When I was still in law school, I tried OKCupid because one of my brothers had a positive review of the said dating site. I've used it as a diversion from stress and also as a platform to meet people from all walks of life. Needless to say, I put myself out there without any hopes of finding "the one". As an NBSB, being single since time immemorial has never been an issue for me. It's not that I'm so full of myself or anything like that, I just feel like when someone is really interested in you, he would definitely find a way to make you feel that he's sincere with his intentions. He's that someone who's NOT into talking to different women all at the same time. Long story short, I have to say that my experience was generally pleasant, but of course there were not so good ones too.

Back in 2013, an American gent from California sent me a message that stood out from the rest. His message was very sincere and I didn't think twice of replying back. In other words, we hit it off fast because I'd like to believe that we're attracted to each other's morals and principles in life. The exchange of messages via email and Fb messenger plus Skype calls were countless that I've failed to realize that I was already falling for him. Yes, I was caught off guard by his kindness and sincerity...something that I haven't felt from other men who tried to pursue me. For the first time ever, I've never felt like a potato... that I was indeed some crispy fries instead He told me about his plans of coming here in the Philippines, and I also told him that if it didn't happen because of one reason or another...that I could possibly be the one to fly out there in the U.S. after my bar exam since I also have a lawyer cousin who's living in California.

Anyway, the sad part was this... He never made it here and he got married back in 2016. He also mentioned that he consulted his family about his plans of settling down here, or to put it bluntly, they feared that there's no water and electricity in our city lol. They feared that he wouldn't be able to survive in this country. To be honest, I got sad because I felt like I was prejudged before they even know me and my background. I was like...do I have to tell them I'm like this and that? Do they really think that all women, esp. Filipinas are the same? Heck, I don't have a "white fever" nor do I feel that love should be based on color. I couldn't care less whether you're black, brown, white or yellow---it makes no difference to me. I don't even consider Caucasians as milking cows or human atms. It just makes me really sad when other people make a sweeping generalization that all Pinays are the same. :( I can vividly remember crying one night in November 2014 because that's the time when he said that he could no longer talk to me as much as he wanted to because he was already seeing someone else... that he felt kind of guilty talking to me and the other woman, who's now his wife. As a Christian, I honestly thought that he's "the one" because we're so alike in so many ways and I even prayed to God about this man...

Life is indeed mysterious as it is with Love. We may have a laundry list of qualities that we desire in a lifetime partner, but all of these things wouldn't matter anymore if we've been bitten by the love bug.


Moral of the story: There's more to this life than the romantic kind of love --- for we are loved by our family and friends, and of course by the Great Almighty. Fret not if you're still single. After all, it's best to wait for someone than to end up with the wrong one. ^_^

And as Alfred Lord Tennyson puts it: "It's better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all".

Have a good one beautiful people! Take care and God bless. <3

1. The real personality of the person whose profile your reading remains an unknown.

2. Their relationship history is an unknown until after you get to know them.

3. Their financial and health issues are an unknown until you get to know them. Not criticizing a person with these issues but they can bring issues into how the relationship works.

4. How accurate their physical description and photographs (if any) are. When you meet and they're a completely different looking person makes the situation uncomfortable. Many people are turned off by this but are afraid to just walk away.

Meeting in a public place without arrangements works out best. You're in a crowd of people happen to talk to someone. If you're not interested you excuse yourself and move on. With an online setup meeting one feels odd to just turn and walk away.

What you said was pretty accurate sir. That's why face to face interaction is still the best because you get to see the reaction/demeanor of the other person. Needless to say, it also shows their true physical appearance without the help of filters or photoshop or what have yous.

Hello 3StarsAndASun,
thank you for sharing.

Wishing you all the best

Same here All i can say is, the past is history, keep trusting in God for the best is yet to come. Hugs

Hello mzrosie ^_^ Thanks for the well wishes beloved sister! <3 Happy "Choose"day! Choose to be happy! :)

Good morning from the Philippines Nofearinlove! ^_^ Thanks a lot beloved sister! :) God bless you always.

Very well written post 3 Stars...You are so right that there is more to life than the romantic kind of love and you mentioned a few. One can pray to the God Almighty for a romantic love, and even though your prayer would be heard God doesn't just snap his fingers and grant a wish like it was Aladdin's Lamp. What God does is he gives us the opportunity for a romantic love and it is up to us on how we deal with that gift. Both people involved have to want that gift, but God will not interfere with our free will if one chooses not to accept that gift. The guy you mentioned listened to his family and let them override his heart's feeling so his free will made the decision to not come to your country not his family. Never give up though for like you said, it is better to wait for someone than to settle for the wrong one and apparently he was the wrong one for you. Good luck to you....

What you said was definitely spot on sir PoetryWriter ^_^

Thanks for your well wishes too. :) Take care and God bless you!

Good. Response.

I'm very new still this but the way it seems to me is that it's almost impossible to get in touch with even somewhat of a real person or even getting in touch with someone of the same sex there saying they are. I'm thinking that it's all just garbage I guess.

Well. You did the best you could do... God will see you through. The perfect person is on his way...lol

Good day,

Also new on the site. Having read so many posts and opinions it's clear for an anticipating heart it seems I should rather delete and stay in the dark shade of life.

Stepped out of the dark shade committed, wholeheartedly willingness to travel to any known and unknown galaxy for that princess. Did spot a interesting sense, for now it went cold faster then it took me to sign up. So dusting off and keeping on flipping boulders, rock and stones. Would this pay off or more important is the time worth all the energy, considering what others has said... can only speak for myself...

Yes by all means 'old fashioned values' this is who I am, the way I where raised. But wait a minute, year 2005, so I man up, go to her face to face in real life for the ice breaking stage only to get almost falsely arrested.... The answer is not that cyberspace 'technology' are erasing our humanity, as a matter in fact it's still the human within cyberspace 'technology' by which hands we are been emotionally traumatized.

For myself, I made the decision to revert to cyberspace 'technology' not to just get trough the ice breaking stage. Having said that, there are no way other then cyberspace 'technology' to reach out to the unknown galaxy's.
Without cyberspace 'technology' as a tool, speaking for myself, within my career and lifestyle requirements I would not be able to escape the shade.

PS: O and princess if you do read this just know am on my way fighting trough cyberspace junk just to be with you...

Trust God, the right one will soon find you.

Ive only tried other dating site, prior to this one.
Without doing due diligence research, I discovered later it wasn't very reputable and what a huge risk dating websites are for cyber security and fraud.

Been here for only 2 days now and my takeaway is this;
Analogy
It's like inserting Daniel into the lions den.
I feel like like I'm hanging out in a den of thieves.

Hello to you

God bless you heart sugar