Most unsuccessful questions during the first date




Mass blitz-dates, organized by experts, allowed to reveal the best and worst questions for future relationships. 100 people in the age from 22 to 45 years took part in the experiment. Each of them became a participant of five 3-minute dates, and then answered researchers’ question about the way they decide whom to date again later, and whom to avoid.

According to scientists, it was found out, that many women make this decision already during 30 seconds. And such question, as, for example: “Which pizza ingredients you prefer most of all?” was among most successful ones.

Experts say (and it’s not surprising), that a potential partner’s appearance was one of the determinatives.
Another thing is interesting: almost half of representatives of fair sex, who took part in the experiment, made their choice already 30 seconds after the first meeting. Only every fifth man demonstrated such rate.
“The first question is a very important moment, especially when we talk about how quickly a woman makes her decision”, - researchers say. However, they add, both men and women carry out a similar policy here. Nevertheless, important differences were also marked during the research.

“Men asked so-called “closing questions” more often, - scientists say, - i.e. the ones, which imply answers “yes” or “no” and which practically represent an ending of a dialogue. Those, who showed their worth best than others – either man or woman, - chose similar remarks, touching subjects, allowing an interlocutor to tell his story”.

“Questions, which you cannot just answer in the affirmative or negative to, were the best ones, - scientists explain, - such as “Which pizza ingredients do you prefer most?” or “Whom would you like to be, if you could be a celebrity?”

According to experts, the worst phrases were statements, absolutely not disposing to reaction, like “I’m a candidate of computer science” or “My best friend is a helicopterist”. “It’s very difficult to answer to such words in general, not to mention a possibility to choose and interesting answer”, - psychologists note.
They also came to a conclusion, that people, worried by a search of a potential partner, should avoid subjects, which can cause disagreement, - such as a conversation about favorite movies.

“We asked participants touching certain questions, and when they started talking about cinema, a disaster happened at once, people plunged into arguments, - researchers say. – Nobody wanted to meet again after this, as men and women often have absolutely different opinions on films they consider the best”.

“When they changed the subject to travels, it was like a second wind for each of them, and second dates were made more often than not”, - scientists conclude.

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Has anybody here actually tried one of those speed-dating events. I've looked into them, but I can't help but shake the notion that they'll be a lot like online dating services. People will show up claiming they want to meet people but at the end of the evening, I'd have bupkus to show for my time and money.

i think i can add to this topic. there r certain questions i always ask on a date because they r psycological and can tell alot about a person. questions for guys r if they have sisters or how they get along with ther mother because a general statment is that a guy treats his wife the way he treats his mother and having sisters makes a guy more sensitive and respectful twords women. questions to ask a girl r how is her relationship with her father because typicaly it determines how her personal relationships go. an understanding of psycology can make dating so much easier in my opinion- especialy when ur doing those speed dating things