fatal. this is why men need tight game to access a woman's affections. this is why "nice guys" who let people walk all over them don't get any (inability to obtain resources).

I'm tired of agreeing with you Chief....

I went out with a guy and the first night he said he loved me...my response was...What is my favorite color? What is my middle name? and How do I eat my spaghetti cut or spin? If you can't answer those ?'s your not in love.

However women say I Love you very easily, I say it to my friends all the time, for some reason guys can't. When a woman says I love you... it just means that, not I wanna get married tomorrow. I means I am digging on you.

When a guy says it, it either means he wants some, or he is fully commmited to you.

I think Chief that is why it takes men so much longer to get over relationships than it does women.. That and any woman over the age of 18 has been scammed by a guy.. or atleast tried to scam her. Women always hold a little back, we have to, for preservation sake, men when they commit, they don't hold back...

IMHO.

Dating is really confusing. Maybe I should've ignored my cousins and friends when I was 18 and became a priest.


I'm still going to continue my search for that special lady.

I want to see it in her behavior and actions long before I hear it. I want to know it before I am going to say to a woman.

I chose to be celebate until I find the right guy this time around, and it definately will take much longer than three weeks! Yeah, it's creepy when they do that. I don't expect to meet anyone right now, but I refuse to give it up anymore just to have my heart broken.

I believe we all yearn to connect with another soul at some time in our lives. I dream of my yearning, hope, day dreams of the past and present. To merely utter the words I love you is a tragedy! I hope to share my life with someone who understands the gift that love is and the care and tending it requires; retaining its power.

tha same thing you girls do tha same
but your talkin fropm a girls pov right?
so my answer will be, cause some are foolish and not know wat they want

......Wow......

I think most people who do run when they hear those words are intimidated by the prospects of facing their feelings one way or the other. Some people who are not interested in going in that deep just back off when confronted by such up front honesty.Man or woman. Me personally, I like to hear it if it's true, but all too often it's just something people say to get you to drop your guard, then take advantage of the situation.

I don't run but I also check to see if it real but if I truly know it real then I inbrace it

you cant know a person in 3 weeks and to tell someone you love

You mean I have to wait over 3 weeks?? I just enrolled in this "looney bin" yesterday, I hav e fallen in "LOVE" 4 times already...