(Previously Posted On "Rate My Profile") But i think this belongs here. It's a new age, new freedoms, new expectations. Women these days have (thank god) the choice to choose their style of relationship without being looked down upon or judged by others. But men i feel have not changed that much, they still want their cake and to eat it too. I see every day on women's profiles the very stern message that men are not to contact them looking for casual contacts. On other profiles women want only casual contact, but with loving caring intimacy and loyalty. Still others state that they want just friendship. Are men to read between the lines here?. Or is it best to always ask in the first message exactly what the female seeks, but at the risk of sounding overtly sexual or like a perv before the real conversation has actually started. Does casual contact mean now and then but also for love making, or does it mean (don't get any ideas about owning me or controlling me)?. Can two people be really close, but meet up just two or three times a week?. Is it also ok to tell a casual lover that you love them, but that nothing has changed, it's still casual?. Is it more acceptable these days to have more than one lover, but to be loved equally by more than one person?. Finally, do women in the new age expect more than one lover at a time, but to be adored equally by both lovers, without hassle or insecurity?.

I think you have covered a lot of different women and men in that paragraph. Some want everything you have stated and others may only want part of it. Some, like a lot of us will say one thing, but want something completely different (whether we actually know it or not). For me, I am just who I am with no wants at this time.

Generally, what a woman says she wants is what she wants..
I have had guys imply women don't know what they are looking for, and therefore they must *tell her* what it is she wants..

Bull.

Would you like it if you went into a restaraunt, and order a steak, medium rare, and bake potato..and the wait person says "nah...that's not what you want..Let me tell you what you want...you want the chicken and sweet potato fries.." ??
No, you wouldn't like that.

Also, you said "at the risk of sounding overtly sexual"..
If you wouldn't say it to a strange woman you met for the first time in public, in the grocery checkout line, at a social event/ music event, etc...why would you thuink it OK to say to a woman on here?

Politeness, courtesy, and just being a decent person says no.

So, if a woman has implied she's into NSA sex, or just a "f**kbuddy" on her profile...and that is something you are interested in, then message her with polite, courtesous stuff, start a conversation..get a feel for what her actual specifics are.
And when she says what they are..if it isn't wehat you want..have the respect and decency to say "OK, thanks..not what i am looking for.."

As far as having more than one boyfriend/ partner/ whatever at a time, I cannot speak to that..
That has never interested me, I am a one-man woman, always have been..

Again, based on the feedback I hear from women, I'd say what she says she wants is just that, and..being polite and courteous goes a long way in breaking the ice/ having dialog to find out if it is what *you* want as well.