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A gentleman doesn't screw and tell.


However, romance can be subjective.
One person's idea of romance could be perfect.
While another person's idea of romance, is effectively
making their partner 'jump through hoops'.

Romance is absolutely subjective. One's reality, is one's own perception(s), after all.

In my experiences, accidental romance is always fun and exciting.

Crafted or "requested" romance is always destructive.

What I mean by that is, as soon as someone demands that the new person they are somewhat interested in, perform any "romantic" acts or tricks that they "always wanted their true love to do," it means that they don't really think of that new person as being a real human being at all.

Not very flattering to be told "sit up, okay, now roll over...okay dance!"

Interesting insight...and true.

Crafted and "on demand", doesn't work in the same magical way.

It is best if not contrived.

Romance = I cant handle reality please disguise it.
Would i lie to ya honey.️️️️️️️

i think Romance is state of mind, every body see different mean they received and reflect same idea differently it may be not be marking by simple yes or no answer. it takes time to understand what it mean ..

yes romance is a good thing.. any lady agree?

Interesting replies...

There is no right or wrong answer...

Just curious how differently people think about it.

Depends on the age of the people involved.

When I was young, "romance" was a means of accurately expressing, trying to communicate, the depth of my understanding of my feelings.

Being older "romance" is my attempt at communicating and celebrating my understanding of the depth of theirs.


All "romance" is ultimately an attempt at meaningful communication.

In my experience with women, many (and especially when older) have formed preconceived notions of what "romance" means to them, a formula.
Kind of like they have a dictionary definition and they expect me to come up with the word that shortcuts the long definition, and then they use whatever word I give them to validate how they want to feel.

What that means is they (a percentage of the women, especially older) that I've dated don't really want to learn to communicate, they want me to learn and conform to their way of communication. Ultimately that means the relationship isn't about growing together, learning about each other, expressing emotions and level of bonding, so much as a test to see if I can conform to what she wants.

Other than that, the positive "romance" experiences I've had the "romance" was just a fun means of learning to communicate where we developed our own language with each other through different highly personal, subjective means.


So...I'm kinda yea certain types of romance, while kinda nay others.

I have many times, witnessed the exact same behavior by a male (most often myself) be declared by an observing female...

to be "romantic," if she was of a mind to like me;

to be "manipulative," if she was suspicious of my motives for any reason;

or "meaningless," when she considered it to be basic to her normal expectations.

I also wanted to mention that (again, in my observation) most people actually continually carry two independent definitions of "romance" in their semi-conscious minds.

One version of it refers to the various minor actions a person in love carries out just because they are in love.

The other refers to the much larger goal-oriented strategy they have for securing a long term mate.

In other words, I think most people have a VERY different internal idea about what ROMANCE means, and what ROMANTIC means.

A complete jerk of a "player" type can be said to be "romantic," because they play the love-games adroitly. But what they achieve by those machinations, is rarely considered to be a true "Romance," since it IS artificial.

Yea.

Not the stuff of fairy tales though. I am everyday people. I desire not a princess, but a fellow everyday woman whose heart soul and body harmonizes with mine.

The closest I've gotten to experiencing that harmony happened in this very community 4 years ago. My joking responses, to some of the replies I got in the first thread I started here, appealed to a special woman's sense of humor. She and I started chatting privately and became friends. We discovered some similar interests and that we were emotionally compatible. It wasn't until I started a slightly risque thread here that we started exploring physical attraction and compatibility. The catch... we lived hundreds of miles apart in different countries. Our connection had deepened by this time though, and I was in the process of arranging to travel to her. But before that came to fruition, she decided that it would be too painful for us to finally be together, only to have to part again after a short visit. She sent me a short "Dear John" message, and I've not heard from her since.

Romantic stories don't always have happy endings. That said, I'm extremely grateful for the joy and fulfillment that connection brought into my life while it lasted.

LOL, I have no problem being romantic because I am aware and spontaneous.
There isn't a romantic way of doing anything but if you're aware of the one you're with and can spontaneously appeal to their romantic needs, its easy.
Frankly, I don't know what all the fuss is about?

Yup... Would want to treat someone equal to Queen

I guess I can say ... it was romantic to get married on my birthday ...

justice of the peace in NY ... on a ferryboat beautiful nite looking out at the sky ... he say I was so beautiful and how he loved me ...

thought that was romantic ...

second marriage got engaged on my birthday ... and married on a ski slope ... to cold not romantic lmao


after two x... a very good friend asked me out on valentines day ...

that was romantic ...

hi

I met a guy our relationships were very romantic and he was so caring: many flowers, a lot of going out and good-morning-messages,then we started living together and that was the end of everything, so do not try to procced fast with your relationships))))

hi how are you you like

Most of my dates inperson are Romantic and spontaneous as far as what we do next. I am attracked to out going Men, who are somewhat of a Rebel.
I am slowing a bit down in my old age.