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Topic: Sexless Relationships
newtori Joined Sat 09/29/18 Posts: 1	Sat 09/29/18 11:01 AM
nope, definitely not the only one

GalaxyStarz Joined Wed 04/25/18 Posts: 2697	Sat 09/29/18 11:22 AM
sexless = usually means theres a problem in the relationship itself poor communication poor display of respect for partner poor sharing of the housework blah blah blah just sayin Husband with mental/emotional problems not seeking individual help. A couples counselor told me to either take antidepressants or get a divorce.

oldkid46 Joined Fri 02/09/18 Posts: 1717	Sat 09/29/18 11:25 AM
hundreds of excuses, very few valid reasons!!

rudeee81499 Joined Tue 01/15/13 Posts: 1	Sat 09/29/18 11:38 AM
hey hi dear

Mike6615 Joined Sun 09/18/16 Posts: 1514	Sat 09/29/18 12:05 PM
my Xhusband was a dud. He must have been related to my ex wife. Introduce these two to one another?

I_love_bluegrass Joined Wed 04/25/18 Posts: 1665	Sat 09/29/18 04:31 PM
sexless = usually means theres a problem in the relationship itself poor communication poor display of respect for partner poor sharing of the housework blah blah blah just sayin Husband with mental/emotional problems not seeking individual help. A couples counselor told me to either take antidepressants or get a divorce. Since I have been on dating sites..it is shpocking how little thought guys (I can only speak about guys, as I do not peruse women's profiles) put into finding a woman with commonalities.... I have actually had guys say "all that matters is I am attracted to you....everything else will work out/ nothing else is important".. These are precisely the guys who end up on sites whining about how they have nothing in common.....grown apart...etc.. Because all he was worried about was she made his boner tingle...and, once the new wears off the nookie..as it does after a while (this is NOT to say people quit having sex)..then he realizes they have nothing in common, and really don't enjoy each other's comnpany...because ALL they had going for them was the hots...they don't even really like each other.Whereas, had they done due dilligence and found someone who they had a LOT in common wioth..they still be close, sharing things...digging each other.. Once the intital fire dies down some..people who are very comaptible still are close, share good times, intimacies (if you can only equate intimacy with sex, I feel sorry for you)...and continuew to have sex... If they are basically living separate lives...he's off with his friends doing his things...she's off with her friends doing her things, not really sharing any time together...and they are really only sharing a roof...no wonder they've growing apart.

GalaxyStarz Joined Wed 04/25/18 Posts: 2697	Sun 09/30/18 10:53 AM Edited by GalaxyStarz on Sun 09/30/18 10:55 AM
he had no interests, hobby or passions. No friends. And was an emotional blackhole. feelings/emotions/opinions from his family in, nothing came out. I was independent enough to go around him and live, raise the children, etc. He had little common sense. I ran the finances, decisions, everything -- on top of leading the children. He was an absent father/husband while living in the house, home at 4:45 everyday. Plenty of time, was not capable of having relationships. He has relationships with the kids now that they're grown. He holds paying for most of their university (I helped proportional to income), weddings for the 2 girls, to manipulate them. I helped them as a gift of love, not a tool for demands upon them. .

Red Joined Mon 09/17/18 Posts: 154	Sun 09/30/18 11:04 AM Edited by Red on Sun 09/30/18 11:07 AM
Since I have been on dating sites..it is shpocking how little thought guys (I can only speak about guys, as I do not peruse women's profiles) put into finding a woman with commonalities.... I have actually had guys say "all that matters is I am attracted to you....everything else will work out/ nothing else is important".. These are precisely the guys who end up on sites whining about how they have nothing in common.....grown apart...etc.. Because all he was worried about was she made his boner tingle...and, once the new wears off the nookie..as it does after a while (this is NOT to say people quit having sex)..then he realizes they have nothing in common, and really don't enjoy each other's comnpany...because ALL they had going for them was the hots...they don't even really like each other.Whereas, had they done due dilligence and found someone who they had a LOT in common wioth..they still be close, sharing things...digging each other.. Once the intital fire dies down some..people who are very comaptible still are close, share good times, intimacies (if you can only equate intimacy with sex, I feel sorry for you)...and continuew to have sex... If they are basically living separate lives...he's off with his friends doing his things...she's off with her friends doing her things, not really sharing any time together...and they are really only sharing a roof...no wonder they've growing apart. THANK YOU bluegrass!!

GalaxyStarz Joined Wed 04/25/18 Posts: 2697	Sun 09/30/18 12:24 PM Edited by GalaxyStarz on Sun 09/30/18 12:26 PM
A bad communicator. I had to always ask questions to pull some kind of response from him. Very tiring and boring. He never asked me questions. He didn't care about current events, politics, other newsworthy items, so couldn't talk about them. He: Folded laundry ( I let him do it after he complained I didn't fold his underwear correctly) Did the dishes Hands-on taking care of babies Vacuumed if my back was bothering me. Yes, no respect toward the marriage and family unit. I'LL STOP NOW

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14591	Mon 10/01/18 06:35 AM
I 've had platonic activity men partners, they were ok with that. Both very much single. Some people can have Fun without Sex. Not a relationship but friendship.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14591	Mon 10/01/18 06:44 AM
my Xhusband was a dud. He must have been related to my ex wife. Introduce these two to one another?

oldkid46 Joined Fri 02/09/18 Posts: 1717	Mon 10/01/18 08:55 AM
I 've had platonic activity men partners, they were ok with that. Both very much single. Some people can have Fun without Sex. Not a relationship but friendship. In the real world when others see you together, that means you are both taken and not available. You are considered a couple!

Poetrywriter Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 22675	Mon 10/01/18 09:08 AM
my Xhusband was a dud. He must have been related to my ex wife. Introduce these two to one another? And start WW3?

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14591	Mon 10/01/18 10:31 AM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Mon 10/01/18 10:32 AM
I 've had platonic activity men partners, they were ok with that. Both very much single. Some people can have Fun without Sex. Not a relationship but friendship. In the real world when others see you together, that means you are both taken and not available. You are considered a couple! No, not my world. Many people have activity partners for outings. Although it is hard to find on Any dating site.

oldkid46 Joined Fri 02/09/18 Posts: 1717	Mon 10/01/18 11:29 AM
I 've had platonic activity men partners, they were ok with that. Both very much single. Some people can have Fun without Sex. Not a relationship but friendship. In the real world when others see you together, that means you are both taken and not available. You are considered a couple! No, not my world. Many people have activity partners for outings. Although it is hard to find on Any dating site. Among those who know you, that may be true; among those who don't know you, the two of you are a couple!

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 14591	Mon 10/01/18 12:32 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Mon 10/01/18 12:33 PM
They. Are NOTHING like my real dates !

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48926	Mon 10/01/18 12:41 PM
Folks, the OP deactivated. I wonder why?