He asked me out this morning.
On the 4th of July we both will receive our exam results and I told him I was nervous. He offered me to come relax at his place because he wanted to ask me out since the beginning of the year but he felt he didn’t know me well enough at that point.
Well, now we know each other a bit better. We have been in class with each other for 10 months.
I like him too. He is handsome, hygienic and intelligent.
I just don’t know if it’s smart to go to his place on the first date. I think he might have this idea of “ Netflix and chill “ in his head whereas I’m looking for something more serious than a one-night-fling.
Should I call the date off with an excuse or should I tell him that I want a classic date and not a sex date?
This guy is kind of a player. He has asked 7 or 8 girls from our university class out for a date already since January.
I just am worried that it might be a time waste and that he is after something that I’m not yet willing to offer him.

This guy is kind of a player. He has asked 7 or 8 girls from our university class out for a date already since January.

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kind of a player?.. this guy IS a player ( and one with no sense of logistics, you don't ask 7-8 girls from the same place out... cause.. they all talk and will then know you are a sleaze ball) and once you go to his place in his mind you want to have sex.. you don't, but he is not going to see it that way.


IMO.. cancel the date and ask him to meet some other tie at a common place.

I think you may be right. I’m a bit worried that I will give him wrong signals if I agree to go to his place.
He is not the type who believes in love. He sees girls as body parts from how he talks.
That scares me.
He is very handsome though and I crush on him but I know he is no good for me longterm. He will use me and go on to the next like he did with the other 7 girls who preceded me.
I think I will ask him for a no-strings-attached coffee in a neutral place. To avoid confusion.

I crush on him :-(
Maybe better to turn him down if longterm he will only cause me heartache. It seems he is only after sex.

I know you have a crush and that is fine.. its healthy. But once he " conquers" you ( and that's what he is thinking) he will be on to the next

I think you are more then smart enough not to get sucked it to that.

NO, NO, NO ~ DON'T DO IT!

First date at his place.
He's a player.
You've a crush on him.
He's a player.
You're worried about a broken heart.
He's a player.

PROTECT YOUR HEART!


Carefully, politely, walk away.

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I dont understand?

if you know he has asked 7 or 8 women out from your class , why would you even consider dating him?

He isn't "kind of a player" he is a "player"

and as others have said, not a good idea to go to his place or invite him to yours, he wants to take you on a date you meet in public.

Don't understand, he's a challenge, play the player big mojo

It sounds like you understand the situation. You said he isn't one for the long term so you have to decide about the short term. You "crush" on him which I assume is mostly sexual. That brings it to two things you need to decide: do you want a sexual night with him and are you capable of dealing with your emotions afterward? If you want the sexual night but aren't ready yet, then direct the date to some other environment not conducive to sex the first night. If you don't want the sexual night with him now or in the future, cancel the date. Please don't let the moralistic attitudes of some people on here influence your decision either way. Make the decision based on what you want and your beliefs.

You know what will happen if you say yes, right?

and you need validation. Well, go with your instincts.

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I couldn't have said it better.