Did somebody trip you with a quilt? Were you standing on it at the time?

Maybe the guy wants some guarantee of success. If he is going to travel thousands of miles to meet the girl, he wants to know she is going to say yes, he doesn't want to meet a time waster.

AMEN to that!! I don't know about men. But as far as women go, I'm always either contacting or being contacted by time wasters. What I come across the most are women who will talk to you until you get interested in meeting them. And then when you mention meeting them, POOF, gone like the wind. Never answer another message or hear from them again. They aren't fakes. They have active profiles for years.

I think that many of them have boyfriends or husbands. And they are just on there to play. They get an ego boost from all the men asking them for dates. Which is another reason why I will not travel very far to meet a woman.

Many women do play online and makes it hard for serious women to get a man to trust her to meet for a date.

I have met men in the past from miles away. They had trust issues but after talking on the phone for weeks they could tell, I am a honest serious Single woman.

Most want a woman in their back Yard, so they can walk over there. :

I s that her proposal? :

across the street is fine too

You mean the man's supposed to do the traveling?

So if the woman travels to the man, would that give him ample guarantee, or at least a clue that she's serious?

If the invite is serious, why sticking to traditional role models? Let's say, I overcome all my shyness, and invite a certain someone, she would be treated with ample comfort, nice food, etc

The man should travel to a Lady, if he has sincere interest.

Why? Why wouldn't a woman travel to the man if they both had a sincere interest? Suppose she's in a better position to do so... time wise?

Some women do go to the Man. Personal choice.

Let's say many don't and it works for Me. And I am prefectly capeable of travel now too.

Men are the Hunters. Etiquette is they come. :


We disagree there.

Bingo we have a winner.

Been there.
Done that.
Got the combat patch.
Not going to reup. Lol.

Guess I m fortunate to meet men who will travel. Most are on Relationships sites greared to seriously Dating.
I am like 1 out of 10 they already traveled to just to see if it will work into a commitment.

Older with cash. Helps.:

Proper etiquette according to whom?

Some women!

I prefer he show interest that way, especially online men.

I don't agree or disagree with you Toody, I'm merely asking why and questioning your factual like statements. No offense, but you seem to do a lot of generalizing and speaking for the female population and pretty much every subject on how it's supposed to be.

Guess I'm being the devil's advocate and calling you on it. The only one you can really speak for is yourself.

People, both men and women have personal preferences... no particular one is right or wrong, just is! Different cultures have different beliefs... no particular one is right or wrong, just is!

Your way works for you, and that's okay. But that doesn't mean that if another does it different or believes different that they are wrong or not following proper etiquette.

Have a good night Toody

Most responses ,Personsl choices are what people list.

I do know women that feel the same about meeting online men!

I f you or others want to do different have at it Your way.

I 'm not saying their way is wrong but it is not what I do.

Who said I'm speaking for all women! Nope not all some, including me.

Forums are for everyone, topics people don't agree or don't like they don't have to post .

Calling me out not necessary Imho. We don't have to agree. I don't think I said it was Proper or factual statement. But it's mine.

You have a good night too.

Well that escalated quickly.

Okay, maybe I misinterpreted what you were saying, and for that I apologize.

I guess I'm a little sensitive and this thread hit a sore spot with me. And perhaps I'm a little envious.

So far I've not had any men interested in traveling the distance to meet me. I've had one travel a short distance after I traveled part of the way, and that was very nice.

I have had a few express interest in meeting me, but due to work schedules, finances, whatever... they couldn't but if I wanted to go meet them, I was more than welcome to do so.

A part of me totally understands that kind of stuff, but then I read threads like this and it makes me want to cry!

Am I just a gullible fool? I suppose I am!

I have heard others say, including men, that if the woman were really that important, the man would go to them. So am I to take that as meaning I don't really matter to those who have asked me to come visit them, or have said I'm welcome to visit them because they aren't able to?

So I really do owe you an apology Toody my irritability isn't really with you... it's with this whole stinking subject you brought up