It's all about you loving yourself and having boundaries. Believing in yourself, having inner strength and self-confidence, then you lose the urge to please.
Feels a lot better because then you can help when asked for help, not help when you think the other needs it. Vastly different, and received totally different as well.
Boils down to this question I was asked years ago, and helped me a lot to overcome this behaviour:
"Why do you need to be needed?"

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Feeling that this is the pits. I want to do something but I haven't a clue as to what. It is driving me up a wall and the stress level is going up. I am simply at a loss on how to deal with what is making me feel this way.

Well, you likely think it's a lot of BS, but this is because of Venus Retrograde in Scorpio.
If you don't know what the heck that is, no worries, it just means that right now there can be a lot of upheaval going on energetically which makes people feel restless.
I've had the same thing on and off for about a week.
This retrograde started the 5th and will continue until November 15th (40 days).
You may not believe in it, feel it's mumbo jumbo, but all it has to do with is planets having an energy field, like we do, and when planets are in a certain position, for instance closer to Earth or farther away, it shifts the energies.
Since we too have an energy field, we feel that and it can affect us.
Nothing mumbo jumbo about it, it can actually be measured.

In any case, even if you still feel it is mumbo jumbo, this IS why you feel restless and are going up the walls.
Can also be that you have more dreams now about people or situations you thought you'd dealt with ages ago.
That is also part of this stuff.
Nothing much you can do about it. Maybe go for a walk or something, get outdoors in nature a bit. Or just accept the not doing anything, put on a movie, grab a drink and something to nibble and enjoy it.
That's what I did last Sunday. Very unlike me to watch a movie during the day and do nothing. ANd you know what... I bleeping enjoyed it, hihi.

Come to think of it... it is more than just restless.
In general I feel really good and alive, having lots of energy. Really happy too. And quite assertive, hihi. Then I feel insecure about having been assertive and start doubting myself which narks me. I manage to get back to feeling good again, but the energy is not stable.
I have a REAL short tipper too. Very low tolerance of stupidity, and cos of the way I feel -assertive- much of what I see is now labeled "stupid" hahaha.
Yep, I can be a tad judgemental at the mo, grin.
I think it's all these contradicting energies that make me restless.
Then there's dreams at night about situations with an ex, me thinking "What the hell are you doing in my dream? PO!" (actually it's more like FO, lol, did I say I was assertive?)

Oh well, it'll pass...

It is a mess Crystal. You made a good point. Regardless, I feel helpless.

Well, not sure what exactly is going on, and that's okay, it just might help to know that right now old chit can come up. People, situations from way back in the past.
Also money related things.

Because of all this, if a big decision is needed it's best to postpone it if at all possible. No big changes, decisions, or purchases.

If on a more personal level it might help to know that all this stuff is happening so you can clear it out foregood. Meaning you can look at what you can / should've learnt from it, forgive (including yourself), and let go.
That sort of thing.

Don't want to bother you with the astrological details too much, but right now Venus is in SCorpio and that is one of the most intense signs -and energies- there is. Very deep, mysterious, secrets, things in the subconscious and so on.
That's why this feels so bloody intense. But that will change end of this month as Venus then moves into Libra, which is lighter.

Hang in there cowboy, I'll give you another hug to tide you over for now, hihi.
(((Poetry)))

Thanks Crystal....I will never refuse a hug....Hey, you can be my shrink... But I can only afford a hug as payment. Here ya go...(((Crystal))) Maybe I can go nap it away.....later Crystal

I feel great! Got a 100% on my exam from the online course I took today.

Well done to you too! That's a good feeling.

And thanks!

Your own wellbeing should always be paramount and come first. Please don't be the doormat for other people. I made the same mistake, and I had to learn it the hard way

Anyway, dunno if this means something to you, but (((Pumpi)))

I feel like ... coffeeeeeeeee!!
I only just got up, hihi

Refreshed and 'd with life

Totally excited! I applied for a new kitchen from council and... I am going to get it!! YEEHAA! !

Feeling totally different today Crystal. What a load off my shoulders. Whatever I was feeling was all in my mind. After a convo with a friend my mind is back to it's normal self and that can be scary. I was so out of sorts yesterday that I didn't even realize the time of day I was posting with you. In my mind I did all my posting in the morning and nothing for the rest of the day. The mind is such a funny animal to figure out. But thanks to my friend my mind is normal again. And thanks to you for letting me vent....

I feel much better than last night. A little tired because of short sleep, but I just needed time to destress after a long day.

Glad to hear you're feeling better, Poetry!
Enjoy the day!

I feel oddly....human.

Not bad, cos I think I FINALLY have my 2nd book ready to send to publisher
I'd finished it over a year ago, sent it in, got it back because they had changed their policy concerning writing style, again.
Meaning I had to re-write the whole book a second time. Trust me, that's soul destroying!
But I think I did it. Must go over it to be sure, fingers crossed cos I'm fed up with it!

excited and anticipatory!

Oooo... excited and hopeful for Galaxy


And totally ecstatic!!!... I got my license! Well the learners permit so I can practice before taking the driving test. Already practiced a tiny bit and it was like riding a bike. Tomorrow I will have my full driving privileges back.

Feeling grateful and blessed!