Community > 50 and over

Topic: Older Women and Age
Smartazzjohn Joined Sun 06/03/07 Posts: 4844	Thu 01/24/19 09:44 AM
On another site I said "The only way I'm walking on a beach on the first date is if you fly me to the Bahamas on your private jet." No one has offered to walk on a beach with me.....YET!!! I'm the eternal optimist so I haven't given up hoping it will happen.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14981	Thu 01/24/19 10:23 AM
@smartazzjohn You are a hard man to please.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14981	Thu 01/24/19 10:29 AM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Thu 01/24/19 10:35 AM
Well, I don't check out men's profiles so I can't offer an opinion regarding men's photos. I'm 67 (will be 68 on January 31st) and I set my search age parameters to 60 and above. I have to say that at least 1/3 of the women's photos look like a mid 40's to early 50's individual or the photo has been modified with Photoshop. Some will post a 40 something photo and then when one views their profile (yes, I read profiles) they'll have another closer to their real age. I figure if she looks to good she probably isn't. At my age a true few extra pounds, a few wrinkles and silver hair can't be helped (either gender). I don't understand being dishonest because when a meeting takes place the facade disappears. Many men Online don't meet Women in person. They just like to see pictures. Maybe they are already in a relationship, dating or even married. Online is just an out for some men.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14981	Thu 01/24/19 10:31 AM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Thu 01/24/19 10:33 AM
I have met Online men in person, some said I did not look my age. Again men are VISUAL beings. That's a fact. I go for average looking men, because I am more concerned about their Character as a gentleman. Also they must be Kind-hearted.

indianadave4 Joined Wed 02/09/11 Posts: 1308	Thu 01/24/19 03:13 PM
@bluegrass I sgree! Problem is many men don't read profiles. And on Forums they like to flirt and throw kisses to Women. One of the problems with reading women's profiles is many of their profiles follow the same outline. More or less if you read one you've read them all: 1. I love my family 2. I love to travel 3. I love to laugh 4. I love to go out for dinner 5. Etc The above is not meant to be harsh but ladies tell us something we don't already know. Because so many profiles of women read as I wrote above men ignore reading profiles because they, generally, read the same. Yes Toddygirl5 I did read your profile! "My kids are the most important thing to me.." While I resepct that...where does that place the potential woman in your life....? Second? Third? It's interesting that when women makes the above statement and a man challenges it he's considered a jerk because she thinks he wants to be in a higher priority than her biological children. My estimate is these types of answers, while true, are reflecting entries made by women in their profiles. So when a man reads this in a woman's profile is he to assume he will be second, third, etc?

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14981	Thu 01/24/19 03:22 PM
@bluegrass I sgree! Problem is many men don't read profiles. And on Forums they like to flirt and throw kisses to Women. One of the problems with reading women's profiles is many of their profiles follow the same outline. More or less if you read one you've read them all: 1. I love my family 2. I love to travel 3. I love to laugh 4. I love to go out for dinner 5. Etc The above is not meant to be harsh but ladies tell us something we don't already know. Because so many profiles of women read as I wrote above men ignore reading profiles because they, generally, read the same. Yes Toddygirl5 I did read your profile! indianadave4... I see guys ALL the time say Long walks on the beach (odd..considering the nearest beach to here is 400-500 miles away..LOL) Often followed by "walking hand in hand in the moonlight"...Seriously, what guy has ever done that, that they would list it as one of their "Intersts"...? "I like most everything." (Really? You like Chinese opera, and Peruvia cuisine?) "My kids are the most important thing to me.." While I resepct that...where does that place the potential woman in your life....? Second? Third? The WORST s "ask me anything.....I am an open book".. Then, when you do just that...they get an attitude.."This ain't no da*n job interview.." Yeah, baby, it kind of IS, since I don't know diddly squat about you, and you weren't considerate/ serious emnough to write even the briefest of stuff about yourself.. : So True!

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14981	Thu 01/24/19 03:26 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Thu 01/24/19 03:27 PM
I read Men's Profiles, especially when they Contact me. Oftentimes, I search men out myself and send a message to someone. I see MANY profiles that are blank, except just looking for a woman to date.

Smartazzjohn Joined Sun 06/03/07 Posts: 4844	Thu 01/24/19 03:59 PM
I read Men's Profiles, especially when they Contact me. Oftentimes, I search men out myself and send a message to someone. I see MANY profiles that are blank, except just looking for a woman to date. You looked at my profile and never message me. I must not meet the criteria required to receive a message. Unlike some men it doesn't bother me because I've learned to enjoy rejection of any kind!!!

indianadave4 Joined Wed 02/09/11 Posts: 1308	Thu 01/24/19 04:17 PM
It seems anything a man writes in his profile is assumed to be untrue. So what do we write? Do we write anything? Would anything we write be believed? So this brings us back to real life: are we here only for the forums because online dating doesn't work? As I've stated in months and years past: as men and women age we loose trust in the opposite gender. So we look at photos, sip our coffee and then go about our day (or evening).

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14981	Thu 01/24/19 04:46 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Thu 01/24/19 04:47 PM
I read Men's Profiles, especially when they Contact me. Oftentimes, I search men out myself and send a message to someone. I see MANY profiles that are blank, except just looking for a woman to date. You looked at my profile and never message me. I must not meet the criteria required to receive a message. Unlike some men it doesn't bother me because I've learned to enjoy rejection of any kind!!! Like many on Mingle2 they do not TRAVEL for any DATES. They want a woman around the Corner from them or the Woman to Come to them and Livin.

greeneyes148 Joined Fri 12/25/15 Posts: 5830	Thu 01/24/19 04:58 PM
I prefer to do it the old fashioned way. first the attraction to me... Greeneyes.. my mind.. words.. character. not my face and body. If you at attracted to the mind and I to yours, then by all means you get my photo... certainly. Because if I can't attract your attention with my mind. What is the point. This works well for me.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14981	Thu 01/24/19 05:13 PM
It seems anything a man writes in his profile is assumed to be untrue. So what do we write? Something about your Interests. Do we write anything? Definately write something. Would anything we write be believed? Yes, some things. So this brings us back to real life: are we here only for the forums because online dating doesn't work? Online dating does work, I have had nice dates from Online. As I've stated in months and years past: as men and women age we loose trust in the opposite gender. So we look at photos, sip our coffee and then go about our day (or evening). I haven't lost all trust in Men. I can just figure them out better now.

Smartazzjohn Joined Sun 06/03/07 Posts: 4844	Thu 01/24/19 05:21 PM
I read Men's Profiles, especially when they Contact me. Oftentimes, I search men out myself and send a message to someone. I see MANY profiles that are blank, except just looking for a woman to date. You looked at my profile and never message me. I must not meet the criteria required to receive a message. Unlike some men it doesn't bother me because I've learned to enjoy rejection of any kind!!! Like many on Mingle2 they do not TRAVEL for any DATES. They want a woman around the Corner from them or the Woman to Come to them and Livin. My profile doesn't mention travel or proximity to my residency in regards to dating. Next excu....err I mean reason.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14981	Thu 01/24/19 05:29 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Thu 01/24/19 05:33 PM
@Smartazz You stated all that on these Forums. Many men who post a lot can be read Very Easily. I read profiles more of those not on these Forums.

Smartazzjohn Joined Sun 06/03/07 Posts: 4844	Thu 01/24/19 05:32 PM
@Smartazz You stated athat on these Forums. Many men who post a lot can be read Very Easily. I have said distance is an issue, I never said it was and issue that can't be overcome. Besides that you DON'T have to be interested in dating someone in order to message them.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14981	Thu 01/24/19 05:35 PM
@smartazz Thanks for that update !

Smartazzjohn Joined Sun 06/03/07 Posts: 4844	Thu 01/24/19 05:40 PM
@smartazz Thanks for that update ! I was going to send you a message to prove my point but I can't. I'm too young because of the preferences you set for who can message you!!!

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14981	Thu 01/24/19 05:48 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Thu 01/24/19 05:49 PM
@Smartazz I receive mail from older gentlemen interested in dating! You have to be 65 This site is full of Scammers. If they are a scammer, I delete them.

... Joined Sat 09/26/15 Posts: 1932	Fri 01/25/19 12:21 AM
This site is full of Scammers. If they are a scammer, I delete them. Usually I report that type of person. Sometimes I have fun with them and say hello. Usually I get invited to see their website, meaning they are cam girls. Sometimes their profile is removed even before I can message them - well done mingle!

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14981	Fri 01/25/19 07:10 AM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Fri 01/25/19 07:11 AM
Many available people on here but unfortunately, many are not on the Forums. I have talked to a few who live MILES. away. I f I. was in a Larger. City I. wouldn't have a problem meeting AVAILABLE men. Most Mingle2 men won't travel for a date. Some datesites men do.