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I wasn't suggesting who anyone should date. I was trying to point out that we often cross somebody off based on our bias without looking at the whole person to see if there are values there we are looking for. It all boils down to attraction, romantically or sexually,we are attracted to what we are attracted to . |
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It all comes down to personal preference and what you like and don't. There is no right or wrong Awhile go there was a thread on " would you date outside your race" I said no.. I was called a racist by a few people here! Lol.. A racist because I prefer white women... because.. well.. I'm white.. so I like that... And I was labeled a racist......... mmm, I think thats oversimplifying. a preference is about who you WILL go out with, not about who you WONT. I PREFER taller men, doesnt mean I WOULDNT date a shorter guy. If race alone is keeping someone out of the running, ..... well... |
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It all comes down to personal preference and what you like and don't. There is no right or wrong Awhile go there was a thread on " would you date outside your race" I said no.. I was called a racist by a few people here! Lol.. A racist because I prefer white women... because.. well.. I'm white.. so I like that... And I was labeled a racist......... mmm, I think thats oversimplifying. a preference is about who you WILL go out with, not about who you WONT. I PREFER taller men, doesnt mean I WOULDNT date a shorter guy. If race alone is keeping someone out of the running, ..... well... I dont. People also do racist things cause they 'want to'. It really doesnt change anything. |
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It all comes down to personal preference and what you like and don't. There is no right or wrong Awhile go there was a thread on " would you date outside your race" I said no.. I was called a racist by a few people here! Lol.. A racist because I prefer white women... because.. well.. I'm white.. so I like that... And I was labeled a racist......... mmm, I think thats oversimplifying. a preference is about who you WILL go out with, not about who you WONT. I PREFER taller men, doesnt mean I WOULDNT date a shorter guy. If race alone is keeping someone out of the running, ..... well... I dont. People also do racist things cause they 'want to'. It really doesnt change anything. |
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It all comes down to personal preference and what you like and don't. There is no right or wrong Awhile go there was a thread on " would you date outside your race" I said no.. I was called a racist by a few people here! Lol.. A racist because I prefer white women... because.. well.. I'm white.. so I like that... And I was labeled a racist......... mmm, I think thats oversimplifying. a preference is about who you WILL go out with, not about who you WONT. I PREFER taller men, doesnt mean I WOULDNT date a shorter guy. If race alone is keeping someone out of the running, ..... well... I dont. People also do racist things cause they 'want to'. It really doesnt change anything. wow. Im just amazed how much gets read into posts on this site. Firstly, EVERYTHING is not racist to me what IS racist to me is grouping EVERY individual asthetics of an ENTIRE race into an 'unattractive' or 'undatable' box. Noone has to date who I want to not be racist. I dont want men to date men, but plenty do who have no qualms with race whatsoever, therefore, are not to me being RACIST. I dont think ALL whites are racist. I do think All people have learned prejudices against other cultures or groups. and I think in AMERICA, with the exception of those who have lived off the grid not exposed to media or public education, ALL AMericans are racist by indoctrination, and White americans have had less motivation than others to unlearn that indoctrination, although some of them have as well. |
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It all comes down to personal preference and what you like and don't. There is no right or wrong Awhile go there was a thread on " would you date outside your race" I said no.. I was called a racist by a few people here! Lol.. A racist because I prefer white women... because.. well.. I'm white.. so I like that... And I was labeled a racist......... mmm, I think thats oversimplifying. a preference is about who you WILL go out with, not about who you WONT. I PREFER taller men, doesnt mean I WOULDNT date a shorter guy. If race alone is keeping someone out of the running, ..... well... I dont. People also do racist things cause they 'want to'. It really doesnt change anything. wow. Im just amazed how much gets read into posts on this site. Firstly, EVERYTHING is not racist to me what IS racist to me is grouping EVERY individual asthetics of an ENTIRE race into an 'unattractive' or 'undatable' box. Noone has to date who I want to not be racist. I dont want men to date men, but plenty do who have no qualms with race whatsoever, therefore, are not to me being RACIST. I dont think ALL whites are racist. I do think All people have learned prejudices against other cultures or groups. and I think in AMERICA, with the exception of those who have lived off the grid not exposed to media or public education, ALL AMericans are racist by indoctrination, and White americans have had less motivation than others to unlearn that indoctrination, although some of them have as well. |
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Edited by
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It all comes down to personal preference and what you like and don't. There is no right or wrong Awhile go there was a thread on " would you date outside your race" I said no.. I was called a racist by a few people here! Lol.. A racist because I prefer white women... because.. well.. I'm white.. so I like that... And I was labeled a racist......... mmm, I think thats oversimplifying. a preference is about who you WILL go out with, not about who you WONT. I PREFER taller men, doesnt mean I WOULDNT date a shorter guy. If race alone is keeping someone out of the running, ..... well... I dont. People also do racist things cause they 'want to'. It really doesnt change anything. wow. Im just amazed how much gets read into posts on this site. Firstly, EVERYTHING is not racist to me what IS racist to me is grouping EVERY individual asthetics of an ENTIRE race into an 'unattractive' or 'undatable' box. Noone has to date who I want to not be racist. I dont want men to date men, but plenty do who have no qualms with race whatsoever, therefore, are not to me being RACIST. I dont think ALL whites are racist. I do think All people have learned prejudices against other cultures or groups. and I think in AMERICA, with the exception of those who have lived off the grid not exposed to media or public education, ALL AMericans are racist by indoctrination, and White americans have had less motivation than others to unlearn that indoctrination, although some of them have as well. okay.. and? was this in response to one of the other 56,000 ? ... lol we really should keep the flow somewhat relevant to the CURRENT posts .. |
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It all comes down to personal preference and what you like and don't. There is no right or wrong Awhile go there was a thread on " would you date outside your race" I said no.. I was called a racist by a few people here! Lol.. A racist because I prefer white women... because.. well.. I'm white.. so I like that... And I was labeled a racist......... mmm, I think thats oversimplifying. a preference is about who you WILL go out with, not about who you WONT. I PREFER taller men, doesnt mean I WOULDNT date a shorter guy. If race alone is keeping someone out of the running, ..... well... Yeah, and... that's you... not me. that's the point. I PREFER who I like to date. not what some PC bent person thinks I SHOULD or shouldn't like. Frankly nobody has a right to judge what someone else prefers in a relationship... nobody. And NOBODY has the right to label someone because of who they choose or do not choose to date... nobody. |
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Haven't got any. I married into a family, who were the kings and queens of bias, and I was the target. I am only glad, that chapter of my life is over.
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It all comes down to personal preference and what you like and don't. There is no right or wrong Awhile go there was a thread on " would you date outside your race" I said no.. I was called a racist by a few people here! Lol.. A racist because I prefer white women... because.. well.. I'm white.. so I like that... And I was labeled a racist......... mmm, I think thats oversimplifying. a preference is about who you WILL go out with, not about who you WONT. I PREFER taller men, doesnt mean I WOULDNT date a shorter guy. If race alone is keeping someone out of the running, ..... well... Yeah, and... that's you... not me. that's the point. I PREFER who I like to date. not what some PC bent person thinks I SHOULD or shouldn't like. Frankly nobody has a right to judge what someone else prefers in a relationship... nobody. And NOBODY has the right to label someone because of who they choose or do not choose to date... nobody. but we have got the RIGHT to answer a public forum question regarding BIAS and to provide another definition of what a RACIAL BIAS is. |
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When I was younger, I had a stronger preference for black men mostly because it was the comfort zone of what I knew and because of the cultural stereotypes that led my mind to make certain blanket assessments of anyone in other groups just because they were in the group. I didnt like thin lips or pale skin, so I thought I didn't care much for white guys.
_____________________________________________________________________ So, you were a racist?.. didn't like those thin whitey lips.. did ya ;) |
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It all comes down to personal preference and what you like and don't. There is no right or wrong Awhile go there was a thread on " would you date outside your race" I said no.. I was called a racist by a few people here! Lol.. A racist because I prefer white women... because.. well.. I'm white.. so I like that... And I was labeled a racist......... mmm, I think thats oversimplifying. a preference is about who you WILL go out with, not about who you WONT. I PREFER taller men, doesnt mean I WOULDNT date a shorter guy. If race alone is keeping someone out of the running, ..... well... I dont. People also do racist things cause they 'want to'. It really doesnt change anything. wow. Im just amazed how much gets read into posts on this site. Firstly, EVERYTHING is not racist to me what IS racist to me is grouping EVERY individual asthetics of an ENTIRE race into an 'unattractive' or 'undatable' box. Noone has to date who I want to not be racist. I dont want men to date men, but plenty do who have no qualms with race whatsoever, therefore, are not to me being RACIST. I dont think ALL whites are racist. I do think All people have learned prejudices against other cultures or groups. and I think in AMERICA, with the exception of those who have lived off the grid not exposed to media or public education, ALL AMericans are racist by indoctrination, and White americans have had less motivation than others to unlearn that indoctrination, although some of them have as well. okay.. and? was this in response to one of the other 56,000 ? ... lol we really should keep the flow somewhat relevant to the CURRENT posts .. 
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When I was younger, I had a stronger preference for black men mostly because it was the comfort zone of what I knew and because of the cultural stereotypes that led my mind to make certain blanket assessments of anyone in other groups just because they were in the group. I didnt like thin lips or pale skin, so I thought I didn't care much for white guys. _____________________________________________________________________ So, you were a racist?.. didn't like those thin whitey lips.. did ya ;) YES. Now you get it. I have clearly stated ALMOST ALL AMERICANS are racist by indoctrination, UNTIL/UNLESS they work to unlearn the bias.Me not being attracted to a certain asthetic should not have equated to me being unattracted to an ENTIRE race, because not every white person has thin lips and not only white people have thin lips AND BECAUSE, even people with thin lips, regardless of race, can have many other traits I DO find attractive, like their charm, their intelligence, the way they walk, the way they smile ...etc. I am glad I worked on it instead of just settling into 'Well, I like what I like" mindset. |
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When I was younger, I had a stronger preference for black men mostly because it was the comfort zone of what I knew and because of the cultural stereotypes that led my mind to make certain blanket assessments of anyone in other groups just because they were in the group. I didnt like thin lips or pale skin, so I thought I didn't care much for white guys. _____________________________________________________________________ So, you were a racist?.. didn't like those thin whitey lips.. did ya ;) YES. Now you get it. I have clearly stated ALMOST ALL AMERICANS are racist by indoctrination, UNTIL/UNLESS they work to unlearn the bias.Me not being attracted to a certain asthetic should not have equated to me being unattracted to an ENTIRE race, because not every white person has thin lips and not only white people have thin lips AND BECAUSE, even people with thin lips, regardless of race, can have many other traits I DO find attractive, like their charm, their intelligence, the way they walk, the way they smile ...etc. I am glad I worked on it instead of just settling into 'Well, I like what I like" mindset. o.k got it.. your a reformed racist... are you sure you got cured of all of it? So how many thin lipped charming, intelligent white guys who walk nice have you dated? |
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When I was younger, I had a stronger preference for black men mostly because it was the comfort zone of what I knew and because of the cultural stereotypes that led my mind to make certain blanket assessments of anyone in other groups just because they were in the group. I didnt like thin lips or pale skin, so I thought I didn't care much for white guys. _____________________________________________________________________ So, you were a racist?.. didn't like those thin whitey lips.. did ya ;) YES. Now you get it. I have clearly stated ALMOST ALL AMERICANS are racist by indoctrination, UNTIL/UNLESS they work to unlearn the bias.Me not being attracted to a certain asthetic should not have equated to me being unattracted to an ENTIRE race, because not every white person has thin lips and not only white people have thin lips AND BECAUSE, even people with thin lips, regardless of race, can have many other traits I DO find attractive, like their charm, their intelligence, the way they walk, the way they smile ...etc. I am glad I worked on it instead of just settling into 'Well, I like what I like" mindset. o.k got it.. your a reformed racist... are you sure you got cured of all of it? So how many thin lipped charming, intelligent white guys who walk nice have you dated? always a work in progress, but much much better than in younger years, thank you. my dating life is persona. but there have been more than two of those thin lipped charming intelligent white guys who walk nice ... if it matters. |
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When I was younger, I had a stronger preference for black men mostly because it was the comfort zone of what I knew and because of the cultural stereotypes that led my mind to make certain blanket assessments of anyone in other groups just because they were in the group. I didnt like thin lips or pale skin, so I thought I didn't care much for white guys. _____________________________________________________________________ So, you were a racist?.. didn't like those thin whitey lips.. did ya ;) YES. Now you get it. I have clearly stated ALMOST ALL AMERICANS are racist by indoctrination, UNTIL/UNLESS they work to unlearn the bias.Me not being attracted to a certain asthetic should not have equated to me being unattracted to an ENTIRE race, because not every white person has thin lips and not only white people have thin lips AND BECAUSE, even people with thin lips, regardless of race, can have many other traits I DO find attractive, like their charm, their intelligence, the way they walk, the way they smile ...etc. I am glad I worked on it instead of just settling into 'Well, I like what I like" mindset. |
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Edited by
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When I was younger, I had a stronger preference for black men mostly because it was the comfort zone of what I knew and because of the cultural stereotypes that led my mind to make certain blanket assessments of anyone in other groups just because they were in the group. I didnt like thin lips or pale skin, so I thought I didn't care much for white guys. _____________________________________________________________________ So, you were a racist?.. didn't like those thin whitey lips.. did ya ;) YES. Now you get it. I have clearly stated ALMOST ALL AMERICANS are racist by indoctrination, UNTIL/UNLESS they work to unlearn the bias.Me not being attracted to a certain asthetic should not have equated to me being unattracted to an ENTIRE race, because not every white person has thin lips and not only white people have thin lips AND BECAUSE, even people with thin lips, regardless of race, can have many other traits I DO find attractive, like their charm, their intelligence, the way they walk, the way they smile ...etc. I am glad I worked on it instead of just settling into 'Well, I like what I like" mindset. all nouns and adjectives can be 'labels' but nouns and adjectives are important for communication. Im using an appropriate word to communicate the description of a certain action. and for the sake of consistency, it is perfectly 'right' to say everyone (including) me is subject to the same definition when they do the same thing. as I said, a PREFERENCE is about what one DOES LIKE, not about what they dont. what they DONT like is a bias. I prefer butter pecan, I would never rule out eating chocolate though. I dont have a preference for chocolate, but I dont RULE IT OUT. I prefer the English language, I would never rule out trying to learn or speak another one though, I dont have a preference for Spanish, but I woudl not RULE it out. I prefer fiction to biographies, but I would not RULE OUT a good biography, although biographies are not my preference, I dont RULE THEM OUT. get it? once you RULE something out, thats not PREFERENCE, thats BIAS. |
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When I was younger, I had a stronger preference for black men mostly because it was the comfort zone of what I knew and because of the cultural stereotypes that led my mind to make certain blanket assessments of anyone in other groups just because they were in the group. I didnt like thin lips or pale skin, so I thought I didn't care much for white guys. _____________________________________________________________________ So, you were a racist?.. didn't like those thin whitey lips.. did ya ;) YES. Now you get it. I have clearly stated ALMOST ALL AMERICANS are racist by indoctrination, UNTIL/UNLESS they work to unlearn the bias.Me not being attracted to a certain asthetic should not have equated to me being unattracted to an ENTIRE race, because not every white person has thin lips and not only white people have thin lips AND BECAUSE, even people with thin lips, regardless of race, can have many other traits I DO find attractive, like their charm, their intelligence, the way they walk, the way they smile ...etc. I am glad I worked on it instead of just settling into 'Well, I like what I like" mindset. all nouns and adjectives can be 'labels' but nouns and adjectives are important for communication. Im using an appropriate word to communicate the description of a certain action. and for the sake of consistency, it is perfectly 'right' to say everyone (including) me is subject to the same definition when they do the same thing. as I said, a PREFERENCE is about what one DOES LIKE, not about what they dont. what they DONT like is a bias. I prefer butter pecan, I would never rule out eating chocolate though. I dont have a preference for chocolate, but I dont RULE IT OUT. I prefer the English language, I would never rule out trying to learn or speak another one though, I dont have a preference for Spanish, but I woudl not RULE it out. I prefer fiction to biographies, but I would not RULE OUT a good biography, although biographies are not my preference, I dont RULE THEM OUT. get it? once you RULE something out, thats not PREFERENCE, thats BIAS. |
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interesting the things we try to be nice about and the things we dont ...
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interesting the things we try to be nice about and the things we dont ... |
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