Just my opinions.
Is age "difference" important to you?

I find as I get older my mind still remains young. I would say about 30.
I still want to do all the things I did at that age but sometimes the body does not cooperate
When entering into a relationship do you consider what it will be like in 20 or 30 years from now?

At least here in the USA the general health of the population is not good. Do you ever consider how you feel if your mate got sick? Would you stay with them?

My first marrige was a plus 16 difference. For many years we enjoyed a lifetime of adventures but then age took its toll for one of us and we could no longer physically do the things we once enjoyed. It became difficult to fulfill those dreams you spent a lifetime working for. Would you be disapointed if you reached a point in time where you could fulfill those life long dreams and found you could not fulfill them because your mate was too old? Or would you be happy for the good times you had together in the beginning?

No it isn't. I wouldn't date someone close to my son's age (27). I have little in common and it would feel creepy

Everyone gets old, even outside the USA

Age is nothing but a number imo. Many people with age differences live a happy full life's together. I depends on one's state of mind I suppose.

Topic: Is age just a number

No, age is a word. This is a number: 42.

No.
Science and biology tend to back me up on that, too.


Yes.
It keeps me from hiring 4 year olds and feeling secure I'm not violating EEO laws by not hiring seemingly mentally challenged high voiced midgets.


Sort of? I always consider the future. Retirement preparations, risk management, health preventative maintenance, professional goals.
There are always future considerations.

I don't sit and fantasize about how the relationship will or "should" be in 20-30 years time?
But at some point in the relationship my normal future considerations start accommodating the idea of them being around? Like life insurance policies and retirement needs and such?


I'm single on a dating site.
If I'm in a relationship, and they get sick, I do start wondering what will happen if they get sicker.
In a long enough relationship there are always discussions about family and family health history (not specific listing like from a chart, but stories about grandpa and his alzheimers and how her mom and family dealt with it).
These add up and in a relationship lasting long enough should be taken into account?


Of course. If they were "life long dreams."
I'm human, of course I'd feel disappointment if I had to make a choice between them and my "life long dreams" and chose them.
Being in a relationship doesn't offer a magical barrier against negative emotional reactions.
Just greater incentive to mitigate the risk and consequences of them.
The important question is could I keep from feeling resentment towards them, from identifying them as the reason for not being able to fulfill my "life long dreams."


Of course. I don't think I've ever been the "only what you've done for me lately counts" type of person.
There are thousands and thousands of minutes in a week.
I can feel happy, sad, resentful, loving, joyful, and all sorts of things over the course of a week.

I like dating in my own age range.

I enjoy older gentlemen who know how to still have good communication.

Age is not just a number, even if you're 60 and feel like you're 30.

Younger women don't want. Old men usually. When I. Was younger. I didn't.

I've never yet seen anyone who postulated that "age is just a number," who was really honest in every way about the idea.

We learn from our earliest experiences, that although age numbers are arbitrarily assigned to us (we COULD set the value of a year, according to something OTHER than the time it takes for the planet to circle the sun once), that the way that we all change over time, means that differences in time here make for HA-YOOG differences in perception, goals, desires, health, and on and on.

Most people who want to push the "age is just a number" idea, are specifically trying to guilt-trip others into putting up with their fascination with people who are of a very different age than they are. And usually, their fascination is NOT a healthy one, based on full recognition of their target person as an equal being to them.

That, or they feel bad about their own age difference, and are trying to change the subject from their own sense of what's right, to a challenge to other people around them, so THEY don't feel bad.

Nevertheless, I make no personal judgments about any individuals who decide to pair up. Some will end up being solid and healthy relationships and some wont. But ALL will learn that age is not just a number.

Age is a CONDITION. And they will have to cope with it, whatever the condition is, and whatever it becomes.

Young men don't want old ladies. I didn't.
They want security.

Young & older ladies want secure men.

My sister in law ( x) is doing just that, she pushing 50..nice lady. her boyfriend.. about 28. Her kids are older then him

And how does she look.. how does her family and friends she her?

As a embarrassment.

but heh, she is getting some young wood.. until he tires of her.. which always happens.

So my advice:

take videos.. at least you can go back and reminisce when you are in the Shady Oaks assisted living home.. which isn't far off.

The thing about age is that it is not all encompassing. There are aspects that can vary greatly - so much so that two people of the same chronological age can be in very different places.

Can you really compare a 31 year old woman who has been married and divorced with 2 kids to a 31 year old woman who has never had a long term relationship? Maturity and life experiences are much more important than chronological age IMHO.

isn't 42 the meaning of life lol don't pick up hitchhikers

Age may or may not be a number, it depends on the couple, on the head. I see myself more patient, stronger more sensible about my 20's, but I also bring my scars from that walk my fears and protections. The head is good, but the body shows differences, a few extra pounds, white hair ....
I think a healthy relationship with a person your age, because they speak the same language, have the same availability the same luggage.
Love is free and the most important is to be happy!

So you're saying my happiness is dependent on your approval ?

i think same

Your age is a number, sometimes it's not a good number.

age is a form of addition for those who cannot count

Age is a 3 letter word.
It also determines quality of wine and cheese

Some young men do want an older woman

Security is definitely is an advantage though.

I like older women and shall be open to that.

I feel too young to date women my own age

That's what some say, but does a girl my age really want a guy old enough to be her father when there are so many younger guys around better looking and in better shape? Not to mention the younger guys dream of their future lives while the old guys remember their youth so many decades ago. Aren't they just trying to relive their youth?