Consider this...
No matter the reasons or qualities that are given what happens when someone is found that does meet all your expectations.

I'm sure there are many perfectly qualified men available that are passed up, even rejected.
In this case, qualities are not the deciding factor like a checklist.

I dated one woman that told me she wanted a relationship without sex.
I gave her what she wanted.
It was a stale relationship because she expected intimacy without sexual desire. We were friends but she wanted more. She really wanted intimacy based on sexual desire but when it started to happen she balked.
It was very difficult to give her what she desired without also giving her what she didn't desire. It confused the crap out of me and I had no choice but to break off our relationship.

I believe that a lot of people have a romanticized view of what they want and don't really know what they want. For both genders.
They examine the qualifications until they find something, anything that disqualifies that potential match, then they complain that they can't find anyone right for them.
The longer they keep this up, the longer they search and do not find.

Nobody is going to live up to another person's dream.
There will always be something that doesn't fit the criteria.
We are all individual and unique.
Finding the right one is less of finding a perfect match and more finding toleration for the non-matching qualities.

If you being you fills me with Joy
and me being me fills you with Joy
What more is really needed?

Topic... "What do ladies really want in a man as a mate"

Just to feel loved!

That's simple enough *winks*

And obedience.

And the only one being loved by that guy

They may want to see so many things in a man, that you just can't count all of them, but the truth is, if they've decided to love you some day (well, miracles still can happen, right?) then it's most likely because you really know, how to make them feel special, protected and beloved .. just dare to be yourself in your best, and you will be everything they want and need

Yes, that too, lol. To feel loved and know you are loved by that special one who you love back is one of the things that matters most to me. The other things that matter is that he's hasn't and wouldn't kill anyone, is honest, and has integrity.

Don't think, I could kill anyone, neither did I. But I would protect my loved one with all I have, even if I risk my own life.

Honesty, good communicator, similar background, respectful, knows how to give, and receive, love in all its forms.

And I personally prefer an adventurous man.

A man as a mate... someone who could complement my nature and who knows how to nurture a relationship to always keep it growing in a positive way.

Assuming that the relationship is already established, I would think that a woman would want...

1. Honesty (First and Foremost)
2. The ability to demonstrate the same dedication and commitment she shows.
3. An expression of love towards her.
4. The ability to demonstrate emotional stability
5. To feel safe
6. A demonstrated integrity
7. The capacity for understanding others.
8. Mutual respect as an individual.
9. Demonstrated respect and honor for the relationship.
10. Demonstrated desire for her.

11. Great, lasting, devoted, exciting sex.
12. Demonstrated genuine attention to her needs.
13. The ability to make her want him.
14. Acceptance of her shortcomings.
15. Acceptance of the things/people she loves.

I had a great marriage until the demon got her.
I experienced 24.5 years of a great marriage.
Part of it was my own delusions but in my heart, she was the most important thing in my life, until she changed my heart.
7 years after, she still wants me. Problem is, she is bad for me.
I know that now.

They just a wanna....they just a wanna.....girls just want to have fun.

i'm sooooo confused

I want someone REAL!

Someone who accepts that im crazy (in a good way) and fun and I want the same from you!

I want someone who looks at me and see's everything..like I do him!

I want someone who is not afraid to show his masculine or feminine side (its ok for men to cry) who is not all wrapped up in being macho with a chit load of ego!

I want someone who gives a chit about my feelings, as I will his.

I see a pattern here........

basically I just want a man that can give to me what I have to give to him.

just as long as you don't expect me to not use that towel hanging by the sink in the loo

You can use any damn towel you want to..

and leave the seat up!

YOU DIDNT!?