JOHNNY111

Thank you for your kind wisdom. I believe we will work out. She and i have alot common interests. Like i mention in another post that im not in a hurry to meet her parents but i also want her to know when the time and karma right then i be open to meet them. So we will continue to date and i do believe we wind up in a serious relationship soon. So i keep you guys posted.

ToodyGirl5,

No No No....thats not the image im saying.....when i mention dating other nationalities im talking briefly...My date is the most serious i been with a woman in 5 years after my Ex wife. I ask advice from my vocal avengers to give me feedback outside my view. I dont want you to have the wrong impression of my dating.

GreenEyes148

Welcome back....to answer your question why i would have conserns about her parents? Well right now its not a issue but i know one day if i get real anonymously into a serious relationship or even marriage i would have to meet the parents. She communicates with her parents but not in the level where it should be. Even if one day. I put a ring on her finger inspite of what they think i wouldnt exclude them from a wedding. As a parent i would love to to be part of my daughtets wedding and see the happiness and not allow a view from being a parent onthe most important day of her life.

Answers here are way too long and complete for me to even insert my opinion. Good Luck.

Okay, thanks for Clearing that up for me!

ToodyGirl5

What i meant is i dated different Caucasian women but never had parents that had the issue like the one my girl dealing with. I made the decision that its totally up to my girl to make that call if i ever will meet them. I mean life goes on. Im in a good place with us. She'll have my family. You see where im going too?

Animal Lover

Well thanks for stopping by. We talk and converse with many emotions and getting points across. Sometimes in life we cant hold back. A clear picture is many words. Quite frankly i live it when me and my Vocal Avengers has many words to say including myself.

Animal Lover

Well thanks for stopping by. We talk and converse with many emotions and getting points across. Sometimes in life we cant hold back. A clear picture is many words. Quite frankly i live it when me and my Vocal Avengers has many words to say including myself.

My exes family is racist, we have interracial children. As far as I'm concerned her family is her family, not my childrens and certainly not mine. They have caused problems from day one. She also has a lot of racism in her, but denies it to herself. It has caused some issues, but she and her family have more disturbing issues that outweigh the racism.

If the racism was the only issue, the relationship still would have ended.

TOTAGE

Welcome again well im certainly not going to end it....I decided to let her make that call if i evet meet them or not. Shes a wonderful girl with so much common interest. Im a good place with her right now. I took all feedback in consideration and o love u guys for the support they showed me. Like i mentioned im a smart man and if i smell a rat i usually confront that rat but honestly we happy. The moral of rhis topic is if you like somebody enough and theyre from another race color shouldnt keep you for persuing happiness. Yes when it rears its ugly head racism you have to stand your ground. Somebody in another post said im dating her not the parents. Thats the best advice i ever gotten on Mingle2.

EyeAmYourHost39

One of things i like about her is she said i was special. I make her laugh and i give her wisdom and encouragement. She does the same with me. We talk about anything and everything together even sex. I dont feel like i have to go outside myself to impress her. Prior to us dating we was plutonic friends for 3 years. My point is this is whats it all about. Taking things naturally. Learning each other. We making sure that we have no misunderstanding between us. She mentioned she loves all kinds of music especially Rock N Roll. It blew her mind when i told her i have a eclectic music catalog i listen to. I even told her l listen to Rock music too. I named some groups and she was wowed! Compatibility. I dont want to sound nieve but i believe in true romance on first sight.

Just to add another note ... I think people can change their ignorance depending on how deep it is.

for example, my dad, who was a tall dark man from the south, had lived during a time when there was extreme segregation and discrimination going on, perpetuated mostly by white males. He was not particularly keen then on his youngest child, his daughter, ending up with a white male. I understand that he just could not get past his experiences to be able to envision it or see it as something other than an oppressive interaction. The first time he ever found out I was in an interracial relationship, he was not exactly thrilled.

However, how much he loved his family was greater than how much he disliked anyone else. So in time, when he saw I was 'happy' and being treated well, the 'white boy' became a PERSON to him, just another individual, and one that treated me well, so he got over it and eventually was even calling this person 'son'. That is not to say his experiences changed his overall views, but he was able to get over it enough to see an INDIVIDUAL and judge them on their INDIVIDUAL behavior instead of the stereotypes his experiences had conditioned into him.


Same thing with my best friend in youth. Although her parents loved ME, they totally were against interracial. so when she had her first mixed child, they were not all too happy. but that child was THEIR blood and a beautiful innocent spirit, so their love for their family also scratched out their hate for anyone else, and they spoil those children to death to this day.

so, just to say, sometimes family and love can 'overcome', at least on a case by case basis, how people will come to see you. Its not the best to only be seen as some 'exception', but it may be better for that relationship you are trying to develop with their family member.

the best scenario I see is that you would be 'tolerated' at best.. you will not change their minds.. move on.

RustyKitty,

Welcome to my cyber mansion well I don't know if you read any of my responses to others about this I decided to let leave that up to her and continue the bliss of dating my interest. Today is Friday and I will take her to a movie and dinner follows and a night cap with pie and coffee and exchange conversation.

Personally I wouldn't date someone whos parents are racist. These were her roll models growing up. It maybe that she is trying to prove something to her folks. I don't know. Be careful and take your time when finding someone for you. Cause you will have to deal with her family sooner or later. Good luck to you

I didn't read all the replies, but I have to say you Americans are way too hung up on colors.


Are you dating her parents or her?

If she is dating you for the right reasons, then forget those two old racists.

I did once years ago,he was from Waco , TX he was very nice. A few yrs older than me. Never married no kids and he was an administrator of a company in TX. We had a great time and he liked my 10 yr old son at the time. We all went out for pizza and had fun times. He also was romantic and took me to Nice dinners out. Unfortunatel,. He had to not tell his parents because he told me all about them. What he said wasn't good and I never could move to TX with him.

I let that Friendship,Relationship go bye bye.

Hopefully EyeAm will correct me if I'm wrong...

And since you're new Eirik, I'd like to get you in the loop...

If my memory is correct, EyeAm isn't originally from the U.S. He's a transplant from Europe....~I think Germany?~

I'd have to go back to dig through old posts to verify, but I'm somewhat certain he mentioned something along those lines. Reason being, I honestly thought he was from the U.S. too until he mentioned otherwise.

Anyway, depending on his experiences overseas, the current situation might be something entirely new to him. With race being such a hot topic over here these days, it's wise to be cautious when encountering bonafide racists.

Other than that, I agree, Eirik. That's why I warned him against having the relationship become all about race.

When you say "overseas" do you mean Europe (as in overseas to America) or US (as in overseas to Europe)?

I don't know how this topic (racism) is either in US or Germany other than I've read and watched in the news. But I do read and watch much, so I know some anyway. My impression is that Germans mostly is very tolerant to foreigners with different skin color. But those few that aren't, are people to stay away from. Far right is _very_ far right in Germany.

If that is the case, my advice to EyeAm, is: run far away and don't look back. It's plenty of fish on either side of the pond ;)

Guten tag aus Norwegen :)

He's talking about in the U.S.

He moved here from Europe.

And the state where he lives is known to have pockets of racists and white supremacists. It's come up in the news repeatedly over many years. It's a very tiny minority, but those who do come into media attention are very hardcore bigots.

Unfortunately, here in the U.S., there is racism on both sides of the racial divide. That's a hefty part of why we never seem to get over it. There are people on both sides who just don't want to discuss the issue without pointing fingers. It's something that my friends of other races have actually recognized, discussed, and moved past. They had tough upbringings, whether because of family or neighborhoods. They've recognized how easy it is to get pulled into just pointing fingers and laying blame rather than working on themselves. So they've chosen to expand their minds beyond their backgrounds and experiences, and make friends of all races while talking out differences. In that respect, I'm blessed compared to some people. It allows us to learn from each other, to understand the different perspectives, factors, and experiences at play in our overall social dynamic.

I wish everyone in this country could reach that point. We would all be much better off.