In most profiles men state that they enjoy different activities with their partner, and I have found while browsing through several profiles, not only on this website, but a few other dating sites, that most men put:

1. Cuddle on the couch holding each other watching a movie
2. Taking long walks
3. Working out 3-4 times a week, would like partner to be the same.
4. don't put a thing in their profile, but say "if you want to know anything just ask" (thats why its called a "profile", you put your "about you" in it!)
5. Or they misspell every other word, for instance, "i'm looking 4 that 'spacial' some1"
6. Lets not forget the classic 1st date, dinner then a very long movie. (jabber for a bit while you gaze into each others eyes, then the guy thinks he gets to cuddle you up or get a kiss out of you at theatre. How many of you had your 1st kiss at a theatre? lmao...can't you be more spontaneous?)

there's several other lines I could put here, but unfortunately I don't remember all of them...I just want to know don't you men have any other ideas besides eating, drinking, tv, sex, work, and working out 3-4 times a week.

I mean, I tried working out before, and my goodness if I could just get myself to the gym, walking in and I see all of the women that really need to lose the weight and here I am 130 lbs and i'm trying to lose that extra 15lbs just so I can get to 115lbs...and they all stare me down like they're going to kill me, that's why I don't go to the gym...lmao. what about you men? What does working out in the gym 3-4 times a week get you besides keeping you ripped, which isn't all that great sometimes..

Ok, ok...i'll admit, i'm a bit bored at 10pm!

thats awesome...i totally agree

From my profile, about other profiles:

October 13, 2007 -- I've been seeing some posts about profiles and profile pics the last couple days. My thoughts on this, after rummaging through about 840 Mutual Match options:

If your profile is empty, I click No. Automatically. If you can't be bothered to write three sentences about yourself, where's my incentive to want to meet you?

If your profile is full of vapid nothings, I click No. Creativity and intellect are important to me, probably the key things I look for in a friend or partner. If all you can say is "No game players, please" or "I'm easy-going and laid back" or "I'm shy at first until you get to know me," or "Anything you want to know, you'll have to ask me," then I have to assume you're pulling lines out of Meaningless Drivel-Filled Dating Site Profiles For Dummies -- and plagiarism does NOT count as creativity or intellect. OK, five points for having enough brain power to go to Borders and buy the book, but that's all.

If your profile pic contains more than one person, and you do not somehow specify or indicate which one is you, I click No. I don't want to have to guess who's who.

If you leave a bunch of things blank, I click No. It matters to me if you're married or not, or if you have kids, or if you're looking for something diametrically opposed to what I'm looking for.

If the writing in the profile is completely incomprehensible, I click No. I'm in favor of "creative use of language" as much as the next guy, but if I can't figure out what you're trying to say, I'm not going to waste a lot of time and effort on translations. I've been married to a hillbilly, so I know what my limitations are.

Kids is a No, alcohol is a No. They're not for me, not in my life. I mean, I'll be friends with (almost) anybody, but I've been through enough bad relationships to know what to avoid now.

If your profile pic is a down-the-blouse shot, that's a No. Because that sort of pic indicates you're not looking for someone like me.

I never click Yes, because I honestly don't think I can assign a clear and solid Yes to anyone based solely on a pic and a profile. I have clicked a fair number of Maybes when someone comes across as being intelligent and interesting and seems to be -- potentially, at least -- not 100% mainstream. Not that anything has ever really developed from it.

For me, though, I think a person's forum postings are much more useful as a way of getting to know them, than a profile is. Most people don't update their profiles very often, and, as a result, there can be information which is hopelessly out of date and no longer applicable. Forum posts are more "real-time" and people who post a lot tend to be easier to get to know because there is simply more OF them and FROM them readily available to read.

But for those people who don't use the forums, the profile is all we have to work with, IF we ever even find out you exist. And if your profile is all you've got, it might be a good idea to make it as thorough and interesting and attractive as possible. If you want to be noticed here, anyway.

I would still recommend the forums though, if you're at all serious about wanting to meet anyone here.

all i think about is food beer n sex. i dont have time 2watch tv or work out. lol im i the kinda man ur talkn bout

Nope...that is pretty much the best we have :)

I find that with the influx of the apathetic instant information generation the standard for unique material as well as the care for proper spelling has declined drastically.

Kids these days eh? :)

Does that help?

Your whole post made complete sense, it's good to see someone that thinks with their head on their shoulders and not between their legs and knows what they want and who they want. I'm there with you when it comes to not saying "YES" to anyone. I always just click on "maybe" or "no" because clicking yes doesn't guarentee they are the person you're looking for. clicking maybe gives you a chance to decide openly without feeling bad about it. If I ever click "YES" for any man on this site, he better damn well be worth everything, lol!

first of all i can spell second with what movies cost these days i would much like to watch what im paying for so eat your popcorn.... cuddle on the couch ..sounds too sissified for me and as far as working out the only thing i try to work out is my T-bone taste on a hamburger budget... ..guys using words like cuddle...

Some girls tend to misinterpret "fondle" though....

MattLees, I had to read your answer over a few times to understand what you were saying, lol. But yeah, I agree, due to the lack of laziness on most peoples part, alot of information is put in poorely, and you can say what you want, and how you want, but I do disagree, it's just not kids either that do it :P

no wonder you are called neanderthaldave, it fits perfect, lol!

would you really email a guy that said "sit on couch in boxer scratching my balls and drinking beer" it might be honest but is that what you want to here. lol. "women" want class or the illusion of class. so yes long walks on the beach, not drinking near a pit fire and throw you kicking and screaming in to ice cold water. or cuddleing on the couch, not watch rambo3 for the 12 time that week and gropeing you in front of his friends for a laugh.

disclaimer first am a bad speller
second not all men are like that no offense to anyone

im not a chick and i still feel your pain.

I love it when guys list cuddling and sex as their hobbies. A real winner there!

men want sex. They will say anything that makes them sound like a "good" guy. As a married man once told me "a hard d*ck had no conscious." That says it all. They just copy the best of the profiles of men they think will get the sex.

First of all, I work out 1 to 2 times a week...so nah!

Cuddling? CUDDLING? On the couch? What the hell is that? I get the couch, the woman gets the floor. Them's the rules.

Long walks on the beach? Well, I live 15 minutes from the beach, and it would take a long ass time to walk there. Oh. Long walks ON the beach...not TO the beach. My bad.


Okay.....enough of me being a smartazz! Look, I happen to enjoy some cuddle time, so sue me...but it isn't like the first thing I think of to put in my profile. However, this is an interesting post because it seems you ladies all say close to the same thing. I mean, do all of you really love camping? I happen to know a lot of women who won't camp cause they will not crap in the woods. And, do you really want a nice, good guy? Or is that just something that you have seen millions of other women write and so you put it down on your profile? Me thinks both sexes are guilty of being "blah" when it comes to writing a good profile.

Exactly. Either the profile is empty (or might as well be) or is a complete rubber-stamp. 98% of the profiles I've seen here simply don't tell me anything about the person.

When it starts out with "I hate writing about myself" or "Who knows what to say in these things?" you just know that person belongs in Remedial English 101, not on a dating site.

Oh where to begin. Well, here's my two cents.

A profile is just something meant to catch someone's eye. Granted the more original, the more successful, but I think the basic things the men seem to list that the OP seems to resent sound pretty dang good myself. Them's the basics. If you want to know further, email them and get to know 'em to find out what they're all about.

As for working out...it doesn't have to be at a gym, I think they are just trying to convey that they want a woman who values their body as much as they will... 'cause face it, it matters to men and women. And don't worry honey, those women who "need to lose the weight" probably don't want to kill ya, they're just recalling what it was like to be young and naive like you, thinking physical appearance is all that matters in this life. Someday you may be able to look past the outer shell.

It boils down to perception, like the camping. To Goof, it seems to mean roughing it and sharing the tree next door with the proverbial bear...but to miss high and mighty who writes she likes camping in her profile, it may mean spending a week in the luxury RV while he waits on her hand and foot. So the only way to really know anyone is to get to know them.

We're all different but all alike in that we want the same thing...cuddling LOL And that's my quarter's worth.