Being Virgin @ 28 is Good or Bad??

Tis the individual's choice.

No judgement here.

None whatsoever.

However, I've seen this little bit of info in 3 different threads now - no telling how many I haven't happened across. It's okay if you're proud and wear it like a badge of honor, but if that's all you say over and over that is all anyone is going to remember about you. Branch out.

It depends,if you're holding on for moral reasons , its good

if you're holding on because you were indoctrinated that sex is dirty, then its not .


if its because there is no sexual desires, unrealistic expectation or some psychological damage, also not good

Oh snap. Didnt check the numbers...

Thanks Def_Diff!

A sexual.

Its bad for your wrists.. that's for sure

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It is that person's choice. If it is right for them, then it is no one else's business.

Not sure.

I hear there is no cure for chronic virginitis.

R u?

Bad.
Because it's mostly delusional, IMO.

"Virginity" is not solely about a lack of coitus but a naivete as well.
Of not really knowing what sex is, what it's about, about not really having the desire or motivations to seek out sex, or if not the complete lack of such, just a burgeoning awareness or something, emotionally, different but not really knowing what they're supposed to be associated with.

Anymore, with sex education, the availability of porn on the internet, sex in the movies and on t.v., just hearing graphic stories from friends, possibly chronic masturbation, IMO you aren't really capable of being a "virgin."

IMO it's akin to replacing "sex" with "driving" and then comparing an 8 year old that has never seen or heard of a car and has never needed nor wanted to go farther than their neighborhood with a 30 year old that rides the bus 4 hours to work every day and relaxes at home by playing driving simulator computer games.

There should be another term than "virgin," although I don't think the term exists.

An 8 year old "driving" virgin is neither good, nor bad, it's just a descriptive term. It's not "bad" unless the term cannot be used.
A 30 year old "driving" virgin is bad, there are all sorts of implied and inherent problems to their life, life situation, possibly personality, that has led to them being a "virgin" and their inability to acquire driving lessons or a car.

Personally, I'd stop considering myself a virgin, or believing the term applies to me in any way.
You aren't a 28 year old virgin.
You're just a 28 year old.
Your ability or inability to have sex has absolutely nothing to do with the now meaningless label you choose to adopt.
At best you are adopting that label as some kind of defense mechanism in order to avoid problems or issues.

what is important is your own perception , happiness and self worth .. There are pro and cons to being a virgin . What matters is what you value

You think that being a virgin at 28 is bad? Try not ever even going on out a first date at 28 years, 1 month, and 39 days (and counting)!

Not by choice, but when you don't have a car and license until 27-28...

When all of your associates at work who you find even remotely attractive are already in a relationship or have no interest...

When bars and getting girls drunk just isn't your style (plus, I never liked the taste of alcohol myself)...

When the you have a work environment that isn't conducive to meeting singles your age, and even I find it questionably appropriate at best to ask for someone's number when they are with friend or family in front of dozens of people...

And when you finally do find someone online after about two months of trying who reciprocates your interest, only for a work friend to decide to pursue her, and then for her to return the favor...

That is when celibacy is not optional!

Not that I would mind if one of the terms of a relationship is celibacy for religious reasons until our wedding night if it ever comes, assuming that she is worth the wait (and I have every intention of only messaging those who I consider to be so, just in case)! I hear that anticipation is supposed to heighten the sense of pleasure anyways! ;)

I'd wonder WHY. I know most women refuse all dates even if they like the guy, but surely a guy will get lucky now and then

Get a better position, Jes, that will help.

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