No that's Not what I am saying! Those are YOUR. words.

So then why does a woman have a hard time with each going their own way after a couple months? To me, a couple months isn't even enough time to have an idea of who you really are let alone getting firmly attached to you.

The country where I stay, we need to keep a distance because of the heat, yet our country is bursting at the seams with population explosion...Have always wondered how do they get into the mood to have sex and make babies???!!!

@, Calm

It is a Natural desire for Man to want Sex.

A man I know asked me Yesterday, if I had plans for the Holidays !

I told him I would think if Something! ! I had no desire to include him in my plans.

I'll admit, right now I wouldn't mind if somebody invited me over for the holidays.

I have no plans. No family to spend time with really. Most of my friends are already busy.

But I'm not looking for any dating or "action" or whatever. I just like to have company and conversation, maybe play a few games or watch a few football games.

In my house growing up, we always had a sizable group of people over on Thanksgiving and Christmas.

Thanksgiving was for family (grandparents, uncles, sometimes an aunt and some cousins). Maybe about 8 - 10 people.

But Christmas was for both friends and family. We could easily have 25 people in the house. Once the younger generation had kids, we might actually end up with close to 10 families there.

And honestly, it's Christmas that I miss more than Thanksgiving.

I was never a big fan of New Year's Eve though. Not my thing.

Porn?

What about your lady friend you have been talking about/ to??

Too far away, and right now we're just friends.

As for anyone closer, it hasn't come up. Maybe something will come up during the Christmas party at work -- though that may not be a good thing.

There is someone I get along with very well who works for my company but at a different location, thus we don't actually work together. I didn't realize she was single until recently when she mentioned that her son is moving out, and she doesn't want to be in the house by herself because it's too big for just one person.

I'll admit, she's not as physically attractive as my typical standards, but from the moment she contacted me to apply for the job, I've had this nagging feeling that I can't shake. Like I knew her from somewhere....long before I even saw her. When we started getting along so well, it got me thinking about that. I mean, we talk like we're old friends, but we aren't. So I've had to admit to myself that there is an unusual level of chemistry and attraction at work that I haven't yet been able to make sense of. And yes, I've already admitted to myself that this is case where personality trumps appearance.

On the other hand, I'm not sure she's realized it too.

Anyway, if that turns out to be the case, the holidays is not a good time to explore that. I really just want to be around a bunch of people that I can fit in with -- not pursuing and potentially sabotaging the possibility of some sort of relationship.