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So... You are looking for a great guy on the internet that will be all this and all that, and you're not even willing to shower when you go out to make yourself presentable? Ummm, good luck with that. How did you possibly misunderstand what I wrote. I was referring to: A. Out running errands and didn't feel the ned to shower or dress nice, because....errands. *I* wouldn't approach someone even if I thought they looked interesting in that situation. I'm there to pay bills, grocery shop, or drop something off..then go home. B. IF I am meeting someone..OBVIOUSLY I shower, brush my teeth, and dress nice. I meant not driving to somne random place merely on an outside chance that there *mnight* be someone there.. I'd rather save my time and effort for events I know there may be like-minded people (or at least those supposedly interested in the same things..fetivals), or an actual meetting. Not just to drive to a park, for example, and sit there for a few hours hoping someone interesting and compatible *happens* by... i did not misunderstand a thing. I get it. This is easier. You don't have to always be on. Why put forth the effort just to go out and get groceries? Trust me. I get it. Maybe one day I will tell you the story of how I met the woman I love and have been with since 2011. Putting in the effort is ALWAYS a good thing. |
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...if I truly desire strengthening my social skills (which I do) then I need to spend less time online and get out there where I am face to face with people. Words of wisdom. I don't know you, but I like you already. Thanks! When I was working on Mackinac Island I decided to start venturing out and utilize all these social skills I learned while being online for the past year 
That's when I discovered I now needed... speech therapy, relearn listening skills, and maybe a little make-up and new clothes would be nice. At least brush my hair, lol... no it wasn't that bad but close. My next assignment for work will be at the YMCA of the Rockies where I was last year. Only this time I'll be at Estes Park instead of Granby. Estes Park Center housing will most likely require me to have a roommate. I did that on purpose... figured it would help force me out of the room more so I would go interact with others when I wasn't working. Last winter I had that in mind, but ended up camping out in my room a lot! Very cool. 
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So... You are looking for a great guy on the internet that will be all this and all that, and you're not even willing to shower when you go out to make yourself presentable? Ummm, good luck with that. How did you possibly misunderstand what I wrote. I was referring to: A. Out running errands and didn't feel the ned to shower or dress nice, because....errands. *I* wouldn't approach someone even if I thought they looked interesting in that situation. I'm there to pay bills, grocery shop, or drop something off..then go home. B. IF I am meeting someone..OBVIOUSLY I shower, brush my teeth, and dress nice. I meant not driving to somne random place merely on an outside chance that there *mnight* be someone there.. I'd rather save my time and effort for events I know there may be like-minded people (or at least those supposedly interested in the same things..fetivals), or an actual meetting. Not just to drive to a park, for example, and sit there for a few hours hoping someone interesting and compatible *happens* by... i did not misunderstand a thing. I get it. This is easier. You don't have to always be on. Why put forth the effort just to go out and get groceries? Trust me. I get it. Maybe one day I will tell you the story of how I met the woman I love and have been with since 2011. Putting in the effort is ALWAYS a good thing. As I said...let people do what they feel comfortable with...withput judging or coming at them with "you should/ you ought to" simply because you feel that way. If I am minding my own business, and not intending to meet someone, and really don't care how i look (and it isn't my job to look "presentble" to a person of the opposite sex wherever I leave the house) when I am out buying livestock feed or going to the post office or to get groceries, that's my business, doesn't affect or hamper you in any way..so, why does it matter to you? Hell, even when I dress nice, and showered and teeth brushed when I go to festivals either out of town, or someplace...and I make sure I have a pleasant demeanor on my face...look friendly and approachable..and..no one talks to me. I go up and try to start a conversation with someone who looks interesting, comment on the event, or their t-shirt or something..they mumble a few words, then walk away... So, I'll be damned if I'm going to get dolled up *just* to run errands... |
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This entire discussion is exactly why the phone app Happn was created.
The idea was to create a profile, and then the app would track the travel patterns of the various profiles. This way people could see which profiles they regularly cross paths with. It's meant to enhance the whole "meet people in a supermarket, library, deli, etc." concept by giving members a bit more to work with when approaching each other. |
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So... You are looking for a great guy on the internet that will be all this and all that, and you're not even willing to shower when you go out to make yourself presentable? Ummm, good luck with that. How did you possibly misunderstand what I wrote. I was referring to: A. Out running errands and didn't feel the ned to shower or dress nice, because....errands. *I* wouldn't approach someone even if I thought they looked interesting in that situation. I'm there to pay bills, grocery shop, or drop something off..then go home. B. IF I am meeting someone..OBVIOUSLY I shower, brush my teeth, and dress nice. I meant not driving to somne random place merely on an outside chance that there *mnight* be someone there.. I'd rather save my time and effort for events I know there may be like-minded people (or at least those supposedly interested in the same things..fetivals), or an actual meetting. Not just to drive to a park, for example, and sit there for a few hours hoping someone interesting and compatible *happens* by... i did not misunderstand a thing. I get it. This is easier. You don't have to always be on. Why put forth the effort just to go out and get groceries? Trust me. I get it. Maybe one day I will tell you the story of how I met the woman I love and have been with since 2011. Putting in the effort is ALWAYS a good thing. As I said...let people do what they feel comfortable with...withput judging or coming at them with "you should/ you ought to" simply because you feel that way. If I am minding my own business, and not intending to meet someone, and really don't care how i look (and it isn't my job to look "presentble" to a person of the opposite sex wherever I leave the house) when I am out buying livestock feed or going to the post office or to get groceries, that's my business, doesn't affect or hamper you in any way..so, why does it matter to you? Hell, even when I dress nice, and showered and teeth brushed when I go to festivals either out of town, or someplace...and I make sure I have a pleasant demeanor on my face...look friendly and approachable..and..no one talks to me. I go up and try to start a conversation with someone who looks interesting, comment on the event, or their t-shirt or something..they mumble a few words, then walk away... So, I'll be damned if I'm going to get dolled up *just* to run errands... Good for you! 
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This entire discussion is exactly why the phone app Happn was created. The idea was to create a profile, and then the app would track the travel patterns of the various profiles. This way people could see which profiles they regularly cross paths with. It's meant to enhance the whole "meet people in a supermarket, library, deli, etc." concept by giving members a bit more to work with when approaching each other. I must be old fashioned because that seems a bit creepy and stalkerish to me. I was thinking more along the lines of you see someone smile at you, you strike up a conversation, and take it from there. I know I'm a dinosaur. |
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Edited by
actionlynx
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Fri 10/26/18 01:03 PM
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I thought the same for years.
I've been trying it out lately without any luck. Yeah, there are some women. One or two are interesting. Even then, I'm not really compatible with them. They are professionals, and they are looking for men with higher income than I currently have. People become accustomed to the lifestyle their own income provides, so they want a someone who can match that lifestyle without having money be a problem. But there really isn't much showing up on the app anyway. Maybe 10 - 12 women in the past 8 months. There's more on Match, POF, and OkCupid. I avoid POF because of encountering nastiness there in the past. Match and OkCupid require payment to view likes or exchange messages. Right now, my priorities don't have any room for paid subscriptions like that. |
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This entire discussion is exactly why the phone app Happn was created. The idea was to create a profile, and then the app would track the travel patterns of the various profiles. This way people could see which profiles they regularly cross paths with. It's meant to enhance the whole "meet people in a supermarket, library, deli, etc." concept by giving members a bit more to work with when approaching each other. I must be old fashioned because that seems a bit creepy and stalkerish to me. I was thinking more along the lines of you see someone smile at you, you strike up a conversation, and take it from there. I know I'm a dinosaur. On THIS, we agree.. That is one of the *many* reasons I refuse to have a cell phone.. I don't like being "tracked"...and if I am out there minding my own business, or having bad day, or just don't want to be bothered, and someone used that Happn as a reason to start talking to me? It wouldn't go well...I can assure you... |
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This entire discussion is exactly why the phone app Happn was created. The idea was to create a profile, and then the app would track the travel patterns of the various profiles. This way people could see which profiles they regularly cross paths with. It's meant to enhance the whole "meet people in a supermarket, library, deli, etc." concept by giving members a bit more to work with when approaching each other. I must be old fashioned because that seems a bit creepy and stalkerish to me. I was thinking more along the lines of you see someone smile at you, you strike up a conversation, and take it from there. I know I'm a dinosaur. On THIS, we agree.. That is one of the *many* reasons I refuse to have a cell phone.. I don't like being "tracked"...and if I am out there minding my own business, or having bad day, or just don't want to be bothered, and someone used that Happn as a reason to start talking to me? It wouldn't go well...I can assure you... There are so many things wrong with an app like that I wouldn't know how to begin to express my concern and disdain. |
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I thought the same for years. I've been trying it out lately without any luck. Yeah, there are some women. One or two are interesting. Even then, I'm not really compatible with them. They are professionals, and they are looking for men with higher income than I currently have. People become accustomed to the lifestyle their own income provides, so they want a someone who can match that lifestyle without having money be a problem. But there really isn't much showing up on the app anyway. Maybe 10 - 12 women in the past 8 months. There's more on Match, POF, and OkCupid. I avoid POF because of encountering nastiness there in the past. Match and OkCupid require payment to view likes or exchange messages. Right now, my priorities don't have any room for paid subscriptions like that. OkCupid *also* recently started that egregious crap where you have to like someone, and they have to like you back before any message you send them reaches them.. And, sorry..I don't have time to sit and "Like" a bunch of profiles just to hope they "Like" me as well, and we can message each other. Back before this...you could message anyone..and I viewed there answere to questions, etc., before soing so.. Sometimes I got a reply...sometimes I didn't.... It's a crap shoot. But at least that process was more straight-forward and to the point. |
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This entire discussion is exactly why the phone app Happn was created. The idea was to create a profile, and then the app would track the travel patterns of the various profiles. This way people could see which profiles they regularly cross paths with. It's meant to enhance the whole "meet people in a supermarket, library, deli, etc." concept by giving members a bit more to work with when approaching each other. I must be old fashioned because that seems a bit creepy and stalkerish to me. I was thinking more along the lines of you see someone smile at you, you strike up a conversation, and take it from there. I know I'm a dinosaur. I agree... A couple decades ago we didn't need apps to find out who's paths we were crossing. We paid attention to our surroundings, looked people in the eyes, smiled and said "hello". The concept seems foreign to a lot of people nowadays. I agree too that it seems creepy... it's perfect for any stalkers out there who want to track their next victim. |
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Oddly enough, I used to do online surveys for pocket cash. One of those surveys turned out to be for Happn. My responses were very negative and skeptical and made clear that the concept just seemed creepy.
I really only gave the app a shot out of curiosity how many women I might be overlooking while out and about. Now I'm thinking about deleting the app because it's been virtually useless. |
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This entire discussion is exactly why the phone app Happn was created. The idea was to create a profile, and then the app would track the travel patterns of the various profiles. This way people could see which profiles they regularly cross paths with. It's meant to enhance the whole "meet people in a supermarket, library, deli, etc." concept by giving members a bit more to work with when approaching each other. I must be old fashioned because that seems a bit creepy and stalkerish to me. I was thinking more along the lines of you see someone smile at you, you strike up a conversation, and take it from there. I know I'm a dinosaur. I agree... A couple decades ago we didn't need apps to find out who's paths we were crossing. We paid attention to our surroundings, looked people in the eyes, smiled and said "hello". The concept seems foreign to a lot of people nowadays. More like four hours ago for me. I was in the supermarket around noon. I guess time has stood still in my world I agree too that it seems creepy... it's perfect for any stalkers out there who want to track their next victim. |
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I'm the guy in line at WalMart that will make you laugh, or roll your eyes, or both.
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it's the hair.
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it's the hair. Let's not bring my Yorkie into this. |
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why would anybody ever bring a yorkie into anything other than an oriental kitchen?
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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I live In a small City. If I lived in a Large city like Chicago or Atlanta etc
I wouldn't have time for Any dating. Site. I am out going and get out to meet men in person. Everyday activities and Special events. |
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I live I a small City. If I lived in a Large city like Chicago or Atlanta etc I wouldn't have time for Any dating. Site. I am out going and get out to meet men in person. Everyday activities And Special events. Understood. Like I said in the original post, we can put aside small towns and rural areas. I am concerned about people passing up opportunities in the real world. It's checkmate if there are no realistic opportunities. |
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