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People should get out where there is a social group! No not Bars!
Plenty of things to do around the Holidays. Setting on a computer searching doesn't Always work for a date even during the Year, for some people.

I'm getting messages on here, I think some are Real Men, unfortunately they Do not Play on Forum, so it is harder to know them.
I see desparation more like the OP said.

Hundreds of people come and go here. Rarely Relationships formed though.

Yes that is what I mean. Studies show that even the suicide rate increases among people vulnerable people

Yes I was thinking about that too

I just started dating someone and I don’t see a problem with inviting him for some of the festivities but he has his own family to visit.

I have often invited people over who have no family to be with at this time. Isn’t that what the holidays are about? It doesn’t have to be a love interest. I will share my family and good times with anyone who needs it. (Within reason).

Personally, I don't see a problem with someone acknowledging they are lonely and trying to take proactive steps to rectify their problem.
So what if that inspiration comes during the holidays?

Like River said, there are predators that target lonely people during the holidays but that doesn't change the fact that there are lonely people and the holiday season focuses that loneliness.

Most of us have joyful memories of past holiday seasons and this is because they are filled with festivities and good will. When you don't have someone to share those experiences with the season feels empty and hollow. Personally, I think it is to be expected.

I read all these reason why y'all wouldn't date during the holiday season and it makes me think that y'all wouldn't date any other time as well.
Are y'all afraid of taking a chance?
It makes me think that yer more prone to decline than to take a chance.
Well, dating at any time of the year is not a sure thing.
Are y'all so fragile you can't handle the attention?

Dating during the holidays is when you're most likely to meet that someone special because more people are looking and open to the idea.

Its how wisely you choose and what you do to make it happen and last that sets your success. Things that apply no matter the time of year.

At the least, you might find someone to go have some fun and spread some holiday cheer. Whats so wrong with that?

*I* said I would more cautious...
"I myself would be more skepitcal than at other times during the holidays "precisely" because of the morons who are just interested in having someone, anyone, to spend the holidays with so they won't be alone..
(Christmas, then that egregious New Years Eve stuff)"

If someone comes at me with that "I hate to be alone during the holidays..wanna get together?" ...but otherwise never expresssed an interst in me previously, I'd be skeptical.
I am not so lonely or bored I want someone for a few weeks during this time of year, nor do I need a "date" to a holiday party...I'll go alone, thank you..

I am ~ALWAYS~ open to meeting someone sincere who is truly looking for someone to be with long term..not just someone to kill the loneliness during the holidays, then go back to their singleness which they are otherwise content with.

Could this person who is looking just for a holiday companion maybe, possibly turn into something more?
Maybe...
That's why I said I'd me more cautious and skeptical...not no I wouldn't meet up with/ start to date anyone during the holiday.

I_love_bluegrass lists a valid reasoning for most people.

When the holidays roll around every year people wanting dates come out of the woodwork.

Most are SCAMMERS but some get inspired because of the holidays.
I_love_bluegrass gives reason to be cautious but I can't agree on the blanket caution. Of course, women have different agendas than most men.
Women are skittish even when it isn't a holiday season. The rude, crude and insensitive men have established a reason to be cautious, always.

I think everyone needs to use a bit of common sense inherit to the venue.
Refusing all potential matches for fear of being 'used' hurts their chances of finding someone special.

Women tend to get three times the traffic as men on any dating site.
Men are usually the ones to initiate contact with someone they desire.
Desperation drives people to try harder in anticipation of ending the year alone.

Most people don't want a relationship with someone else's desperation.
However, with so many people to consider, its more likely you will find a match during the holidays.
I know couples that met during the holidays and built wonderful relationships. My sis met her husband during Christmas and they have been married since 1972.

The thing I'm trying to stress is that with so many potentials at this time of year, someone might be a wonderful match but by eliminating all activity will keep you alone.
Most people are on dating sites to find a date that might turn into something special.
Technically, the holidays are the best option for that goal.
Ya just gotta choose wisely but that kinda applies to the rest of the year as well.

If I were still looking, not only would I be contacting more potential matches, I would be responding to some of the contacts initiated by women. I would understand interest based on loneliness during the holidays. I would use the same discretion as I do the rest of the year.

Yes, she may only want to go out with me because she's lonely during the holidays but I would realize this and if she turns out to be a good match I would work on making our relationship better. If she isn't a good match, hell, I'd just try to have some fun.

The thing is, people (women) tend to like me when they get to know me.
I doubt any holiday 'date' would end after the New Year. That is, unless we agree to end it then.

Tom4Uhere..

I dodn't think you disgaree with me at all...
My last lines were:
"Could this person who is looking just for a holiday companion maybe, possibly turn into something more?
Maybe...
That's why I said I'd me more cautious and skeptical...not no I wouldn't meet up with/ start to date anyone during the holiday."

Which is more or less what *you* said..

I referred to what you wrote because I was emphasizing it to the others reading this thread.
If I disagree I do tend to say I disagree but most of the time when I might disagree with something someone wrote I will only disagree with part of the composition and not the general opinion.
You say a lot of 'good stuff' that's worth repeating.

A man contacted me and wanted a dinner date for the holidays and later go traveling with him.

I just emailed him breifly Three weeks ago. I don't like men who refuse to Email because they don't like typing for whatever reason. He lives 3 hours from me.

I had to decline.

I remember that when I was younger , much Younger !

True.. I have been hurt for some time now.. And now looking for a soulmate who will never cheat on me and always be faithful to me

This topic is very similar to when men seem to go crazy to meet someone at a nightclub when "The bar and club will close in 15 minutes" announcement is heard (where I was from in Pittsburgh it was at 1:45 a.m.).