An honest person will tell you what you don't want to hear. Your response to that message will determine if you hear the truth in the future. When you attack or dismiss the messenger, you lose the message or get a message that is not true!

I've seen way too much of this myself. They say they want a man that will tell them the truth. But, when one does, they can't handle it. They want an honest man. But when one is honest, they can't handle it. I've seen some that say they don't want a man that just wants them for sex. When in reality, that's what they really want.

But, none of that really bothers me. The only thing I see out of the opposite gender that sometimes bothers me. Because I see so much of it, Are the ones that say they want love. When in reality they want whatever the man can give them monetarily. Houses, cars, trips etc. And if something happens and all that dries up, they gone. Where is the love?

Dating now is hard. Much harder than it was when I first started out dating many years ago. Back before the internet, a man could walk up to a woman and strike up a conversation and maybe get shot down. Or maybe get a date. Now, everyone is on the internet looking for love. And walking up to a woman now and trying to strike up a conversation, at the very least will get you looked at like you're crazy. And at the worst can get you locked up. And that's not an exaggeration.

If I wanted nothing else but a booty call then I wouldn't be here I would be in the bar. I am so tired of finding the liars and the losers, I have found guys have come on here when they are already in a relationship and only want to play the field. Oh, they play it up so it appears that there is a chance it could go further but then you find out about the other woman and all that can be heard are the brakes slamming. I try to find the quality in the man, not his wallet. I have my own source of income, don't need his. But I am beginning to doubt if men on these sites are as genuine as they appear...haven't proven this to me yet. NO MATTER THEIR AGE!

I hope I dont get in trouble with the mods for saying this, but I think Cgor64, that this particular site isnt good for dating, I bet that dating pool is probably better on the forums than the actual site.

I think that is the problem with free sites, it attracts all types, whether it was the defunct DH aka date hookup, or the one with plenty of fishes , okayyy cupid and such, it attracts all sorts from those that want booty call, friends with benefits to those actually looking for relationships.

It is what it is , I prefer the paid sites myself because at least the scammers , spammers are cut in half but you still have to use discernment.

Most sites are not good for dating. It is the vastly different desires and expectations between the genders and their willingness to be accepting of each other. While most men are not exclusively looking for sex, most will refuse involvement with a woman who isn't interested in sex. Most women are only interested in that exclusive, long term relationship and will not date someone they see as not having that potential. Result is very few dates.